Is a Honeymoon a bad Idea?

lgilliss92 · April 2014

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

ohannabelle · April 2014

Hilarious.

If anyone calls, I'm in the kitchen starting the popcorn.

OliveOilsMom · April 2014

Honeymoon Registries are not polite in any country!

cupcait927 · April 2014

ohannabelle said:

Hilarious.
If anyone calls, I'm in the kitchen starting the popcorn.

Can you make some milkshakes too?!

cupcait927 · April 2014

On a more serious note - no, honeymoon registries are not polite. Everyone knows cash is a great gift idea and you can use that to put towards your honeymoon. So many reasons they are wrong, just search the boards. We also have a number of Canadian brides on this board that I'm sure can weigh in as well.

pinkshorts27 · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

I'm glad you chose to alienate half of the posters (or however many Americans there are). So you think that Canadians are more polite and less frivolous? Way to stereotype and generalize.

wrigleyville · April 2014

I don't even understand what the OP is trying to say.

Honeymoon registries are the very definition of rude and frivolous, so why would any proper, polite, non-frivolous Canadian want one?

And if you're so polite, you should know they are frivolous and rude.

Also, if you read any other thread, of which there are many, you'll see that honeymoon registries attach fees and don't actually reserve anything the guests pay for. The B&G usually get a check (minus those fees). Honeymoon registries make money for the companies that run them and the B&G. That's it.

Just register for items you want for your house. If people want to give you cash, they will. You should never ask for cash, and that includes honeymoon registries.

[Deleted User] · April 2014

I too am a Canadian bride and would never use my supposedly MORE polite country of birth/residence/heritage as an excuse to be LESS polite.

Don't do it. Asking for money is rude.

gmcr78 · April 2014

I find it terribly impolite to point out how "...frivolous" we are here in the states, and implying that we are less polite. I don't normally find too many things on TK to be offensive, especially enough to post about it, but this really rubs me the wrong way.
I hosted a lovely wedding with impeccable etiquette, thank you very much. And I didn't have a honeymoon registry.

wrigleyville · April 2014

gmcr78 said:

I find it terribly impolite to point out how "...frivolous" we are here in the states, and implying that we are less polite. I don't normally find too many things on TK to be offensive, especially enough to post about it, but this really rubs me the wrong way.
I hosted a lovely wedding with impeccable etiquette, thank you very much. And I didn't have a honeymoon registry.

Ditto. Same here.

Maggie0829 · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

Wow, way to assume a lot about America.

But yes, us frivolous and rude Americans find honeymoon registries tacky.

Viczaesar · April 2014

In answer to the question in the title of your post: honeymoons are not a bad idea.

In answer to the question you apparently meant to write in the title of your post, based on the content of your OP: honeymoon registries are always rude, regardless of what country you reside in.

thesummersky · April 2014

Honeymoons aren't rude if you can afford them, and they don't need to be 'frivolous.' One can experience quality time with their new spouse with little to no money.

Expecting or asking for someone else to pay for your honeymoon, however, is always rude - no matter who, or where, you are.

courtski2004 · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

I guess I missed the part in all other honeymoon registry threads where the first question is 'wait, what country do you live in? It might be slightly less rude as long as you aren't a frivolous American.' Nope.

Lowell14 · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:
WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

No, you don't know what I'm going to say. Your entire post is presumptuous and ignorant. I'm Canadian and Im embarrassed by your post. Think before you decide to put general, sweeping comments on a public forum.

lovesclimbing · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

Having a honeymoon registry is the definition of frivolous if you ask me.

Friv-o-lous

: not important : not deserving serious attention

: silly and not serious

1

a : of little weight or importance

b : having no sound basis (as in fact or law) <a frivolouslawsuit>

2

a : lacking in seriousness

b : marked by unbecoming levity

From Merriam-Webster.

ETA: definition

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

For someone who claims to be so polite, you sure as hell shot that self-aggrandizing self-proclaimed stereotype in the foot when you made that ridiculous and rude sweeping generalization about an entire other country.

Considering you are so bold and rude, go ahead and have a tacky honeymoon registry.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

ckel24 said:

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ohannabelle said:

Hilarious.
If anyone calls, I'm in the kitchen starting the popcorn.

Can you make some milkshakes too?!

I think she's making us all waffles. . .

SlothGoals · April 2014

lgilliss92 said:

WAIT! I know what you are going to say. I'm not American here. I'm Canadian. So as a Canadian where we are much more polite, is a honeymoon registry a bad idea? Keep in mind we are not as...frivolous as the states.

Resident Canadian Knottie here.

First: please don't give Canadians a bad name by coming here and insulting the American Knotties by calling them frivolous. I've gotten a lot of sound financial advice from threads here and know many a Canadian who doesn't know how to handle money properly.

Second: Yes, Canadians are known for being polite; please don't associate yourself with us if you're not going to hold up the standard.

