Throwing a Bridal Shower?

dannymaymorris · March 2014

Let me see if I have this correct, a bride cannot throw her own bridal shower, nor can she ask someone else to throw it for her? Am I the only bride out there that thinks these "rules" are total crap? I keep hearing "a bridal shower is not a right" and "if no-one offers then you just go without". Maybe I'm a narcissist, but I want one! And I do feel entitled to one! Why would it be so bad for me to throw my own? Because I'll look "gift-grabby"? How is it any different than having a wedding? You pay for a party and some people bring gifts. (It's also the same as throwing a birthday party for yourself.) I understand that there is etiquette, but is it really THAT bad if I throw my own shower? And really, I'm not concerned about gifts - I just want to play the ridiculous party games with my fiancé (Jack and Jill Wedding Shower) and drink mimosas.

SJM7538 · March 2014

It is very different from having a wedding. The point in the wedding is for guests to watch you and your fiancé commit your lives to one another and then the reception is a thank you to your guests for attending the ceremony. And while most guests will bring gifts to the wedding they are optional.

The whole point in the bridal shower is to give gifts. So yes when you throw yourself a shower you're basically saying "look at me! bring me gifts!" And FWIW It's pretty tacky to throw your own birthday party as well. If you want to play ridulous games and drink mimosas with your fiancé then plan a BBQ or a party that involves ridiculous games and mimosas but it should not be called a bridal shower or be in any way related to you wedding.

And I'm sorry but feeling that you are entitled to a giant party where people shower you with gifts is a very unattractive attitude to have.

happywiggle · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

Let me see if I have this correct, a bride cannot throw her own bridal shower, nor can she ask someone else to throw it for her? Am I the only bride out there that thinks these "rules" are total crap? I keep hearing "a bridal shower is not a right" and "if no-one offers then you just go without". Maybe I'm a narcissist, but I want one! And I do feel entitled to one! Why would it be so bad for me to throw my own? Because I'll look "gift-grabby"? How is it any different than having a wedding? You pay for a party and some people bring gifts. (It's also the same as throwing a birthday party for yourself.) I understand that there is etiquette, but is it really THAT bad if I throw my own shower? And really, I'm not concerned about gifts - I just want to play the ridiculous party games with my fiancé (Jack and Jill Wedding Shower) and drink mimosas.

QFP.

I have a feeling that this will be necessary

AddieCake · March 2014

Yes, it's that bad if you throw your own shower. Throwing your own gift-giving event is in poor taste. Yes, many, even most, people give gifts at a wedding, but it is not required. At a shower, however, the entire POINT is to shower the couple with gifts. That's why it's called a shower.

MobKaz · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

Let me see if I have this correct, a bride cannot throw her own bridal shower, nor can she ask someone else to throw it for her? (Correct) Am I the only bride out there that thinks these "rules" are total crap? (One can only hope so.) I keep hearing "a bridal shower is not a right" and "if no-one offers then you just go without". Maybe I'm a narcissist, but I want one! And I do feel entitled to one! Why would it be so bad for me to throw my own? Because I'll look "gift-grabby"? How is it any different than having a wedding? You pay for a party and some people bring gifts. (It's also the same as throwing a birthday party for yourself.) I understand that there is etiquette, but is it really THAT bad if I throw my own shower? And really, I'm not concerned about gifts - I just want to play the ridiculous party games with my fiancé (Jack and Jill Wedding Shower) and drink mimosas.

Invite friends over on a Friday night for game night. Serve mimosas. You get what you want.

RebeccaFlower · March 2014

Do you really not care that people will talk shit about you since you're being so rude?

emmyg65 · March 2014

Have a get together at your house with mimosas. Play the games if you insist. But don't call it a shower, or really anything wedding-related.

mellyD2014 · March 2014

There's nothing wrong with wanting a shower - I want a shower! I'd love a shower! And I would hope that someone in my friends or family would be so gracious to throw me one. The difference, though, is that I know it's no one's responsibility to throw me one and if no one does, while I'll be bummed, I certainly won't be upset.

The difference is in the expectation. I'd love one, but I do not expect one.

themuffinman16 · March 2014

Personally, i think the hosting your shower and hosting your own wedding are the same thing. Etiquette is only okay with hosting your own wedding because they know most couples pay for their own weddings, nowadays. If etiquette weren't okay with hosting your own wedding reception, very few people would have large scale weddings. I am not hosting my own shower, but I still find this double standard a little ridiculous. But with all things related to etiquette, you have to follow them, whether you agree with them, or not. You don't want other people being horribly offended, even though you're not.

