FMIL wearing ivory

[Deleted User] · June 2013

@Sierra524 She is fully banned.

I'm not familiar with how banned members are notified, but she won't be able to post on our boards.

[Deleted User] · June 2013

This keeps popping up on the main page as having new posts, but I can't see them. I'm confused.

misshart00 · June 2013

Are we in alternate universe TK? The main page keeps saying there are new posts on here (by @KnotPorscha and Stage) but when I click on it, mrsridings post is the last to come up.

MrsMack10612 · June 2013

People really can be clueless. My dad bought me an ivory dress to wear to his second wedding (I was about 12-13). I didn't know it was wrong until I brought it home and my mom told me. Nobody said a word to me. My aunt (Dad's SIL) wore black, but very, intentionally funeral-ly black to the wedding. She WAS making a statement.

krichards0527 · June 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

Unless she purchases an ivory wedding gown, I don't think what the SM (or MOB or MOG) wears should really matter all that much unless it is legitimately inappropriate, like a shirt that says "I hate my stepdaughter!"

My FMIL purchased an ivory & champagne wedding gown from a bridal store to wear on our wedding day- they told her that it was a common 'second wedding' dress. Mermaid style, sweetheart neckline, crystals and beading.. the works. I am less than thrilled about her choice- but I still haven't said a word to her. She made the decision and it is not my place to say anything, as much as I'd love it to speak my mind and accidently light the dress on fire the night before the wedding.

QueerFemme · June 2013

I can't believe NYU finally got banned. I'm sure she'll come back as "IHateMyEvilSM"

rgronke · June 2013

I honestly just don't think she knows, and I don't want her to get the dirty glances and parts of my family will do that. She is the sweetest lady, and I am so glad to be able to call her mom. I'm frustrated because I know she loves the dress and will probably look amazing in it, except the fact that its ivory. Some of my family can be mean and some are just as clueless. She's a wonderful lady and this is minor, but frustrating.

rgronke · June 2013

Wow, did that post go south quickly. I'm glad NYU is banned, because that was ridiculous. I did post a reply somewhere in here, but here it is again. My FMIL is the sweetest lady and I don't want her to get the side eye or be talked about. I'm not worried about her upstaging me, I know no one will mistake her for me. She truly is clueless, and I tried going about it in a very covert way, but she didn't listen. I know I can't say anything more, it just sucks because people can be so mean and I don't want that to be her memory of this day. Here's hoping it goes better than I think it will.

AddieCake · June 2013

@rgronke

I'm so sorry your thread turned into such a shitshow of ugliness! Nobody (hopefully) will say anything to her face about it. If they do, they are incredibly rude.

@RetreadBride

I figure she'll see the comments here and know she was banned, and that's good enough for me.

[Deleted User] · June 2013

test.

OP sorry that the helpful advice got muddled. I haven't received an official reason why this thread closed yesterday, but I am happy to see that it reopened.

32daisies · June 2013

rgronke said:

Wow, did that post go south quickly. I'm glad NYU is banned, because that was ridiculous. I did post a reply somewhere in here, but here it is again. My FMIL is the sweetest lady and I don't want her to get the side eye or be talked about. I'm not worried about her upstaging me, I know no one will mistake her for me. She truly is clueless, and I tried going about it in a very covert way, but she didn't listen. I know I can't say anything more, it just sucks because people can be so mean and I don't want that to be her memory of this day. Here's hoping it goes better than I think it will.

See, now, it's a shame this whole thread got derailed that way, because while you've gotten lots of great advice, it turns out you're concerned about your FMIL's feelings and trying to make sure no one gives her the eye. That's nice of you. You know what? Just make sure to tell her how pretty she looks, and your FH too, and that's all she'll remember, then, you saying that.

rgronke · June 2013

Thank you.

rgronke · June 2013

As far as I know the tags are still on the dress, but ultimately it is what makes her happy. I am just such a rules girl and I thought everyone knew that rule, guess not. Oh well, have big fish to fry than that with only 63 days left.

Peledreamsofrain · June 2013

rgronke said:
As far as I know the tags are still on the dress, but ultimately it is what makes her happy. I am just such a rules girl and I thought everyone knew that rule, guess not. Oh well, have big fish to fry than that with only 63 days left.

Good for you. That positive attitude will keep you sane in the planning process

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