3 months after securing our venue/date, my bridesmaid got engaged and chose a date for 2 weeks after our wedding. She asked that I be a bridesmaid prior to them choosing a date and I accepted.
Unfortunately, because of her choice of dates we had to cancel our honeymoon which was going to be 2 weeks long. When I told her that we were supposed to be on our honeymoon during her wedding, she responded by saying "wow, must be nice to be able to afford a 2 week long vacation, isn't that a little long?". Now, her honeymoon is scheduled to be 12 days long and ours has been dropped to 5 days.
In addition, she has complained about financial stuff because she has "her wedding to pay for". She is bailing on participating in my shower or bachelorette parties unless I'm willing to do a "co-shower & co-bacherlorette party" so that dates are convenient for her.
Additionally, we share a group of friends that would be traveling a long distance to attend our weddings and now they have to decide which wedding because they can't do both.
Overall, she has yet to acknowledge that maybe it wasn't smart (for even her own sanity) to not put her wedding 12 days after ours. I'm definitely not the type of bride that thinks my wedding should be life consuming for everyone but I do think for the sake of our shared friends and in consideration of planning stresses, that the date is entirely too close.
BTW, we are getting married on our 6 year anniversary...my bridesmaid chose their date because she might be teaching and that is spring break time...though she will also have the entire summer off and could have planned it for then. I love my bridesmaid dearly and would have never expected this from her...it's just really disappointing. And for the past 5 months A LOT of decisions we've made have been planned around her wedding agenda instead of our own.
I've been super nice throughout the whole thing but the co-showers and money complaining is starting to push me over the edge. Any advice...I deifnitely need it!