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What would you do with wedding band? *ETA description*

edited December 2013 in Chit Chat
DH didn't buy a matching wedding band with the E-ring, so I just bought an eternity band. It doesn't match the E-ring and has a gap. I thought I was ok with it, but after I wore it a couple times, I didn't like the way it looked and the diamond all around it made washing my hands and face uncomfortable. I don't like having to take them off all the time. So I put the wedding band away and just wear my E-ring. What would you do with the band if you were in this situation?

What would you do with wedding band? 33 votes

Keep it, wear it every so often
9% 3 votes
Take it to be set in a different way
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Sell it and buy something else.
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SS
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Re: What would you do with wedding band? *ETA description*

  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 Home of SB XLVIII Champs member
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    Is there a back story to this?

    I am confused?

     

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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches the Northern Plains member
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    I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
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    I vote SS -- Can you just switch off wearing them?

     

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  • arrippaarrippa Sam Adams Craft Commonwealth member
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    I couldn't imagine having a wedding band that I didn't like wearing. I would try to return/sell it for something else.

  • I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
    I don't think it would bother him, he's more invested in the e-ring since he took the time to pick it out. But I don't know, is it bad juju to sell the ring you used for your vows?



  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 Home of SB XLVIII Champs member
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    LuvBird29 said:
    I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
    I don't think it would bother him, he's more invested in the e-ring since he took the time to pick it out. But I don't know, is it bad juju to sell the ring you used for your vows?
    Seriously? I don't believe in "juju" but if the ring is sentimental to you for that reason..the I wouldn't recommend selling or returning it.
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  • I vote SS -- Can you just switch off wearing them?

     

    I could, but I really love my e-ring. And I'm not a big fan of the eternity ring. It's king of uncomfortable. 



  • Could you have them soldered together so that they fit together without spinning?
    It's not the spinning that's annoying. It's actually the diamonds going all around. It's more of a nuisance than I thought it would be.



  • LuvBird29 said:
    I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
    I don't think it would bother him, he's more invested in the e-ring since he took the time to pick it out. But I don't know, is it bad juju to sell the ring you used for your vows?
    Seriously? I don't believe in "juju" but if the ring is sentimental to you for that reason..the I wouldn't recommend selling or returning it.
    LOL, I don't know I guess I don't really either. I think it's more of the sentimental factor. But if I don't wear it, whats the point in having it I guess?



  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    My e-ring is pretty wide and none of the weddings bands looked right.  So I wear my diamond wedding band on my right hand and the e-ring on the left.   






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  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 Home of SB XLVIII Champs member
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    LuvBird29 said:
    LuvBird29 said:
    I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
    I don't think it would bother him, he's more invested in the e-ring since he took the time to pick it out. But I don't know, is it bad juju to sell the ring you used for your vows?
    Seriously? I don't believe in "juju" but if the ring is sentimental to you for that reason..the I wouldn't recommend selling or returning it.
    LOL, I don't know I guess I don't really either. I think it's more of the sentimental factor. But if I don't wear it, whats the point in having it I guess?

    I have jewelry I don't always wear but I keep because it does mean something to me
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  • LuvBird29 said:
    LuvBird29 said:
    I'd wear it for special occasions. But if you really don't like the way it looks, why not talk to your DH about selling it for something else? Unless you think it would bother him.
    I don't think it would bother him, he's more invested in the e-ring since he took the time to pick it out. But I don't know, is it bad juju to sell the ring you used for your vows?
    Seriously? I don't believe in "juju" but if the ring is sentimental to you for that reason..the I wouldn't recommend selling or returning it.
    LOL, I don't know I guess I don't really either. I think it's more of the sentimental factor. But if I don't wear it, whats the point in having it I guess?

    I have jewelry I don't always wear but I keep because it does mean something to me
    Oh I do too, he gave me a gorgeous amethyst ring I don't wear too often anymore. I guess what I am saying is that I probably will never wear it again, so I should either sell it or spend more money on it to be reset in something other than an eternity band. 