MGP · March 2014

It's time for a Shower Planning 101 sticky. I would be happy to draft one up.

AroundTheBlock · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

Let me see if I have this correct, a bride cannot throw her own bridal shower, nor can she ask someone else to throw it for her? Am I the only bride out there that thinks these "rules" are total crap? I keep hearing "a bridal shower is not a right" and "if no-one offers then you just go without". Maybe I'm a narcissist, but I want one! And I do feel entitled to one! Why would it be so bad for me to throw my own? Because I'll look "gift-grabby"? How is it any different than having a wedding? You pay for a party and some people bring gifts. (It's also the same as throwing a birthday party for yourself.) I understand that there is etiquette, but is it really THAT bad if I throw my own shower? And really, I'm not concerned about gifts - I just want to play the ridiculous party games with my fiancé (Jack and Jill Wedding Shower) and drink mimosas.

There is a common mistaken belief, that "wedding gifts" are associated with being invited to a "wedding reception" -- and it is, I am afraid, a rather vulgar association. Try to think in terms of any wedding gifts you receive as being associated with people's love for you and their excitement over the big change you are making in the way you participate in society. They would give you those gifts whether you were throwing a party or not -- and to reinforce that idea, they really ought to be sending their gifts to your home. Packages should never be brought to any sort of formal party -- for a number of good practical reasons, but also for the social reason that bringing packages to a party has the appearance of trying to pay off your hostess for her hospitality, which is a rather ugly thought.

Showers, on the other hand, are held for the express purpose of "showering" the bride with gifts -- that is why throwing your own shower, or stage-managing the throwing of your own shower, or having a close relative throw you a shower, are all forbidden by etiquette: it would make you look bad; it would make you seem mercenary, materialistic and greedy. It is the only party where a guests should never attend without bringing a gift.

And there is no need to make yourself look bad in that way: you say yourself it is not about the gifts, but about the fun and sharing of silly games. So, invite people over for an afternoon of silly games and mimosas. Offering hospitality is a generous virtue (despite the various made-up proscriptions against throwing parties that seem designed to suppress people's hospitable impulses in the name of etiquette -- when building community and increasing hospitality is the very essence of good social manners.)

Since you should never throw a party in your own honour -- even birthday parties and wedding receptions come under this rule -- throw your "afternoon tea" or "wedding-nerves fun-night" or whatever you choose to call it, in honour of your guests. Do not call it a "shower" so that you do not give the impression that gifts are required. Serve mimosas and play silly games. Focus on the way your guests have stood by you, or the role they have had in introducing you and your fiance or in supporting your relationship. Thank them for putting up with you while you go through the typical bride's wedding-planning obsession. Introduce them to one another, offer them chairs, pass them the platter of angels-on-horseback: do all the things that a gracious hostess does for her guests. And have a lovely time.

I hope you may have a beautiful wedding and a long and happy marriage -- filled with opportunities to practice hospitality by throwing similar fun and non-self-serving events!

And I hope one of those friends steps up and throws you a shower when you are least expecting it ... but that is out of both of our control.

dolewhipper · March 2014

themuffinman16 said:

Personally, i think the hosting your shower and hosting your own wedding are the same thing. Etiquette is only okay with hosting your own wedding because they know most couples pay for their own weddings, nowadays. If etiquette weren't okay with hosting your own wedding reception, very few people would have large scale weddings. I am not hosting my own shower, but I still find this double standard a little ridiculous. But with all things related to etiquette, you have to follow them, whether you agree with them, or not. You don't want other people being horribly offended, even though you're not.

In no way is this the same. A shower is a literal gift giving event; you "shower" the bride with gifts. A wedding reception is in fact the opposite; you're throwing a party for your guests to thank them for witnessing you and your SO exchange vows and taking each others hands in marriage. As well, it is not in bad etiquette to not give a gift at a wedding.

This has nothing to do with the B&G paying for their own wedding.

Blue_Bird · March 2014

Are you the #BridalRights lady back for more?

dannymaymorris · March 2014

I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you. And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception). Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.

dannymaymorris · March 2014

Are you the #BridalRights lady back for more?

I have no idea who the #bridal rights lady is.

dannymaymorris · March 2014

Personally, i think the hosting your shower and hosting your own wedding are the same thing. Etiquette is only okay with hosting your own wedding because they know most couples pay for their own weddings, nowadays. If etiquette weren't okay with hosting your own wedding reception, very few people would have large scale weddings. I am not hosting my own shower, but I still find this double standard a little ridiculous. But with all things related to etiquette, you have to follow them, whether you agree with them, or not. You don't want other people being horribly offended, even though you're not.

