Flower Girls

RamonaFlowers · May 2011

And what if the girls just liked having short hair? What if they never shaved their heads but normally kept their hair an inch or 2 long because it was their personal preference? Would you just have not asked them to be in the wedding at all then?

Manwaithiel · May 2011

They. Are. Not. Your. Kids.

No one needed to consult you about ANYTHING.

Please get over yourself.

Ghoti · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6689c8b2-9424-42f8-ad09-97d0aca1ce94">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]Gosh, I was bald from chemo treatments for more than a year. Maybe I shouldn't have attended any social events that year?
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
How very inconsiderate of you! You must've *ruined* their pretty princess day!

vicki0508 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:1b81e789-8627-4430-91bc-1e8dfd036962">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]And what if the girls just liked having short hair? What if they never shaved their heads but normally kept their hair an inch or 2 long because it was their personal preference? Would you just have not asked them to be in the wedding at all then?
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
I'm guessing this would be a resounding "no." Short hair just doesn't fit her vision!

KateyHumbert · May 2011

This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride...

This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this.

So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point.

If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of.

Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with.

Thanks

jemmini6 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride... This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this. So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point. If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of. Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

Ah...little girl needed her big bad FI to fight her battles?

You are BOTH wrong. You are being completely superficial and honestly, assholes. It doesn't matter if they shaved their heads for cancer, or just because they wanted to. Their appearence (including their hair) is NONE of your business outside of their attire.

And no, it's not the brides wedding. It's yours too. And it stops being all about the two of you when you invited anyone else. Just because you are getting married doesn't give you the right to be complete douchewads and expect everyone to put their lives (and charitable causes) on hold for you.

You guys are being selfish and immature. Get over yourselves and be thankful that you have friends that are that caring because you obviously are not.

And BTW...this is all on topic. She was asking how to cover it up, we are telling her not to because that makes her a complete freaking bridezilla.

AdeleDazeem · May 2011

oh my god. I'm shaking my head at both the bride and fiance on this one.

Since everyone else has said it all, I'll just throw in: It's also the groom's day. A wedding isn't all about the bride.

I carried my bridal gown through two airports on my way to our wedding. You know how many people congratulated ME but never looked to my fiance? That killed me. It was his wedding, too.

redheadfsu · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride... This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this. So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point. If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of. Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

FFS.

Who gives a rat's ass how long the kids' hair is? You shouldn't. She doesn't need to do anything. Just dress them as normal. Seriously you both have huge attitudes & may lose friends if you don't calm it down.

No one cares as much about your wedding as you do. Repeat this over & over to each other. This is not a big deal. Do not say or do anything about these kids' hair. Just smile. I love my friends, not how they look. The wedding pictures are not important enough to lose friends over.

Queen Jane · May 2011

You are both ridiculous. No one needs to consult with you about their appearance or any alterations to it. How is it that hard to understand? Because it's been repeated in almost every post in this thread. NO ONE agrees with you, doesn't that say something? Although I do just love the brides comment that had it Bern anyone else at any other time bla bla bla..... Again, get over yourselves.

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride... This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this. So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point. If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of. Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

I really can't believe that you may or may not have chosen these girls based on their hair. Again, they are PEOPLE not props. Perhaps it would best all around (for them) for you to NOT have had FGs.

And it's AISLE.

It's up to the mother to fix their hair unless you and your FI are going to pay to have their hair professionally styled. Quit worrying about it.

vicki0508 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride... This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this. So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point. If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of. Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]
Come on! This is too easy.

People have been giving your fiancee (see what I did there?) plenty of suggestions. Hats, headbands, barrettes, it doesn't matter. People will still think they're cute. And it's in REALLY poor taste that you are so dang fixated on their appreances and how it's going to negatively impact your pictures. It's sad. You should be picking your FGs based on your relationship with them, not the cute factor they are bringing to the wedding.

