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Whenever you post something on the internet people are going to comment on whatever they want. Posters saw things of concern in your post and addressed them. Honestly, the fact that all of your posts are SO long just gives people even more to comment on. If you don't want people to comment on something, don't post about it.
Phira, it's a little bit of everything. Yes, personally I feel as though we should be farther along. Yes, I feel like my friend is moving a bit too quickly but I'm not in any position to say anything about that since I'm not in her relationship and maybe they are ready. There are particular things about what they've done together that I wouldn't agree with at all. So in my head I suppose I do feel a bit superior at times since I agree more with what we're doing. Is this appropriate, no. So, trying to get over that and not compare.And yes, my friend's relationship is definitely amplifying feelings of dissatisfaction. Not because I really don't agree with what we're doing or secretly I'm unhappy - it's just because I feel ready emotionally and mentally but am not with other factors.I appreciate the help, that's what I need. I just don't want to feel as though people think I'm being a snotty brat who thinks I'm better than my friend for just being together longer with my BF and because she's doing what I want to be doing. I really don't feel that way about her or her relationship. Having that said, I do think having a slight moment of feeling better helps me. But just because it gives me more confidence for a moment that I'm doing everything right for myself and my relationship...not because I feel better than her particularly, just in general that I'm doing the best for myself. If that makes sense? And this is in those moments that I have weakness about the situation. Most of the time I am fine and happy with my life and my friend's...
SITB: OP, is this the first time you have felt like this? If not, I would advise seeking counseling. Not because the way you feel is a horrible thing, but because talking with a professional might help more than what we can help with. It might give you a whole new perspective. No one here is trying to be rude, just blunt and honest. Sometimes it's the tough love and bluntness that really helps a person the most. I really hope it gets better for you. It's something we all feel at a point in our lives, but what you decide to do with the way you take things is your call. I wouldn't let it really let what others have effect the way I feel about my life/situation/relationship. It's bad juju. Go out and be happy!