Ok, so I started looking into the idea of setting up a donation jar at the bar to help cover costs and was really surprized to see just how harshly people react to the idea of asking for donations as opposed to having a cash bar or no bar at all. I mean, I understand that its impolite to ask the guests to help pay for the wedding itself, they are guests. But still, as a guest, would you really prefer having no option of drinking alcohol or being forced to pay for any alcohol that you want rather than being given the option of having free alcohol? I guess I just would have expected that the idea of a donation jar would have been more acceptable than a cash bar because you are not forcing your guests to pay for the party, if they don't want to, for whatever reason, they don't have to, but you can still provide them with alcohol and keep it within the budget. Am I really the only person who thinks this way? Just curious.