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Do you hate the bouquet toss?
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This is out of pure curiosity, and maybe to decide if I want to do it.
I have been to a lot of weddings over the past few years. 98% of them were with the same circle of friends, so I am seeing the same people at most of them.
I have noticed that all my girl friends seem to hate the bouquet toss. In addition, a lot of girls who were at these weddings that I didn't know seem to also not favor the the bouquet toss.Yet movies make it seem like all girls are dying to catch the bouquet. (I know, I know it is totally a great idea to expect everything to be like the movies).
Anyway, just out of curiosity, what have you noticed about the big bouquet toss? Do your friends seem to love it or hate it?
My observations make me weary of doing it at mine, especially since there will not be many single ladies.
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Re: Do you hate the bouquet toss?
I'm not having a bouquet at all, so there's nothing for me to throw. I also won't be wearing a garter, so there's nothing for FI to throw either. We're having a small wedding, just family and some close friends, and pretty much everyone on our guest list is already married, so we wouldn't have anyone to throw things to anyway.
I didn't have a bouquet toss because I was only having 3 single ladies at my wedding. THAT would have really singled them out, which I felt was unfair to them.
I won't be doing any toss. I am older and most of my friends are married.
I was dragged up there by the bride at the last wedding I attended. I hated every moment of it.
I will say I hate the garter toss infinitely more. So awkward/uncomfortable.
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I dont like them. No need to advertise that someone is sinlge. And there is always that super competitive girl who is willing to knock people out of the way to catch it.
Can I tell a story? I was at a wedding this past weekend. Bride went to go do her bouquet toss. all the single girls were on the dance floor waiting to catch it. But the bride over threw it and the bouquet landed behind the head table. So super competitive/ drunk girl gets down on her hands and knees (in a very short dress) and crawls under the table to get the bouquet. While she is crawling her dress comes up over her hips and her thong/ butt is hanging out for the whole wedding to see. There was a collective gasp from all wedding guests. But she got the bouquet, so I guess she is the next to get married? End of story.
It's ridiculous when brides try to force their family and friends to participate, especially when their friends are not actually single! I have had people try to make me participate right in front of my now FI; "Get up there, you're not married, you are still single!" To which I said, "Oh really? Then who the fuck is this (points to FI)?!" and then got up and went to the bar.
And I really despise it when coupled with the garter retrieval and toss, when the couples make the guy who caught the garter dance with the girl who caught the bouquet. And the worst of all is when couples make the guy who caught the garter put it on the girl who caught the bouquet- ick!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Team hate. Loathe it. I caught it once by accident (I literally stuck my hand up and looked the other way, not trying to catch it at all, and it landed in my hand) and it was the most awkward thing ever. My friends all hate it and everyone rolls their eyes when people do it. Usually it's some random family member trying to drag people up.
We're not doing that or the garter. In fact, I'm not wearing a garter. Just don't see the point.
I like it, to me its just says wedding. And yes I went to a wedding this past Aug and I was the only one over the age of 12 who was standing for it, I felt a little silly but played along with it.
It's all personal preference, if you know you have a lot of 'single ladies' who like it coming then do it.
Hate it, not doing it.