And there have been PLENTY of posts where we tell brides they may not tell their friends to dye (see that?) their hair, that they can't cover up a BM's tattoos, and that a child shouldn't be exluded for having a broken arm (wasn't there someone who wanted to remove the child because the cast would ruin the pictures?)

Stop being so superficial. It's pathetic. And please don't address this topic with anyone IRL. It's one thing for people on the internet to think you're terrible human beings, it's way worse for your friends and family to see you in this light.

Dferrari17 · May 2011

OP, you should probably just kick the them out of the WP and hire some adorable long haired girls to fill in. Just saying.

Buuuuuut, in all seriousness. They should be your flowergirls because you love them and want them to be a part of your day. I wouldn't replace my neices in my wedding for the world, no matter what they do to their hair or any other part of their body.

akakoli81 · May 2011

I promise you I will answer your actual question BUT based on what you and your bodyguard are saying..you decided on the wedding party based on cute curls for the flower girls and no tattoos for adults. wow. just wow. My bf has a tattoo on her shoulder along with short hair (curly so you would like that part of her appearance) and her tattoo will be *gasp* visible..should i ask her to get it lasered off???

And they are little girls dressed cute for a wedding, they do not need an accessories. Flower girls are adorable regardless. But if you must use them as props then go to target, go in the hair accessories department, and look at the goody brand, they have several flower hair accessories, I just bought one for myself.

And before you complain that no one is answering your actual question, most have but guess what we have opinions about the whole post so put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

I feel bad that these girls have to be in your wp. I picked my flower girls b.c I love them and want them to be part of Eric and my day...same with everyone involved.

stacie+luciano · May 2011

The little girls decided to shave their heads because their mother did so, so I am guessing their mother, or someone they know, has had cancer. My mom has had cancer, it came back twice, and she beat it. If she had gone through chemo, I sure as shiit would have shaved my head because I love my mother that much and I would not want to see her upset.

My Sociology professor lost her daughter at the age of 1 to a brain tumor. She shaved her head. So did her two daughters. They did it in support of a wonderful cause and to raise awareness. If you can't fcking get over that, then you need to really reevaluate your lives and selves.

Others have given you marvelous suggestions. I'm partial to a floral wreath (we have a celebration in April called Fiesta and all the little girls wear these and they are SO cute). Barrettes are cute as well.

In all seriousness, get over yourself.

MyNameIsNot · May 2011

I refuse to believe this is real.

fireytiger · May 2011

Wow, in my vision of my perfect wedding, all of the family and friends that we both love would be in attendance, regardless of what they looked like. Also in my perfect wedding, my great grandma would be there instead of in heaven. You don't always get exactly what you want sweetheart, there are going to be things that go wrong, not everything is going to look absolutely PERFECT. But if you have some semblance of maturity, you aren't going to care the day of that these girls have really short hair. You're going to be focused on marrying the person you love and being surrounded by those who love you.

jemmini6 · May 2011

How many people wanna bet we are going to get another GBCK thread from this? "OMG, I thought I could get help here, but you are all so mean...*runs away crying*"

In anticipation of that: We aren't the ones being mean here. Your intepretation of this whole situation is completely wrong and selfish. Sorry, but we are not going to validate bad ideas (<-understatement in your case). If everyone here thinks you are being completely assinine, that should be a sign that you really are and maybe you should actually take some of these comments into consideration. But you probably won't because you both sound too stubborn and superficial to think that anyone who goes against your 'vision' is the one being wrong...you'll probably never stop to think that maybe you vision is what's wrong here....

RamonaFlowers · May 2011

Do either of you have any clue as to how many men and women have no hair on their own wedding days because they suffer from cancer? How many people miss their own mothers, fathers, siblings, children that cancer took before their wedding? How many people lose their FI's to cancer before they have a chance to walk down the aisle? Or how many people are claimed by cancer before they even get the chance to meet the love of their lives?

