My Maid of Honor, with whom I have been friends since middle school, isn't able to be in my vow renewal ceremony. H and I only had a tiny ceremony for family for financial reasons (we literally paid nothing, as his Aunt married us and we wore business casual in my parents' backyard), so we are renewing our vows on our 1 year anniversary with the big ceremony. I have wedding colors and dresses picked out, but none of them are bought. My Maid of Honor is in the Air Force and said that she can't plan on being in the wedding because of the deployment schedule; she doesn't know if she will be available or not on our date and can't schedule leave during a deployment block. Should I ask one of my other BMs to be MoH or ask another friend to fill in?
Also, one of my BMs said she would be honored to be a BM, but won't reply to my texts or FB messages about BM stuff. I really want her to be a bridesmaid but she's not communicating. What should I do?