Ok, I have posted about my situation but I don't think I worded myself correctly because I have been getting unexpected responses. I was married on October 5, 2012 at the courthouse. My then boyfriend and I had planned on getting married sometime in the near future, already buying a house almost a year ago now. We had made plans and dreamed about our big day and the ring was in the works on his end. Working in healthcare, I had a very bad week losing patients and whatnot and I realized I was ready to just be his wife. So with a huge change of plans we decided to buy simple bands and attire and became Mr. and Mrs. We told only immediate family members about this and had a simple dinner after. Being in the wedding business myself, have always dreamt of my big day. Dress, pictures, party, all that jazz. We have decided to have a "wedding day"/"vow renewal" on our one year aniversary. The venue and all the details are very laid back and inexpensive, I just want to have all my family and friends there to celebrate and have a good time together I( didn't get any of this going to the courthouse). I have had several people say that this is a terrible idea, sending me links saying that I don't have a right to a "second wedding", a dress, bridesmaids, photographer, etc. I have already made deposits for the venue, photographer, and purchased a dress. Am I completely crazy thinking I deserve to be a bride and have all my loved ones there with us? I need input now that everyone knows the whole story, torn about if I deserve to be excited about this day next year...