I will bet you any amount of money that any single one of those people would gladly trade places with you and your "bald-by-choice" flower girls and not even think twice about it. Stop being so shallow and realize exactly how little perspective you both have!

You are 2 "adults" complaining about how a couple of pictures will look, because 2 small children had the compassion to do something completely selfless for a good cause. You're mad at their mother for not thinking of something as trivial as a pretty princess day when people with real problems needed help? Well, I say kudos to her for having such a big heart and for raising her daughters to be such compassionate people by trying to teach them what is really important in life.

Get over yourselves already.

klroehrs · May 2011

I kind of agree with most of the people posting that it really isn't a big deal and it was for a good cause. But, I have to give the bride credit for turning to other brides for advice rather than going off on someone about it. People tend to get on their high horse at any opportunity. She turned to this for advice and got a scolding. Sheesh, people. My advice is to not worry about it, little girls will be cute no matter what. My flower girls mother has been asking me for my opinion on what headwear my flower girl will wear. It's not unreasonable for you as the bride to have a say in it ...whatever their hair looks like.

Manwaithiel · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:a369fabc-d429-45c4-98fb-02a4c2fdf8ec">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]I kind of agree with most of the people posting that it really isn't a big deal and it was for a good cause. But, I have to give the bride credit for turning to other brides for advice rather than going off on someone about it. People tend to get on their high horse at any opportunity. She turned to this for advice and got a scolding. Sheesh, people. My advice is to not worry about it, little girls will be cute no matter what. My flower girls mother has been asking me for my opinion on what headwear my flower girl will wear. It's not unreasonable for you as the bride to have a say in it ...whatever their hair looks like.
Posted by klroehrs[/QUOTE]

The only person getting on their high horse is you. You sound like someone who has not been affected by cancer at all. I promise you plenty of these posters have. So stop telling them how to post or that they're overreacting. Deadly disease concerns /> OP's concerns about her pictures. I think any decent human being can determine that. So don't be Captain Save a Newb. Everyone had plenty of reason to get upset with her. It's mild compared to her own relative getting pissed at her when she so stupidly brings it up to their mother. It's probably better this way.

mkrupar · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

Katey's FI, if this were the only point to her posting she could have simply asked, "What would you recommend as hair accessories for two little flower girls that only have 1-2 inches of hair." I don't think it was just about that. I think she wanted us to agree with her that it was inappropriate for the mother to let these two girls shave their heads. Otherwise she wouldn't have put that information out there.

Because she put that information out there we have every right to comment on it and tell her that she's being a selfish brat who obviously cares more about her wedding "vision" (that word makes me gag) than the awareness these two little girls bring to the world about cancer.

As someone who has lost family members to cancer that I would love to see on my special day I am offended and apalled at the both of you.

NcsuPsych · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:59edbceb-c224-467d-b96a-7a1a4fbd5e91">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bald Flower Girls : Katey's FI, if this were the only point to her posting she could have simply asked, "What would you recommend as hair accessories for two little flower girls that only have 1-2 inches of hair." I don't think it was just about that. I think she wanted us to agree with her that it was inappropriate for the mother to let these two girls shave their heads. Otherwise she wouldn't have put that information out there. Because she put that information out there we have every right to comment on it and tell her that she's being a selfish brat who obviously cares more about her wedding "vision" (that word makes me gag) than the awareness these two little girls bring to the world about cancer. As someone who has lost family members to cancer that I would love to see on my special day I am offended and apalled at the both of you.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

This 100%

My father recently beat stage 3 colon cancer. I've known others that haven't been so lucky. These little girls were doing something amazing for such a great cause.

I only wish you and your FI had half of the guts/balls/respect/emotion that these two little angels have. Whether it was fully their decision or if they did it simply because their mother did it, that's beside the point. They saw their mom doing something very honorable and so they wanted to follow her example (so I'm assuming).

