I have planned my wedding date for October 2014. My dress arrived today and my mother of course was looking all over the packaging trying to figure out what it was. I got it into my room and tried it on, it fit beautifully with some room for me to grow.
I've been delaying telling my mother about the date because she has been critical from my boyfriend from the start, my father likes him as he doesn't hold as superficial standards as my mother does. Of course when she asked I knew there was no hiding it any further (as this dress is massive) so I just went out and told her I had bought a wedding dress. She wanted me to show her and at first she seemed happy enough, she even took a picture to show my dad later... but then it began.
She started first (very rudely) asking when I was planning on getting married, if she was privy to that kind of information, so I just told her that maybe next year. She then began the comments of "you need to get situated first", "you don't need to get married", "I don't want you to marry him, anyone but him". This was enough to almost get me to tell her off but I acted along as if she were joking and went back into my room to put it away. The only other person home was my younger sister, she actually seemed excited about it all and even implied she wanted to be a bridesmaid.
I had been so excited when I seen my dress had arrived and was bouncing when I had tried it on, now I am sitting in my room trying to avoid going back out there at all costs. I know that she is probably excited and happy for me on the inside but on the outside she is really beating me down over this. I don't know how to handle this as my mother and I have never had any serious emotional conversations.
Edit: After I had already posted this I heard her talking to my sister in the living room about low cost wedding bands, so I am assuming this means she is more optimistic about this wedding then she is letting on.