I'm the first to admit I didn't know much about etiquette before coming to TK, but in my gut it didn't feel right deciding to go with the open bar for cocktail hour only and cash for the rest. Wasn't sure about +1's and dates and some other stuff. But as soon as I learned better I immediately did what I could to make sure we would be properly hosting. I don't want to offend anyone or be one of the brides talked about on here. I was thankful I learned better before the wedding! But why does it seem like very few others feel this way?
Many of the ladies on Wedding Wire love to go on and on about how rude all of you are and how no one better dare come to the Knot. There have been argument upon argument over proper etiquette and many over there think its a regional thing. Like somehow, cash bars are okay in the Midwest and honeymoon jars are great for poor people! (something I've also seen on here recently, *ahem*). I don't consider etiquette to be regional, am I wrong? At least in the US. Just because something is accepted, it can still be against etiquette. And just because no one says they're offended to your face doesn't mean they aren't talking about you behind your back. But it's YOUR DAY!!!! and you should plan it however YOU want, screw the guests! That's the vibe I get. Even on The Knot's Wedding 911 app. Some military woman wanted to secretly get married and have her PPD later and when I and the 2-3 other etiquette minded people posted about how wrong she was we were attacked. Because those in the military deserve special treatment ya know. *eye roll*
Sorry for the rant, but is etiquette really that foreign to so many? I'm shocked at how many knowingly treat their guests like crap even after learning otherwise. Is etiquette regional? Why is the knot so knowledgeable and everywhere else so..."special"? The other forums are like a trainwreck where you just can't look away.
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!