I'm honestly disgusted by OP and you (the FI). You're wanting to use these childrens as props, which isn't what being apart of the wedding party is about.

Go watch Shallow Hal or something. .geez. . .

Also, OP, you REALLY should fight your own little drama battles instead of having your 'FI' come in here trying to 'save your day'. Part of me however feels that your FI didn't really post that, it was simply your attempt to save face.

My recommendation. Step back from your inital thought of 'OMG THEY CUT THEIR HAIR' and truly look at the reasons behind those actions. Be an adult, a mature adult and stop being a bridezillaurus.

GoodLuckBear14 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:6fea910e-3ae9-4905-b874-06a1afaa44ae">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]This is the Fiancee talking now not the bride... This is not about cancer, We have no issue with the mother coming to the wedding with bald/short hair, these kids will be walking down the isle and be in all the pictures. If they always had short hair it would be normal and we may or may not have asked them to be flower girls but we would not be surprised by this. So I guess nobody in any of your weddings needs to care at all about what you ladies envision for your day? Your bridesmaids can die their hair any color they want and tattoo their face. What if the tattoo was a pink breast cancer ribbon? So basically you are saying a bride has no say at all in what her wedding party wears or how they do their hair? Its a brides wedding, thats the point. If we had kids that were going to be in a wedding there is no way we would make a drastic change in their appearance so close to the wedding if we could help it. (not including accidents or cancer or something like that) That would be very rude and I completely agree with my bride on this one. This is not even about cancer, and we are not trying to be insensative, who know maybe we will donate our hair at some point but it will not be right before someones big day that we are a part of. Can we get back on topic, if you read the OP she was asking for advice/opinions on how to dress up the girls now that there is not much hair to play with. Thanks
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

You two definitely deserve eachother. Asking a question about hair accessories for little girls who only have an inch or two of hair is one thing. Going on a rant about them having the nerve to shave their heads before your wedding in support of beating cancer is quite another.

ETA - I would have loved it if my grandmother could be at my wedding bald or not. It's not possible though. Care to guess why? (Hint...your flowers girls might).

tracipline · May 2011

I think everyone responding to this post is missing the bride's point. I am a best friend of the bride and she is the most compassionate person I have ever met. She is also a nurse. So trust me...she understands what cancer is about. Both her and myself have lost family memebers to cancer and I didn't take her question as being an anti-cancer rant. This situation just caught her by surprise that's all. She is not in any way trying to say that people have to ask her opinion on every little thing. She was merely asking for thoughts of what should be done or if anything even should be done. Please stop attacking people that you don't even know. You can't tell me that it wouldn't have caught you off guard if someone in your wedding party had done the same thing. It was just surprising...she isn't mad just seeking opinions. And speaking of being mature adults...maybe all of you should start acting like them by treating peers with respect instead of by using malicious words on someone you don't even know.

akakoli81 · May 2011

OMG now her friend is posting..lol

I for one am not attacking and even if I was..get over it... I am stating my opinion on how I would be and I gave her a suggestion..like most of the people here until FI made assumptions about what others would do if someone had a tattoo on their face...

And just because she works in the medical field it does not make her compassionate or understanding.

and it was not IF anything should be done.(in her OP) She freaked out about a "situation" and came to a board where there are many personalities and expected it to be rainbows and sunshine.

I honestly think most of the replies were not mean. Some were blunt but some people are BLUNT ...have you read some of the other topics on here..

and Cancer can be a sensitive topic. AND a lot of the "regulars" here are very passionate about what they think because they have been here for a while (either time or post wise)...This is just an observation b.c I am a lurker usually..

but when I see someone being a brat about a nice gesture towards cancer I had to post. Maybe if she had worded it better. Like asked what accessories look good with really short hair bc her fg decided to do a great gesture for cancer..then the responses woul dhave been flowers and butterflies.

