A little background: Cousin is getting married at the end of January, and unfortunately, his wedding occurs over the same weekend of my annual corporate kickoff for my job. It is mandatory that I attend my kickoff meetings, and I've not ever been close to this cousin, he's 14 years younger than me, has lived in Florida his whole life, and I live in Michigan. I've seen him about a dozen times in my life, in my estimation. Nice guy, we just live far apart, don't have much in common.
About 2 months ago, my mom called and asked both me and my sister if we were going to be able to attend the wedding in Florida. I told her 'probably not' because of my work obligations, and my sister declined for financial reasons. My mom said that our Aunt, the mother of the groom, understood and was sorry we likely couldn't make it. I asked where they are registered and my sister and I had planned to buy a gift together and send it down prior to the wedding.
Just yesterday, my mom called and said, 'Did you get invited to Cousin's wedding?' And I said, 'I haven't seen an invitation yet.' And she said, 'Well, they decided not to invite you and Sister because you said you couldn't come.' What??? H and I got married this past summer, and we knew ahead of time that most of Mom's family wouldn't be attending for various reasons, but they all still got an invitation because we wanted them there. But, whatever.
So Sister and I are debating... Do we still send a gift? I'm not sure if Mom told Aunt that we were planning to do so. I think it's a little tacky that we weren't invited, but at the end of the day, I really don't care. So tell us, gift or no gift?