I’ve posted quite a bit about a wedding that I’m in the
month before mine. The bride is a dear friend but has become increasingly
selfish. She started out strong, asking our budgets before choosing BM dresses,
but since then it has gone downhill.
Snapshot of her wedding: no chairs for the ceremony, telling guests how
to dress/what shoes to wear on their website, asking for money/gift cards on
their site, sending invites out 14+ weeks out “to get a good idea of who can
for sure make it”, registry info on the invites, etc.
Today, the MOH – the bride’s sister, told us all via facebook
that the bachelorette “party” would be next month and it consists of a full
weekend away – hotel costs for 2 nights, ferry costs (Catalina), spa
appointments, Sunday brunch, dinners out, and outdoor excursions. Travel and Hotel alone are $200 and she
couldn't give any figures as to how much the rest of the weekend would cost. I’m
a full time college student and have my own wedding in 3 months (YAY!). I
refuse to feel bad that I can’t afford to “give the bride what she deserves”. I gently but firmly said the costs, as
ambiguous as they are, were simply too much for me, and felt relieved as soon
as I did. But what angers me the most,
is that the bride has been talking about a weekend getaway for months, when 2
of the bridesmaids will be 7 months pregnant next month. When I first said that I would be unable to
do so, the preggos chimed in and said it was pretty unrealistic for them and
yet the remaining few are insistent that this is what the bride wants so this
is what THEY are doing.
Are people just not decent and thoughtful anymore? (Oh, and
we need to give her the money NOW and there’s no refunds!)
****Update****
So now the bride is involved in the facebook group, no more "surprise" so "she can decide what she wants to do". My first thought was, "oh good, this madness will end and she will realize how excessive this is!". WRONG. Bride's response to high hotel costs - rent a beach house for the weekend so "everyone can be together" - and its 2x the cost of the hotel rooms (still more expensive than 2 hotel rooms when splitting it among the few girls who are able to go). She's now posting links to rentals and rating which ones she likes more. I think I may have the flu that weekend....