I'm really glad I'm not the only person who thinks it's the same thing. I really can't understand why everyone is always in an uproar over it.

Simply Fated · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:
I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you.
And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception).
Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.

Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?

dannymaymorris · March 2014

I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you. And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception). Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.
Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?

Always as in, every year since my 16th birthday.

yogablossom · March 2014

There is no rule that says a shower is "necessary" or "required" when you are a bride. I suppose a big reception after your wedding isn't "necessary" either, but it is gracious to offer this to your guests. It is not, however, gracious to offer a party for yourself in which guests are expected to bring gifts for you. This is a special event that someone has to want to plan and throw for you.

dannymaymorris · March 2014

Have a get together at your house with mimosas. Play the games if you insist. But don't call it a shower, or really anything wedding-related.

There is no possible way that I could throw a party at this point in my engagement, no matter how I word the invitations, that people aren't going to assume I it's a wedding shower. The only other parties I ever throw are birthday parties, people will inevitably assume any party is a wedding shower.

Simply Fated · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

Simply Fated said:

dannymaymorris said:
I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you.
And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception).
Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.
Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?
Always as in, every year since my 16th birthday.

Did it ever occur to you that there might be a reason no one has ever wanted to throw you a birthday party since you were 16?

I am not trying to be mean at all, but I'm wondering if perhaps you have difficulties picking up on certain social cues?
Most people's parents stop throwing them birthday parties after a certain age.

The only other explanation is that you have truly severe entitlement issues? If that's the case, then it's not too late to learn that no one is entitled to a party, regardless of the reason, be it an impending marriage, birthday, new job, etc.

If no one offers to throw you a party, you should probably take the hint that no one wants to throw you a party. The next step is to ask yourself, "why?"

AroundTheBlock · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

There is no possible way that I could throw a party at this point in my engagement, no matter how I word the invitations, that people aren't going to assume I it's a wedding shower. The only other parties I ever throw are birthday parties, people will inevitably assume any party is a wedding shower.

What other people choose to assume, is their problem. If you invite them to a cocktail party and they choose to bring gifts, then you receive the gifts graciously and discretely, set them quickly aside out of sight, and get on with drinks and games. If they ask you ahead of time "is this a shower" you deny it, and if they say "I'll need to get a gift -- where are you registered" you say "oh, this isn't a shower; gifts are not expected. Just come and have fun!"

But there is another little concern with your post that I'd like to invite you to think about. You say "The only other parties I ever throw are birthday parties." Why is that? Hospitality is about bringing people together at your own expense and effort, to socialize and build community. I know that a lot of girls grow up nowadays without seeing the give-and-take of social entertaining being role-modelled for them: but society is a sadder place for that fact. And as you can now see, it comes back to bite you! If you threw those birthday parties for your friends instead of for yourself; if you gave cocktail parties or teas "just because" on occasion, then people would NOT automatically assume an ulterior motive to your entertaining. And, from watching your generosity, your friends might even get the idea to give a party for you! You have the power to make choices that will build up your community into a more generous and more gracious place.

jnissa · March 2014

Simply Fated said:

I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you. And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception). Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.
Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?
Always as in, every year since my 16th birthday.
Did it ever occur to you that there might be a reason no one has ever wanted to throw you a birthday party since you were 16? I am not trying to be mean at all, but I'm wondering if perhaps you have difficulties picking up on certain social cues? Most people's parents stop throwing them birthday parties after a certain age. The only other explanation is that you have truly severe entitlement issues? If that's the case, then it's not too late to learn that no one is entitled to a party, regardless of the reason, be it an impending marriage, birthday, new job, etc. If no one offers to throw you a party, you should probably take the hint that no one wants to throw you a party. The next step is to ask yourself, "why?"

This. After reading the original post, I actually felt a little sad that nobody had offered to throw a shower. But then after reading some of the other posts it made more sense. I don't know what your relationships with your bridal party or family are like, but I can tell you this: if they are such that nobody has offered to throw you a shower, throwing one for yourself will not make those relationships stronger. It absolutely will make you look entitled and egocentric.

I understand wanting to have a shower and being disappointed if nobody throws one for you. But throwing one for yourself, I promise, isn't going to result in anything but people thinking rude things about you.

crunchymamaof2 · March 2014

AroundTheBlock said:

dannymaymorris said:

There is no possible way that I could throw a party at this point in my engagement, no matter how I word the invitations, that people aren't going to assume I it's a wedding shower. The only other parties I ever throw are birthday parties, people will inevitably assume any party is a wedding shower.

