I hate posting normal questions let alone tricky ones because some brides are just rude. My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, he works his tail off but has lots of bills (all of which are above board, no debt) I am a single mom of two girls who was laid off from a 10yr management position...I took the first job I could find in 3 years...McDonalds....I clicked on this post because I too was interested in seeing some answers to it. My dad knew we couldnt afford a real honeymoon so he gave us some money to at least pay for hotel stays along the way home so that we can enjoy some quiet time. I am so thankful for my parents who completely understand my dilema and helped me out....we may be eating off the dollar menu the whole way home but for heavens sake I will get to spend some great time with the man I have been in love with for 19 years. Good Luck OP, I hope that you end up getting at least a small honeymoon regardless of the money you recieve at the wedding.
Like others have said, it's going to vary on so many accounts. Our wedding was in Indiana, and there, it's custom to bring a physical gift to the wedding. Here in Mass, I hear it is custom to bring money. However, we were very surprised as we had very few physical gifts, and lots of cash, checks, and gift cards. Since we traveled for the wedding, a lot of people thought money/gift cards would be much easier for us to get back home with...and we really appreciated that thought because we already had a car full coming home yesterday! We still have a second reception out here next month, and while I'm not "expecting" more gifts, I know we will get some as our friends/family are extremely generous (and cards are still coming in the mail!)We had gifts of anywhere between $25-$1,000. It's impossible to figure an average for any wedding as guests will vary. We even had a couple of people give no gifts, but honestly, I'm just glad they could be there to share our day. Most of those gave a shower gift, though. When we planned our wedding, we were not planning it counting on any money or gifts. If you go into it with low/no expectations, any gifts will seem even more generous. My mom wrote down all of the gifts/money we were given as we opened packages and cards, and was often stunned at how generous people were!ETA: We are not taking a full honeymoon until at least next year, even though our gifts could pay for one. We did take a "mini moon" for a couple of nights in Indianapolis, and spent the rest of our time with my family that lives there (parents, mostly). While a honeymoon would have been nice following the wedding, I love the idea of doing it later. It gives me something to occupy my time, now that wedding planning is over
Wedding gifts are supposed to be wonderful and heartfelt and long-lasting, mirroring the giver's fervent hope that the couple's marriage be wonderful and heartfelt and long-lasting. By inviting these people to your wedding, you've asked your friends and family to be witnesses to your wedding ceremony, and as witnesses, those people are mentors for your marriage. Their gifts represent their acceptance of your request for their mentorship, and their gifts represent their presence in your lives and hearts forever. When you see/use these gifts, you are reminded that you have a circle of people around you as a couple, people who you can call on, people who have pledged their support of you two as a couple.
The following ideas do not match with what a wedding gift is supposed to represent, and in fact, just demand that people give you money instead of a wedding gift: a downpayment registry, a honeymoon registry, a “donation” to your fav charity, a money dance, a money tree, a greenback wedding or shower (where the guests bring cash), a plastic wedding or shower (where the guests bring gift cards), or an outright request for cash.