  • LuvBird29 said:
    Could you have them soldered together so that they fit together without spinning?
    It's not the spinning that's annoying. It's actually the diamonds going all around. It's more of a nuisance than I thought it would be.
    That's the reason that I ended up getting one with just diamonds on the top of the ring. Someone had also warned me that people frequently lose diamonds because the ring will get worn on the palm side.
    Yes, I had heard other womens dislike for that type of ring too. I just thought that was what I wanted. I only wore it for about a week after the wedding. 



  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    LuvBird29 said:
    LuvBird29 said:
    Could you have them soldered together so that they fit together without spinning?
    It's not the spinning that's annoying. It's actually the diamonds going all around. It's more of a nuisance than I thought it would be.
    That's the reason that I ended up getting one with just diamonds on the top of the ring. Someone had also warned me that people frequently lose diamonds because the ring will get worn on the palm side.
    Yes, I had heard other womens dislike for that type of ring too. I just thought that was what I wanted. I only wore it for about a week after the wedding. 
    Well could you take your eternity ring and have only half the diamonds reset into another band?  That way it would be more comfortable for you.  Then you could either save the other diamonds for another piece of jewelry or sell them.

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  • SwazzleSwazzle New Jersey member
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    Could you wear this wedding band as a right-hand ring (everyday or on occasion) and get something that sits better and is more comfortable to wear with your e-ring?



  • LuvBird29 said:
    LuvBird29 said:
    Could you have them soldered together so that they fit together without spinning?
    It's not the spinning that's annoying. It's actually the diamonds going all around. It's more of a nuisance than I thought it would be.
    That's the reason that I ended up getting one with just diamonds on the top of the ring. Someone had also warned me that people frequently lose diamonds because the ring will get worn on the palm side.
    Yes, I had heard other womens dislike for that type of ring too. I just thought that was what I wanted. I only wore it for about a week after the wedding. 
    Well could you take your eternity ring and have only half the diamonds reset into another band?  That way it would be more comfortable for you.  Then you could either save the other diamonds for another piece of jewelry or sell them.
    Thanks Maggie, that might work too. I should just talk to a jeweler and see what can be done.



  • Yeah, I'd talk to a jeweler about getting the ring modified, or exchange it for a new ring. I have a channel-set wedding ring that doesn't go all around, and I can imagine how uncomfortable it'd be if it did!
  • chibiyuichibiyui The Boring Part of MD member
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    I was am still kinda planning on wearing my e ring on my right, wedding band on the left.

    But if its uncomfortable I'd sell it and get something you like.
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  • I don't believe in juju, but I wouldn't be able to sell it. I'd keep it and buy a plain band for everyday wear, and then wear this one on special occasions.
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  • Ven&RadioVen&Radio member
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    Ditto Maggie's suggestion of having the stones re-set as a semi-eternity ring.  My wedding band is like this (basically there are diamonds across the top of my finger but none between/under -- it's very comfortable, even if it spins a little). 

    Alternately, you could wear it on a necklace.

    ETA- my band is chanel-set (like this: http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51obpiuZ3EL._SY575_.jpg) , which I think contributes to the comfort.  I didn't see any specifics about how your band is set.  Prong-set (like this http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/31ccQXk76HL.jpg) eternity bands never looked comfortable to me
  • My jeweler recommended a half eternity band for the comfort factor and so the diamonds don't get beat up. If you're not happy with it I would just exchange it for something you like and will wear.
  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    I like the idea of getting the diamonds reset into 2 half eternity bands. That's what I have (I liked the look better).
  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    Picture of two half eternity bands.
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  • I like the idea of getting them reset into half-eternity bands like @misshart00
  • Picture of two half eternity bands.
    That looks pretty, I'm going to see how much that would cost. Thanks!



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  • What is SS?

  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches the Northern Plains member
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    SS = Special Snowflake, @lovesclimbing. Here, an answer that doesn't fit into any of the poll options.
  • My DH wedding band was too big (and titanium, so no re-sizing) so we bought him a new one. When we got the new one I told him I was going to sell the old one and he threw a big fit because "this is the one we got married with". Needless to say, we will be keeping the old one as well. If you do plan on selling it, you should talk with him and make sure he's okay with it.
  • SS = Special Snowflake, @lovesclimbing. Here, an answer that doesn't fit into any of the poll options.
    Oh.  I normally know what that is in posting, but didn't get the connection here.  Thanks!

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