What other people choose to assume, is their problem. If you invite them to a cocktail party and they choose to bring gifts, then you receive the gifts graciously and discretely, set them quickly aside out of sight, and get on with drinks and games. If they ask you ahead of time "is this a shower" you deny it, and if they say "I'll need to get a gift -- where are you registered" you say "oh, this isn't a shower; gifts are not expected. Just come and have fun!"

But there is another little concern with your post that I'd like to invite you to think about. You say "The only other parties I ever throw are birthday parties." Why is that? Hospitality is about bringing people together at your own expense and effort, to socialize and build community. I know that a lot of girls grow up nowadays without seeing the give-and-take of social entertaining being role-modelled for them: but society is a sadder place for that fact. And as you can now see, it comes back to bite you! If you threw those birthday parties for your friends instead of for yourself; if you gave cocktail parties or teas "just because" on occasion, then people would NOT automatically assume an ulterior motive to your entertaining. And, from watching your generosity, your friends might even get the idea to give a party for you! You have the power to make choices that will build up your community into a more generous and more gracious place.

I may rarely agree what you post but all of your replies on here have been freakin awesome and spot on. Now if only OP would listen.....

cruffino · March 2014

I don't need a special occasion to drink mimosas. And no, don't throw your own shower.

Weesh · March 2014

dannymaymorris said: "Let me see if I have this correct, a bride cannot throw her own bridal shower, nor can she ask someone else to throw it for her? Am I the only bride out there that thinks these "rules" are total crap? I keep hearing "a bridal shower is not a right" and "if no-one offers then you just go without". Maybe I'm a narcissist, but I want one! And I do feel entitled to one! Why would it be so bad for me to throw my own? Because I'll look "gift-grabby"? How is it any different than having a wedding? You pay for a party and some people bring gifts. (It's also the same as throwing a birthday party for yourself.) I understand that there is etiquette, but is it really THAT bad if I throw my own shower? And really, I'm not concerned about gifts - I just want to play the ridiculous party games with my fiancé (Jack and Jill Wedding Shower) and drink mimosas."
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There's nothing wrong with wanting one. There's something wrong with asking for one, expecting one, or throwing one for yourself. The event is supposed to shower a bride with well wishes before a wedding. Throwing your own screams "gimme." And if you think you're "entitled" to one, there might be a reason why someone hasn't offered to throw one for you. Getting married doesn't entitle you to anything.

My fiance and I are paying for most of our wedding, and we don't view it as paying for a party for people to bring gifts. I don't care if they bring anything, everyone who was invited was invited because we can't imagine getting married without them being there. If you're not concerned about gifts, get everyone together for an evening. Call it a barbecue, have a luncheon, go out to a bar with your bridal party, whatever. But don't call it a shower.

Edited because quotes aren't working. Ugh.

dannymaymorris · March 2014

I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you. And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception). Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.
Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?
Always as in, every year since my 16th birthday.
Did it ever occur to you that there might be a reason no one has ever wanted to throw you a birthday party since you were 16? I am not trying to be mean at all, but I'm wondering if perhaps you have difficulties picking up on certain social cues? Most people's parents stop throwing them birthday parties after a certain age. The only other explanation is that you have truly severe entitlement issues? If that's the case, then it's not too late to learn that no one is entitled to a party, regardless of the reason, be it an impending marriage, birthday, new job, etc. If no one offers to throw you a party, you should probably take the hint that no one wants to throw you a party. The next step is to ask yourself, "why?"

Wow, your kind of a dick, aren't you?

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

I've always planned my own birthday party, if I didn't I would never have one. I think it's entirely rude to ask someone to spend their money to throw a party for you. And, actually, a "shower" is VERY similar to a wedding: it's a party to celebrate a marriage (as is a reception) in which the guests are provided with food, drinks and a fun time (as in a reception). Why does it matter who pays for it? And additionally, who is even going to know who paid for it? It's not like guests go walking around a party asking who funded it.
Always planned your own birthday party? Always? As in you hired your own clown and everything?
Always as in, every year since my 16th birthday.
Did it ever occur to you that there might be a reason no one has ever wanted to throw you a birthday party since you were 16? I am not trying to be mean at all, but I'm wondering if perhaps you have difficulties picking up on certain social cues? Most people's parents stop throwing them birthday parties after a certain age. The only other explanation is that you have truly severe entitlement issues? If that's the case, then it's not too late to learn that no one is entitled to a party, regardless of the reason, be it an impending marriage, birthday, new job, etc. If no one offers to throw you a party, you should probably take the hint that no one wants to throw you a party. The next step is to ask yourself, "why?"
Wow, your kind of a dick, aren't you?

