Why do people get so stressed out by planning
I got engaged in October and we're getting married next Sept. Not to sound like a know it all or anything because I'm certainly not but I found booking things so easy. This past month we booked the venue, same site for ceremony & reception and it was the only one we looked at. They handle the food and coordinator so those are done. I called a JOP from their recommendation list and she's booked. I did a telephone interview with 3 DJ's and booked one after meeting in person. I did a telephone interview with 3 photographers and booked one. I went to one dress store and bought/ordered my dress. I did save the dates from Walgreen's photo center and already mailed them. The honeymoon is booked. I have bought 75% of what I need for the centerpieces, guest book, card box. I don't know if I'm just better at making snap decisions than others but I really don't see what's so stressful about it?
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Re: Why do people get so stressed out by planning
Ok- maybe my question which I indirectly asked is What stressed you out? Why did you have troule chosing something, or did something happen last minute that made it stressful that I should watch out for?Also, DIY projects can get intense. You look at a napkin ring or a placecard and think "I can make that easily!" and then 100 of them later you're going "EFF THIS I NEED WINE".
Planning out wedding rarely stressed me out. I only got stressed when my mom turned into a momzilla.
I think most people get stressed out about financial issues and family drama. (since this is what 80% of TK treads are related to)
Ah now I have words for this...
So far dress shopping was a bit of a stresser but this is because it just took a bit more shopping than I planned to locate a dress. It also included an awful experience at David's Bridal which really bummed me out on wedding dress shopping. I am usually really decisive but when it comes to clothes on my bod things don't always work the way I want them to work.
I also had some issues with people inviting themselves to the event without my guest list even being completed. That was not as stressful as it was unexpected. Dealt with that by bean dipping around the wedding plans.
Unfortunately finding time to take care of everything can be stressful for me. There just are not enough hours in the day sometimes. There are days I'm on the go until I hit the sheets at midnight only to get up at 5am but that's life.
My least stress has been finding the food and venue. That was ridiculously easy for us and I was so happy it was my first thing done. Now that I have my dress and centerpieces everything is falling into place again.
The most stressful part for me so far was finding a venue in the DC metro area that wasn't too far from the city, didn't cost a first born child and was big enough to hold 200 people. We had to look at dozens of places before settling on one. Then there's the budget. My fiance and I had a hard time coming to an agreement on how much to spend and everything in this area is so expensive that it's hard to avoid spending a fortune even on a low key wedding. We're also struggling to keep the guest count to 200 because his mother keeps sending us additional family members that have to get an invitation. His family is huge so if we invite everyone our guest count could easily exceed 300. We're only about mid way through the planning process so who knows what awaits us.
Family is one of the most important things to me and I want them all to be there (from both sides)...I guess I just never counted out how MANY there really are!
But we're all good and on track now and I'm super excited. So all well that ends well!
Everything else has been super easy and has fallen into place: venue, caterer, baker, dress, photographer...so fingers crossed for the future decisions!
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-FI is changing jobs next year. Details of the new job haven't been finalized yet, and we're waiting on the contract. Bottom line is we don't know how much leave he'll be able to take and when.
-Managing expectations of others and setting boundaries. Many of our family members have dreamed of this day, and definitely have high (and very differing) expectations. Unfortunately, some of our relatives seem to think that DJs, full open bars, and fancy food are necessities. There's only so much bean dipping you can do before people start to feel excluded.
-Budget. I live in a major metropolitan area, where everything is very expensive. When a reception room rental starts at $2K and the church rental starts at $1K, a third of my budget is already gone without properly hosting my guests. We've already decided to have a small wedding, the next way to make it smaller would be to invite immediate family only.
Also, figuring out who to invite, who is in the bridal party, it's all been stressful.