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ccvasquez
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Ring engravings
We purchased my wedding ring first. I did not choose any engravings on my ring on purpose. He is still deciding on his ring, and will place his order tomorrow. He wanted a specific phrase engraved on his ring. We got a call from the jeweler saying that they engraved my ring with his phrase. The jeweler said it was traditional for the groom to say what to engrave on the bride's ring and for the bride to say what to engrave on the groom's ring. I have never heard of this before. I feel like if this was the case, that they should have told me that when I ordered my ring. Should I be surprised? Am I wrong in thinking they should have warned me?
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Re: Ring engravings
I was confused too. The jeweler engraved the wrong ring. He will make it all good.
So if I buy a ring and not ask about engraving, that should tell the jeweler something, right?
It's not like I needed to specifically say "by the way, no engraving on this ring."
We discussed it before going to the store. I knew he'd want at least the date so that he wouldnot forget his anniversary. He also knew that I did not want anything engraved on mine. So, it was not like he wanted to surprise me with a message on my ring. When he found out about the mistake,he was so apologetic and asked the jeweler to call me and make it right.
I had never heard of this before, so I was incredibly confused and frustrated at the situation. It is as you say a tradition, one was unknown to me at the time. Thanks for helping me realize I am not crazy, and perhaps overreacted a bit.
As an afterthought, it seems that it would be beneficial for the jeweler to educate all customers on this and tell them about it a the time the couple purchases rings. There may be some like us that have no idea about this, and might be open to it. Perhaps I would have considered it, but I am so put off by the whole thing, that I don't think I would go back to get it engraved later.