*you're

KnotPorscha name calling.

dannymaymorris · March 2014

All of you people are incredibly judgmental! You should be ashamed of yourselves. My MOH can't throw my shower because she lives very far away along with one of my bridesmaids - my remaining bridesmaids I would never expect to do it because one is my 15 yr old sister and the other is a friend with three kids (she has more important things to do with her money). I would NEVER want someone to throw a party for me, I don't understand why it's okay for someone to spend money to throw me a party but it's not okay for me to throw a party in which people may or may not bring gifts. Additionally I come from a family that doesn't traditionally give gifts for any occasion - even if I had a wedding shower it would be very unlikely that I would be "showered with gifts" - we are the type of people who "shower" each other with our presence and support. I plan my own birthday parties because I enjoy being around family and friends on my birthday - and I can't possibly understand how providing food and drink for others on MY birthday could ever be considered as feeling I am entitled. And assuming that I only throw my own birthday parties is ridiculous. I throw my mother's birthday party every year, along with my nephew's. I have thrown parties for my friends as well. Saying that I wouldn't have a party if I didn't plan it myself speaks to the fact that most of the people who would throw me a party simply could not afford it, and I would never expect them to pay for something like that. I would like to add, that I never said no-one offered to throw me a shower. My grandmother and my older sister offered, neither of which have the financial means and I know it would put them in a tight place and I simply refuse to put them in that situation - I declined their offers only to be sharply criticized later when I said I would put it on myself. (Obviously, I had no idea of the "etiquette" surrounding bridal showers.) I would also like to add that I recently attended a bridal shower - I was under every impression that the bride was throwing and funding it herself. At no point in time did I consider her "gift-grabby" or "entitled" - I was simply happy to be there for her and spend time with her. Some guests brought gifts and some did not - I don't feel that anyone felt obligated and I never got the impression that she expected gifts either.

LondonLisa · March 2014

dannymaymorris said:

All of you people are incredibly judgmental! You should be ashamed of yourselves. My MOH can't throw my shower because she lives very far away along with one of my bridesmaids - my remaining bridesmaids I would never expect to do it because one is my 15 yr old sister and the other is a friend with three kids (she has more important things to do with her money). I would NEVER want someone to throw a party for me, I don't understand why it's okay for someone to spend money to throw me a party but it's not okay for me to throw a party in which people may or may not bring gifts. Additionally I come from a family that doesn't traditionally give gifts for any occasion - even if I had a wedding shower it would be very unlikely that I would be "showered with gifts" - we are the type of people who "shower" each other with our presence and support. I plan my own birthday parties because I enjoy being around family and friends on my birthday - and I can't possibly understand how providing food and drink for others on MY birthday could ever be considered as feeling I am entitled. And assuming that I only throw my own birthday parties is ridiculous. I throw my mother's birthday party every year, along with my nephew's. I have thrown parties for my friends as well. Saying that I wouldn't have a party if I didn't plan it myself speaks to the fact that most of the people who would throw me a party simply could not afford it, and I would never expect them to pay for something like that. I would like to add, that I never said no-one offered to throw me a shower. My grandmother and my older sister offered, neither of which have the financial means and I know it would put them in a tight place and I simply refuse to put them in that situation - I declined their offers only to be sharply criticized later when I said I would put it on myself. (Obviously, I had no idea of the "etiquette" surrounding bridal showers.) I would also like to add that I recently attended a bridal shower - I was under every impression that the bride was throwing and funding it herself. At no point in time did I consider her "gift-grabby" or "entitled" - I was simply happy to be there for her and spend time with her. Some guests brought gifts and some did not - I don't feel that anyone felt obligated and I never got the impression that she expected gifts either.

If your family aren't big gift-givers and your bridesmaids are unable to attend, I don't know why you would want to throw your own shower. If it is because you want gifts and want to be the centre of attention, then yes, that is really rude. I think you are confusing a shower (whose sole purpose is gift giving) and a regular party. However, if you just want to have a get together for the people you love, then there is nothing stopping you as long as it isn't a "celebrate me and my wedding" party. I love a good brunch party with mimosas! You see the difference about these two parties is the first is saying "celebrate Meeeeeee! And buy me things" and the second is saying "you are important to me so I want to host you for a meal". Weddings are not related to gift giving- no one owes you a wedding gift. A shower is a gift giving event, so there is absolutely no way you can host this yourself.

AddieCake · March 2014

Ditto Lisa. Get together and have a NON GIFT GIVING party with your NON GIFT GIVING family and hang out and drink and play games like any other get-together. Just don't call it a shower. This is really not that complicated.

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