May I rant?
My Maid of Honor is my little sister. It's a family tradition that a sister becomes the maid of honor, and I've always felt this was right since I was a kid, plus it makes it easier to not choose between best friends. She says she doesn't want to be "overly involved" and the vibe I'm getting from her is she has a lot on her plate, and also that she doesn't want to be involved at all. And she lives in a different part of the country right now.
She also gave me this whole "you need to know that weddings are stressful" speech via text right after I asked for her help. (I was thinking, yeah, I know that already!). It was really rude. I've been polite and after I asked for her involvement and got the rude response, told her she can be as involved or uninvolved as she wants to be, because I was understanding of the circumstance. But I'm starting to think she is too young and not a reliable person to be my MOH now or even later.
For me, it's about fulfilling fairness. I've had my other bridesmaids step up to the plate and show pure excitement. One of my best friends is really good at event organization (the logistics). And I really would rather her be my maid of honor. She's been by my side since the day I got engaged. Plus she's met my husband-to-be, and they get along great. My sister has never met him (due to travel issues).
My fiancé is making his best friend Best Man, and he has a younger brother too. But they don't have the same custom in their family.
Has anyone ever had a sister-MOH dilemma? Or can anyone please offer some advice?