can we talk about

kd.joseph · September 2010

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[QUOTE]day late, dollar short = me.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

It's ok Lala, it's usually my job.

Well the originator of the sight said she did it to teach a lesson. So in their mind they did nothing wrong....maybe. I don't know, I'm guessing.

I never really kept up on it unless someone pointed out specific things,but I did notice that there seemed to be a whole lot of niceness towards SBer's, and hate for Eeners.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-talk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7d7fe192-01da-4761-af89-bce8a32404baPost:8664f7b5-e8ce-4cda-82e3-5f14bec04762">Re: can we talk about</a>:
[QUOTE]I know this is a stretch, but it was said it was created to teach everyone a lesson, maybe the lesson wasn't that you're all mean bitches, but that you can't really take everyone at face value here? That's kinda what I've gotten from thie experience.
Posted by dandan83[/QUOTE]

If you really want to go there, you're in the wrong company.

laladypoet · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-talk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7d7fe192-01da-4761-af89-bce8a32404baPost:8664f7b5-e8ce-4cda-82e3-5f14bec04762">Re: can we talk about</a>:
[QUOTE]I know this is a stretch, but it was said it was created to teach everyone a lesson, maybe the lesson wasn't that you're all mean bitches, but that you can't really take everyone at face value here? That's kinda what I've gotten from thie experience.
Posted by dandan83[/QUOTE]
I don't know if you ever saw the site, but it mentioned how "mean" FFF is, and how the site is a direct response to FFF. so, yeah, what you're saying is a bit of a stretch, since it's not what the callout person said :)

marriedfilingjointly · September 2010

I'm kind of torn. On one hand, if she didn't do it, I'd like to hear/see her say she didn't do it. On the other hand, I know some people would just say she is lying. IDK.

dandan83 · September 2010

Just wanted to throw it out there. Not intending it to offend anyone at all!

And no, I didn't look at the site, all I'm going by is the responses I've read here about it.

dandan83 · September 2010

And to clarify I wasn't calling you mean bitches, that just seems to be what the person who created/the people that posted on it were getting at.

marriedfilingjointly · September 2010

I'm picking up what you are throwing down, dan.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

If she didn't do it, whatever, then I would truly feel bad for her.

But if she did... It kinda pisses me off. I always got along well with her and had no problems with her so it really bugs me that someone I thought was really nice could go and create a negative atmosphere like that, that upset a lot of people on the boards.

Or maybe I'm just a bad judge of character.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

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[QUOTE]And to clarify I wasn't calling you mean bitches, that just seems to be what the person who created/the people that posted on it were getting at.
Posted by dandan83[/QUOTE]

Okay I gotcha now :)

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

Seriously. No lessons were learned. Most of the shitt posted was just mean and vile. The creator shouldn't have posted those callouts, even if she had good intentions.

kd.joseph · September 2010

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[QUOTE]If she didn't do it, whatever, then I would truly feel bad for her. But if she did... It kinda pisses me off. I always got along well with her and had no problems with her so it really bugs me that someone I thought was really nice could go and create a negative atmosphere like that, that upset a lot of people on the boards. Or maybe I'm just a bad judge of character.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

No I felt the same way AATB. I always liked her and got along well with her. I can see where Blue is coming from. So many people here defended her and she never came here to talk to those people.

And I agree with Cew that it's not right to just blame th creator. You also need to blame the people that sent in the call-outs.

dandan83 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : Okay I gotcha now :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I probably could have worded it a little better... lol

Lenore2010 · September 2010

There can be no good intentions in saying it was a good thing someone lost a baby because she would have made a lousy mother anyway. I would not say that about some women I absolutely cannot stand. Wow.

However, I really hope it was not her. She did not seem like "the type" to me but what do any of us really know about people on a message board?

Sad if it is true, sad if it is false and she was accused.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : No I felt the same way AATB. I always liked her and got along well with her. I can see where Blue is coming from. So many people here defended her and she never came here to talk to those people. And I agree with Cew that it's not right to just blame th creator. You also need to blame the people that sent in the call-outs.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I agree with that too. I mean it's one thing to create the site - but it's another thing to encourage it to continue to exist by submitting to it. I don't want to know who sent in any of those mean, nasty callouts. But they certainly weren't helping anything.

Did she get butthurt or something in an FFF thread? Because I honestly can't really even justify the callout site with someone's hate for FFF. Maybe if something seriously bothered or she took a flame just a little too personally. FFF can be a shitstorm sometimes but my God, it's the internet... you need to just let it go.

dandan83 · September 2010

I agree that not all the blame lies with the creator. It also saddens me to think that people would harbor such ill will for a person that they've never even met.

In the end though, the creator chose to post those awful things that were said, so I guess the blames comes right back to the creator...