Third: Honeymoon registries are HELLA TACKY. Pay for your own damn honeymoon. H and I are going on a kickass honeymoon and guess what? We're saving up and paying for it ourselves! What a novel idea!

Fourth: Americans being "frivolous" has exactly ZERO to do with you not paying for your own honeymoon. @lovesclimbing hit the nail on the head by posting the definition of frivolous. Honeymoons are not a requirement for getting married therefore make a honeymoon registry a frivolous idea.

theartistformerlyknownas · April 2014

Yes. Honeymoon registries are even rude on the moon.

Wedding registries/showers/gifts are intended to get the new couple off to a good start in their new life together. Honeymoons are not required for you to start life as a married couple. Many people cannot afford one (whether the money or the time involved) so therefore they do not have one. You do not get to ask people to subsidize things which are unnecessary to starting married life. If you already have the things necessary and need not one single additional dish towel, good on you! You get the pleasure of declining registries and showers. You don't get to ask people who may not have had a honeymoon themselves to pay for your tea party with dolphins.

chibiyui · April 2014

All the good threads happen while I'm on my phone......

alpacalunch · April 2014

As someone with an American father and Canadian mother, let me start off by saying how rude this is. No matter what stereotypes you may be familiar with, your view is presumptuous. As a Canadian myself, I am embarrassed.

Further, if we're that much more polite, why are you even considering doing something deemed rude internationally?

SlothGoals · April 2014

lolo883 said:

Yes. Honeymoon registries are even rude on the moon.

Wedding registries/showers/gifts are intended to get the new couple off to a good start in their new life together. Honeymoons are not required for you to start life as a married couple. Many people cannot afford one (whether the money or the time involved) so therefore they do not have one. You do not get to ask people to subsidize things which are unnecessary to starting married life. If you already have the things necessary and need not one single additional dish towel, good on you! You get the pleasure of declining registries and showers. You don't get to ask people who may not have had a honeymoon themselves to pay for your tea party with dolphins.

To the bolded: have you been to a tea party with dolphins? I am extremely jealous if you have and I demand to know where you went to do it.

(Also, I lol-ed for reals)

theartistformerlyknownas · April 2014

kristbot said:

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lolo883 said:

Yes. Honeymoon registries are even rude on the moon.

Wedding registries/showers/gifts are intended to get the new couple off to a good start in their new life together. Honeymoons are not required for you to start life as a married couple. Many people cannot afford one (whether the money or the time involved) so therefore they do not have one. You do not get to ask people to subsidize things which are unnecessary to starting married life. If you already have the things necessary and need not one single additional dish towel, good on you! You get the pleasure of declining registries and showers. You don't get to ask people who may not have had a honeymoon themselves to pay for your tea party with dolphins.

To the bolded: have you been to a tea party with dolphins? I am extremely jealous if you have and I demand to know where you went to do it.

(Also, I lol-ed for reals)

Not yet, but you can bet I'll pay for it my damn self because I'm a grown-up.

HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014

Just as we don't judge all Canadians when Canadian brides come on here and are all like, 'But you don't understand, a Stag-and-Doe party is totally expected and normal and cool and culturally normal in my area and NO ONE would think I'm rude for doing one because how ELSE am I supposed to pay for my wedding, you big meanies?!' I will thank you kindly not to judge all Americans by whichever one you happened to have met who was frivolous.

doeydo · April 2014

Honeymoons are fine. Honeymoon registries are rude. Pay for your own honeymoon or don't have one. Also, I am Canadian and you are giving us a bad name right now.

alpacalunch · April 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Just as we don't judge all Canadians when Canadian brides come on here and are all like, 'But you don't understand, a Stag-and-Doe party is totally expected and normal and cool and culturally normal in my area and NO ONE would think I'm rude for doing one because how ELSE am I supposed to pay for my wedding, you big meanies?!' I will thank you kindly not to judge all Americans by whichever one you happened to have met who was frivolous.

As a Canadian, I think Stag-and-Does are incredibly tacky. You want a big wedding, pay for it yourself. I still don't know why I've heard so many Canadians say they do them! I've been to one, as part of the BP, and it pained me.

RebeccaFlower · April 2014

For a Canadian who is so polite, 1) you first post was super rude and 2) you should be able to figure out on your own that a honeymoon registry is rude.

sarawifenow · April 2014

Yes, a honeymoon is a horrible idea. Sometimes people get really bad sunburns when they are on the beach. Also, why would you want to be stuck with someone that you just married for a length of time? They would seriously get on your nerves, I would think!

Another reason that a honeymoon is a bad idea is because you might have to run into rude Americans and have to put up with how frivolous they are!

(Please note: sarcasm coming from an apparantely frivolous American.)

VulgarGirl · April 2014

Oh wait, you're Canadian? Then yeah, you're in the clear. Go for it! Sarcasm. In case you missed it.

MuppetOverlord · April 2014

I think there is a Poutine registry for Canadians.

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