NcsuPsych · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:8c49b654-5258-4907-99ec-7d245bb31c4a">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]I think everyone responding to this post is missing the bride's point. I am a best friend of the bride and she is the most compassionate person I have ever met. She is also a nurse. So trust me...she understands what cancer is about. Both her and myself have lost family memebers to cancer and I didn't take her question as being an anti-cancer rant. This situation just caught her by surprise that's all. She is not in any way trying to say that people have to ask her opinion on every little thing. She was merely asking for thoughts of what should be done or if anything even should be done. Please stop attacking people that you don't even know. You can't tell me that it wouldn't have caught you off guard if someone in your wedding party had done the same thing. It was just surprising...she isn't mad just seeking opinions. And speaking of being mature adults...maybe all of you should start acting like them by treating peers with respect instead of by using malicious words on someone you don't even know.
Posted by tracipline[/QUOTE]

OH COME ON. . she's now sending her little minions to defend her? This had got to be mud. . .however, since OP stupidly used her real name. . I have a feeling it's sadly not MUD.

Would the event catch me by surprise? Yes.
Would I try and cover it up and be an snotface about it? NOOOO. I would actually tell the girls how brave and grown up THEY were and how proud I was of them.

Your 'friend' and her 'FI' realllly need to get other themselves.

jemmini6 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:8c49b654-5258-4907-99ec-7d245bb31c4a">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]I think everyone responding to this post is missing the bride's point. I am a best friend of the bride and she is the most compassionate person I have ever met. She is also a nurse. So trust me...she understands what cancer is about. Both her and myself have lost family memebers to cancer and I didn't take her question as being an anti-cancer rant. This situation just caught her by surprise that's all. She is not in any way trying to say that people have to ask her opinion on every little thing. She was merely asking for thoughts of what should be done or if anything even should be done. Please stop attacking people that you don't even know. You can't tell me that it wouldn't have caught you off guard if someone in your wedding party had done the same thing. It was just surprising...she isn't mad just seeking opinions. And speaking of being mature adults...maybe all of you should start acting like them by treating peers with respect instead of by using malicious words on someone you don't even know.
Posted by tracipline[/QUOTE]

Wow...so now she made her friend create a brand new account to come to her defense? Why can't she just get back on herself? OP- you are now just being a coward in addition to being a ridiculous bridezilla....

And no, I wouldn't have been caught off guard. If my FI's cousin told us that her daughter (who is our flower girl) shaved her head for cancer, I wouldn't have gone on some bridezilla tirade about "how dare they not consult me and ruin my vision for my wedding". I would have thought she was such a courageous 5-year-old and probably would have started thinking about some way that I could announce at my wedding what a selfless act she had done....not worry about how to cover it up.

Compassionate or not, the fact that she is upset that no one consulted her about their personal hair choices is the definition of bridezilla. Good cause or not, it's none of her freaking business what ANYONE does with their hair.

OP, OP's FI, and OP's friend...you all need to get over yourselves. Seriously. And you are all making yourselves look bad by getting everyone and their mother to create an account just to defend your superficial request.

Ghoti · May 2011

Multiple personalities anyone??

NcsuPsych · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bald-flower-girls?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:36c9e4bd-e88c-4c68-9107-b6a39a7d4d8bPost:67df2983-984a-4cb1-bd4c-bd456b558251">Re: Bald Flower Girls</a>:
[QUOTE]Multiple personalities anyone??
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

I'm starting to think so.
Captain-Save-A-Bridzilla 'Friend / FI addition'

If I could say what I really think, I'd totally get banned. And, well, OP, you're just not worth getting banned over.

tracipline · May 2011

I'm sorry I wasn't trying to make this conversation worse or look like minions were coming to defend anyone. I created this account a year ago. All I was trying to say is that I think this got skewed into a bad way. These girls did a commendable thing that I wouldn't have the guts to do. I am proud of these little girls too. Cancer sucks. I have lost too many people to it.

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