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

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[QUOTE]There can be no good intentions in saying it was a good thing someone lost a baby because she would have made a lousy mother anyway. I would not say that about some women I absolutely cannot stand. Wow. However, I really hope it was not her. She did not seem like "the type" to me but what do any of us really know about people on a message board? Sad if it is true, sad if it is false and she was accused.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I'm talking about. That is just wrong. I [kinda] understand the creator's intentions. But she should have drawn a line. Many people were very hurt by the callouts and that's incredibly unnecessary.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]If she didn't do it, whatever, then I would truly feel bad for her. But if she did... It kinda pisses me off. I always got along well with her and had no problems with her so it really bugs me that someone I thought was really nice could go and create a negative atmosphere like that, that upset a lot of people on the boards. Or maybe I'm just a bad judge of character.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
wait a minute. weren't you saying on friday that we should all "move on"?

kd.joseph · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-talk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:7d7fe192-01da-4761-af89-bce8a32404baPost:d25ff1ed-ff6d-43a4-add8-f8df7f2b59ff">Re: can we talk about</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : I would want to know. I'd hate to think that i've wasted my time and good intentions on someone that secretly hates me.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

You know I openly love you so there. Sue me!

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-talk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:7d7fe192-01da-4761-af89-bce8a32404baPost:95453d72-93ac-455a-9477-4f86cd509d0e">Re: can we talk about</a>:
[QUOTE]AATB, from friday: I know it's "new information" or whatever but every time someone brings up the callout site it just really bugs me. I don't understand how we can collectively agree that it was a cowardly, bitchy thing to create, and now, that it's been taken down and out of commission for a while - why do we still have to talk about it, or why must we care who created it. I mean really. I just don't see a point. Nutsack. so I gotta ask you, why are you participating in this thread? you suddenly decided not to chastise people for wanting to talk about it?
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I dunno, because I felt like it. Although having to go in circles explaining my loaded feelings about this topic to you is kinda dumb.

JenGin74 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : You know I openly love you so there. Sue me!
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Ditto the love <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

Also, I truly believe that if I did or said something that pissed you off, you'd tell me.

laladypoet · September 2010

I just find it funny that you were so "lah-di-dah" about it before, and basically sniffed at people for talking about it, and now you're "pissed" about it.
maybe you need some kind of weekend retreat to get in touch with your feelings. or maybe, in the future, you shouldn't act like you're better than people because they want to discuss something that you don't.

Nebb · September 2010

Im pretty sure I wouldnt be overly surprised if I found out who thought I was a fat alcoholic who sucks.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I just find it funny that you were so "lah-di-dah" about it before, and basically sniffed at people for talking about it, and now you're "pissed" about it. maybe you need some kind of weekend retreat to get in touch with your feelings. or maybe, in the future, you shouldn't act like you're better than people because they want to discuss something that you don't.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Yeah, okay, maybe.

laladypoet · September 2010

you're in a safe place. it's not your fault.

JenGin74 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I just find it funny that you were so "lah-di-dah" about it before, and basically sniffed at people for talking about it, and now you're "pissed" about it. maybe you need some kind of weekend retreat to get in touch with your feelings. or maybe, in the future, you shouldn't act like you're better than people because they want to discuss something that you don't.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

Eh. I didn't take it as AATB acting like she was better than anyone. I do the same thing. Sometimes I'm in the mood to talk about a subject, sometimes I just don't have the energy. I don't think there's any big conspiracy or anything

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_can-talk-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:7d7fe192-01da-4761-af89-bce8a32404baPost:ee45d753-d991-4987-b849-a177dd72d529">Re: can we talk about</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : It might - but I was saying this last week too - It really wouldn't matter if we found out who did it because there's always going to be someone who isn't around for the big reveal. Like for example MILF, you were gone last week being all happy and married while this crap with future-mrs was going down on Friday. We talked about it then, and - someone mentions it a few days later, people who weren't around go all "Huh? Fill me in!" and then we go round and round. And we talk some more. I don't really see it as closure. But that's just me. If she did or if she didn't - I don't care. There are things that happen around here that some people refuse to put behind them or forget about and as long as we keep talking about it we can't move on.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I don't see a problem with talking about it. I would see a problem with people contributing equally mean callouts on the boards or validating the site. But I want to know who created it and why. I think that's natural and ok.

kd.joseph · September 2010

I've been pissed off on here before, but by no one I talk to frequently. I tend to take the advice of "if you dont get along with someone, or like them dont talk to them". So I tend to not post in thread with people I dont agree with usually.

Plus I hate arguing stuff on here. It never comes across the way you mean it.

JenGin74 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I've been pissed off on here before, but by no one I talk to frequently. I tend to take the advice of "if you dont get along with someone, or like them dont talk to them". So I tend to not post in thread with people I dont agree with usually. Plus I hate arguing stuff on here. It never comes across the way you mean it.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

OMG, tell me about it. I can see how plenty of things I've typed could be taken the wrong way. I'm so much better in person.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: can we talk about : Eh. I didn't take it as AATB acting like she was better than anyone. I do the same thing. Sometimes I'm in the mood to talk about a subject, sometimes I just don't have the energy. I don't think there's any big conspiracy or anything
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]
I didn't say anything about conspiracy. it's not an m. night shymalan movie. I think she was being an asshole on friday, "OMG are we STILL talking about this??! harumph! I'm so over this I can't even deal!" and now, because people want to talk about it, she's changed her tune.
it just seems she suffers from "I don't know what to think"-itis.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

Well, I don't really know what to think. So what? Jeez.

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