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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:3296585a-0cf6-4cc3-8e7e-ccb2080cdd1f">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : At this point.....yes, I am creating chaos.   My initial post was simply to share how EXCITED I am.  But after the "not so nice" replies I figured WTF, I might as well run with it.  I don't need validation from anyone to know what my relationship is or where it is going.  But hey, I certainly spiced up your afternoons by making you think I did, didn't I?  
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    It's true! You did!  Thanks for that. :)
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  • lilphillips14lilphillips14 member
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    I'll have to ask BF to spice up my evening in another way, but this is...interesting.
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:3296585a-0cf6-4cc3-8e7e-ccb2080cdd1f">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : At this point.....yes, I am creating chaos.   My initial post was simply to share how EXCITED I am.  But after the "not so nice" replies I figured WTF, I might as well run with it.  I don't need validation from anyone to know what my relationship is or where it is going.  But hey, I certainly spiced up your afternoons by making you think I did, didn't I?  
    Posted by shannon5176[/QUOTE]

    No, you didn't spice up my afternoon. You may think you have riled me up, however you are far from the truth. If I got irritated with every BSC chick that flows through our board..psh, no way... I don't have time for that BS.

    Being excited is fine, if it is valid. You are excited for something that hasn't happened. You are planning for something you haven't gotten. You specifically stated you are waiting for a proposal before you announce, and let everyone know your wedding plans. Have the fun is allowing the ones you care about in on the planning, and helping you. I don't give a rats flying f*ck if you do or do not want validation. What you need is a swift kick in the as$ for being so assanine. You talk in circles.. I swear you have to be a used car salesman or something... you make no logical sense and just oust yourself for being a ridiculous individual.

    If that's how you like to spend your afternoons, by all means.
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    I can't believe that I am about to do this...

    In all fairness to the OP, in her earlier post she never refers to her so as either BF or FI, but we all made the (logical, I feel) conclusion that because she was waiting for the ring that she did not consider herself engaged and that there was no mutual agreement between her and her SO. 
    If there is such an agreement, then she is just engaged w/o a ring and that's ok. The ring is just a 'technacality' at this point, and while I'm sure that getting new bling will be exciting, she's not really 'waiting' to get engaged, she's waiting for a rock.  Because, as the OP agreed, she and SO have an agreement to wed on a set date. He just has to prove it with a ring. 



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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:057b9dda-2715-454a-be1a-6f984a79b78e">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : I think what we have here, is a clear case of a <strong>drama ho</strong>ar. She certainly fits the description of someone who needs attention and creates chaos.
    Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

    *Sigh* Threads like these make me feel like I never left high School....  Oh well.  Good thing the rest of us are sane.  Lets not play with her anymore.  She probably has BSC STD's. 
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:8445674a-7dc8-4faa-8e0b-a358edb0338d">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : *Sigh* Threads like these make me feel like I never left high School....  Oh well.  Good thing the rest of us are sane.  Lets not play with her anymore.  She probably has BSC STD's. 
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    ROFL! Raven, i adore you :)
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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:b111980c-7413-4e9a-81eb-2441936b42a9">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can't believe that I am about to do this... In all fairness to the OP, in her earlier post she never refers to her so as either BF or FI, but we all made the (logical, I feel) conclusion that because she was waiting for the ring that she did not consider herself engaged and that there was no mutual agreement between her and her SO.  If there is such an agreement, then she is just engaged w/o a ring and that's ok. The ring is just a 'technacality' at this point, and while I'm sure that getting new bling will be exciting, she's not really 'waiting' to get engaged, she's waiting for a rock.  Because, as the OP agreed, she and SO have an agreement to wed on a set date. He just has to prove it with a ring. 
    Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]

    As Beth and I said, if it's a secret, I wouldn't call it an engagement.

    Seriously? Who has a secret engagement? Doesn't make a damn bit of sense.
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:8445674a-7dc8-4faa-8e0b-a358edb0338d">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : *Sigh* Threads like these make me feel like I never left high School....  Oh well.  Good thing the rest of us are sane.  Lets not play with her anymore.  She probably has BSC <strong>STD's</strong>. 
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm guessing she's sent the STD's...</div><div>
    </div><div>Oh, you prob meant the dirty kind hunh? ;)</div>



