http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_changing-name-before-marriageI'm just curious. Why would you divorce someone and get back together with them and remarry them and have another wedding to celebrate it? Anyone else find this odd? Usually if a marriage is so bad you need a divorce there are some deal breaker issues that don't get resolved quickly?
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I don't know, maybe they were really young when they were together or something.
My MIL is back with her ex-husband, and has been for years. I have no idea why they haven't gotten married again. I'd be down if they did.
Edit: I agree that having another wedding with the same groom is f'ed up.
But yeah, some people use divorce as a threat when they are fighting and then, 'oops' they actually get one out of spite. At least that is the capacity I have seen this remarriage thing happen under. A whole new wedding is just wack yo'
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To answer the question though, I've known this to happen and they just had a really sweet and simple and short backyard wedding with their kids and close family. They had married at a really young age, had kids, and grew apart. A few years later they decided to get married again.
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When DH and I first met, I "knew" things could develop into something serious, and I actually e-mailed my ex and discussed the possibility of an annulment. Neither one of us ever pursued one, but in that conversation I feel like we released each other in a spiritual way that was different from just getting a divorce.
I don't know if that makes any sense. It sounds weird.
But if ex and I had reunited at any point, we would not have considered having a wedding!!
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I guess now this is. Having a wedding again? nah, I'd say you're restricted to a private religious ceremony, or town hall or I'm giving you a HUGE side eye.
Can you imagine if someone ever registered for this? ooh lawwdy
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[QUOTE]It sounds like the bridezillas episode where the crazy blonde chick was married to the guy and they got divorced and back together and had a huge wedding. I don't know why he married her the first time, and based on her episodes, he's certifiable for doing it again.
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oh yeah. the girl who threw a tantrum at a restaurant because she didnt like her wedding band? it didn't have enough diamonds. ugh.
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she was Ms. H when I was her student (divorced, kept his name). my middle sister got to high school, and she was Mrs. L (remarried to some other dood). then my baby sister got to high school, she was divorced again, and remarried to Mr. H, so she was Mrs. H. again. I never called her Mrs. L, even to her face, she was always Ms. H to me.
but I don't think it is inherently a BAD thing. I think that people divorce too quickly nowadays, and don't just work through their problems. when I hear of this, I think, aww, they worked through their problems and they still love each other and want to commit to each other again. well, hopefully.
I do think it's weird to have a whole big shebang of a wedding again. a small recommitment ceremony with immediate family, sure. but not the big shebang.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Marrying the same guy more than once? : oh yeah. the girl who threw a tantrum at a restaurant because she didnt like her wedding band? it didn't have enough diamonds. ugh.
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Ha, yup! That's the one. My favorite part was when she threw a fake crying fit at the travel agent because the guy didn't want to go on an $8000 each honeymoon.
[QUOTE] but I don't think it is inherently a BAD thing. I think that people divorce too quickly nowadays, and don't just work through their problems. when I hear of this, I think, aww, they worked through their problems and they still love each other and want to commit to each other again. well, hopefully. I do think it's weird to have a whole big shebang of a wedding again. a small recommitment ceremony with immediate family, sure. but not the big shebang.
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I guess I just always thought that divorce was an absolute last resort because I've never known anyone to have a divorce and remain amicable with their ex-spouse. I suppose it depends why you divorced..hmmmm.
I do however think that the only appropriate thing to do in this situation is still a small and very private ceremony. this is right up there with my thoughts on people who get married for the 3 or 4th time with a 24 person wedding party...
My favorite actress is Natalie Wood and she was married to Robert Wagner twice. She claimed that because she was really young the first time (19 I think), it was too hard for them and she just wasn't ready. I can totally see it being just the wrong time in your life. (Tide says when she met her now-H it was just the wrong time in their lives - which is why they got back together later.)
But having another wedding and giving the EXACT same couple gifts again? No. I'd definitely elope on an island or at least courthouse it. If I was invited to a wedding like that, I'd give them the same gift I got them the first time.
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Although I don't think he ever had a second-or third-wedding with the same woman.
Changing your name is a huge PITA. I cannot possibly fathom why someone would want to do this any more than necessary.
[QUOTE]I think that people divorce too quickly nowadays, and don't just work through their problems.
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What is "too quickly?" The few people (including my parents) who I know that decided to get divorced did so after much deliberation. Divorces are costly, time-consuming and draining. I can't imagine anyone rushing to the decision of a divorce.
I also think it's odd to think that people "don't just work through their problems." Generalization, much?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Marrying the same guy more than once? : Ha, yup! That's the one. My favorite part was when she threw a fake crying fit at the travel agent because the guy didn't want to go on an $8000 each honeymoon.
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I remember her! She was the one that smashed the cake at the RD because the groom got someone a birthday cake.
I could not believe that guy married her, not once, but twice.
And yeah I really don't think they should have a whole new wedding. I bet she'll want to have showers and everything.
I also know a couple, I'm friends with the dood, they're the same age as me. we all went to college together. the dood started dating this chick right after he broke up with someone else (she was his rebound). they dated for 2 years, then he proposed because he felt like he had to. they got married in 2008, then announced they were divorcing after a year of marriage because he just didn't care any more and he has admitted to me that he never loved her in the first place. to which my response was, "why the eff did you marry her then?"
and both of my parents are on their 3rd marriages. yep.
so yea, that's the people I get to hang out with. I'm the type that believes that divorce should be a last resort, but I know a LOT of people who don't think the same thing I do.
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