Bridesmaids height difference

Birdie1483 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]Not gonna lie, I was annoyed that I was the shortest person at my wedding. And I'm 5"10 and had 3" heels on. My MOH is 6" and wore kitten heels, but that was her choice, not mine
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I would be, but FI's brother is about an inch shorter than me. Bless his heart.

The Mel and Todd Show · December 2010

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[QUOTE]Mel and Todd, are you a fan of David Foster Wallace? I get the feeling you are. Your example reminded me of his SNOOT essay.
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

I've been trying to finish Infinite Jest for a really long time. I feel like a failure for not having completed it yet. I have not read his SNOOT essay, either. Now I feel like a double failure :(

squirrly · December 2010

I had 3 BMs and H had 2 GM. The GM were the shortest people standing up.

mandysmear · December 2010

I am pretty sure I'm still laughing at own's comment.

ohwhynot · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids height difference : I've been trying to finish Infinite Jest for a really long time. I feel like a failure for not having completed it yet. I have not read his SNOOT essay, either. Now I feel like a double failure :(
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]

I haven't even picked up Infinite Jest - I just love his essays. The SNOOT essay is actually called "Authority and American Usage" and it is wonderful. It's not exactly a breeze to read through, but it's awesome. His essay on taking a cruise "A Supposedly Fun Thing That I Will Never Do Again" (or something like that) remains one of my all-time favorite reads. I highly recommend them and I think you can find both of them on the interwebs.

ETA - Mandy, that makes me smile.

garcias1 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]All of my BM's are going to be taller and skinnier than me. The bitches. I should just shove twinkies down their throats!
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

ZOMG me too! I am requiring all of my BMs to gain 25 lbs before the wedding, because no one is skinnier than me on my wedding day, dammit!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

One of my BMs was 5'2". I was certain she'd wear flat, because she NEVER wears heels. Well, she went out and bought a pair of heels for the wedding.

My other BM was 5'8". She ALWAYS wears heels. The wedding was no exception.

So I kind of chuckled after asking them, knowing that one was short and might be in flats, and one was tall and might be even taller. However, my tall BM loves being tall, and she's friends with the shorter BM - their heights, er, don't make a difference. As long as tall BM doesn't mind being a head taller than the others, what's the problem? Personally, I like wearing heels to a wedding, too.

Of course I'm 5'5" and my brother was my bridesman and he's 5'10", so I guess we all evened out, eh?

I have absolutely no idea how tall any of our GMs were. I think one is 5'6". I couldn't have cared less, though.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids height difference : I love you for referencing the Oxford comma. <3 For my sister's wedding, we're all getting boob jobs/reductions so that we can all be the same cup size and one cup size smaller than the bride. ;)
Posted by Jennifer&Nate[/QUOTE]

I'll do you one better. I picked all brunettes for my wedding party. NO HAIR COLOR UPSTAGING OF THE BRIDE.

Jennifer&Nate · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids height difference : I'll do you one better. I picked all brunettes for my wedding party. NO HAIR COLOR UPSTAGING OF THE BRIDE.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]
haha! There was actually a Bridezillas episode where the bride tried to force her sister to color her hair back blonde (it was a light brown) because the rest of the wedding party would have blonde hair and the light brown "didn't look as good" with the dress. :P

graysquirrel · December 2010

This should really be up to her. I understand what you're saying, but 5'7" is NOT all that tall. If she doesn't care about looking too tall, then let her be. Your pics probably wont be everyone all lined up all the time anyway, and if they are, then that is odd.

stinkerbell6879 · December 2010

Really?? I guess I should have told my BM to have surgery cause DAMN she is 6 Ft and I am 5 Ft...hummm....I guess I did it wrong!

nickandmerritt · December 2010

The solution is reallly pretty simple. (I skimmed the comments, so sorry if this has been suggested already.)

So, have all your bridesmaids measure how tall they are with their shoes on and have them send you their meaasurements. Then have stools made (in your wedding colors, natch) of varying heights such that each of your bridesmaids will be the same height when standing on the stools in their shoes. Then add like two or three inches extra to yours just to make sure you stand out.

You will probably need someone to follow the bridal party around carrying the stools and setting them up and making sure they don't get mixed up, because that's going to destroy the whole fucking illusion. But you can probably enlist a few guests to be "stool carriers"--just tell them it's not as dirty as it sounds.

Yeah, I went there with the poop joke.

Robyn5298 · December 2010

Sharoneeee, I agree with other posters that say this really isn't a big deal at all and I'm glad that you realize that. You'll have a much better planning experience if you can let stuff like this go.

That said, if deep down you still think the look of different heights will really bother you, you can always do some photos with some of your girls seated and some standing. In fact I recommend you do that even if the girls were all exactly the same height - the one of me with 2 BMs sitting in front and the other 2 flanking me is my fave shot of us all together.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

This is TOTALLY unrelated but.... nickandmerritt... I heart those shoes.

SparrowSong · December 2010

Just when I think I cannot be amazed over the ridiculous things brides decide to worry about, someone goes and surprises me again. Their height?

LOL. Thanks for the good giggle tonight. : D

IrishBrideND · December 2010

well this is just pure awesome.

You'd freaking love me. I wore heels and I'm already taller than H. THE HORROR

salt78 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]You'd freaking love me. I wore heels and I'm already taller than H. THE HORROR
Posted by IrishBrideND[/QUOTE]

I think that might mean that your marriage is not valid.

Soon2BeMrsTing · December 2010

This question is crazy. There are a full 10" between my shortest and tallest BMs, and they wore whatever shoes they wanted to. My pictures, and my wedding, were not ruined for it.

LowerEastSiiide · December 2010

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[QUOTE] i only brought up the kitten heels with her because i thought it would make her feel less self conscious if she wasn't significantly taller than the others.
Posted by sharoneeee[/QUOTE]

<div>Why would she feel self conscious? Models are tall (and you'd have to be Kate Moss to pull off 5'7 b/c models are taller). I would feel more self conscious if I was a short girl. 5'7 is the perfect height and clothes are made for that height. </div>

smokeybailey · December 2010

I have 4 BM's:

5''0"
5'4"
5'8"
6'1"

I would never ask any of them to wear a specific height of shoe so they were even. I think this is funny that someone even thought of it.

kayakrunhike · December 2010

I didn't bother reading the other three pages of posts, and I won't bother with my original snarky thoughts, since everyone probably said it for me.

OP, I'm 5'9" and I was MOH in my bff's wedding. The bride was 5'2", with maybe another inch or two thrown in with her shoes. Truthfully, nobody noticed when I stood next to her how much taller I was. Don't let this be something you worry about.

lyndausvi · December 2010

This post is hilarious.

Even if she was in barefeet and the other girls wore 4 inch heels she would still be taller. What's a few more inches? I'm fairly certain she is use to over-towering you all. I know I am use to being the taller than most of my friends.

hlq2011 · December 2010

I know I'm late to this but, OP, if you were actually suggesting she wear kitten heels because you were concerned she'd be self-conscious, you wouldn't have come here asking for advice once she said she'd feel more comfortable in high heels.

PenelopeSnuz · December 2010

You make me want to scream.

GET OVER YOURSELF.

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