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  • wink0erinwink0erin member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:f0da435f-3e39-47ed-88e7-4a44b8411cbf">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : As Beth and I said, if it's a secret, I wouldn't call it an engagement. Seriously? Who has a secret engagement? Doesn't make a damn bit of sense.
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  • lilphillips14lilphillips14 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:f0da435f-3e39-47ed-88e7-4a44b8411cbf">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : As Beth and I said, if it's a secret, I wouldn't call it an engagement. Seriously? Who has a secret engagement? Doesn't make a damn bit of sense.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    <div>The only thing I can think of when you say "secret engagement" is Phantom of the Opera, and that's only acceptable when you have a psycho yet romantic opera ghost trying to seduce your fiancee into being his forever.</div>
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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    Lennon, I adore you and I have to respectfully disagree, using the quote from previous thread below

    "I do NOT consider myself "officially engaged" until I have the ring.  Although you could probably say we are unofficially engaged considering he has bought the ring and is helping to plan. He's actually VERY involved in the wedding plans and contributing financially.  I am in no way planning behind his back. LOL"

    This being said - she specified that she doesn't consider herself engaged.

    IMHO, she just wants attention because with her friends/family as well as BF's not knowing about the engagement, she isn't getting any wedding attention there.

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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:f0da435f-3e39-47ed-88e7-4a44b8411cbf">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : As Beth and I said, if it's a secret, I wouldn't call it an engagement. Seriously? <strong>Who has a secret engagement?</strong> Doesn't make a damn bit of sense.
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  • SKP82SKP82 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:b111980c-7413-4e9a-81eb-2441936b42a9">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can't believe that I am about to do this... In all fairness to the OP, in her earlier post she never refers to her so as either BF or FI, but we all made the (logical, I feel) conclusion that because she was waiting for the ring that she did not consider herself engaged and that there was no mutual agreement between her and her SO.  If there is such an agreement, then she is just engaged w/o a ring and that's ok. The ring is just a 'technacality' at this point, and while I'm sure that getting new bling will be exciting, she's not really 'waiting' to get engaged, she's waiting for a rock.  Because, as the OP agreed, she and SO have an agreement to wed on a set date. He just has to prove it with a ring. 
    Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]

    But later she did specifically say that she is not engaged and neither of them will consider themselves engaged until the ring.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:0419f78a-e1fd-49c3-8429-01aed677865e">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : No, you didn't spice up my afternoon. You may think you have riled me up, however you are far from the truth. If I got irritated with every BSC chick that flows through our board..psh, no way... I don't have time for that BS. Being excited is fine, if it is valid. You are excited for something that hasn't happened. You are planning for something you haven't gotten. You specifically stated you are waiting for a proposal before you announce, and let everyone know your wedding plans. Have the fun is allowing the ones you care about in on the planning, and helping you. <strong>I don't give a rats flying f*ck if you do or do not want validation. What you need is a swift kick in the as$ for being so assanine. You talk in circles.. I swear you have to be a used car salesman or something... you make no logical sense and just oust yourself for being a ridiculous individual.</strong> If that's how you like to spend your afternoons, by all means.
    Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

    This made me LOL!  <3
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:f0ad3846-ce39-400f-b2d6-f32a19d3ea9b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : Ninjas
    Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]

    <div>This made me lol at my desk :)</div>



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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:801dc519-3866-4076-9d55-1bfe493f5aa2">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : ROFL! Raven, i adore you :)
    Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

    Aw thanks!  I adore you too:) <3 
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    RDR - I love the Brazilian cat!  Hahahahaha.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:871a29a0-1ea7-4b10-8b92-0c1ff9ae27c5">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : This made me LOL!  <3
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    <3 Thanks! :)
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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    Irish, I withdraw my prior 'defense' of the OP, I obviously didn't wade deep enough into the thread. She is, as I feared, totally BSC and I thank you for calling me out. I adore you too :)

    And my condolences to the family of the kitten the OP killed in that post.



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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:41e6d65a-f73a-4969-ad97-caa87c7d933a">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Irish, I withdraw my prior 'defense' of the OP, I obviously didn't wade deep enough into the thread. She is, as I feared, totally BSC and I thank you for calling me out. I adore you too :) And my condolences to the family of the kitten the OP killed in that post.
    Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]

    LOL. No worries. I protect you from the BSCness ^.^ I feel bad for poor kittens :(

    SKP, the troll pic = epic and total win :)
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    And now, running basset hounds!





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    Basset hounds! Wink, this made my day.
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  • SeaTea02SeaTea02
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    Why is this so confusing to people? I don't get it. 

    You determine when you are engaged. No ring or proposal needed. Secret engagements are invalid. 

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  • IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:14f7f713-7dbf-4014-878e-abc10e53e8dc">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why is this so confusing to people? I don't get it.  You determine when you are engaged. No ring or proposal needed. Secret engagements are invalid. 
    Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

    Awesome! :)
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    Hahahaha SKP I just died at that pic
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