Just venting but Seriously? I know how expensive weddings are, my wedding is one month after this couple's and I just received an invitation to their wedding addressed just to me. I get it, you don't know my FI (and bf of almost 9 years) that well, but we have been together the ENTIRE TIME I'VE KNOWN YOU.
So for a second I thought, hey maybe they just didn't realize that you are supposed to address it to both of us. Went onto their wedding page to RSVP and in big text at the top of the RSVP page it says "Due to the high cost of the wedding and the limited space available, only the people listed on the outside of the invitation are invited and should RSVP." So fine, I hit decline. One less wedding gift I have to buy.
Re: So grumpy over this invite
I'll admit, FI & I didn't invite a friend's FI.... but that's because we didn't know he existed until just the other day. (Very strange situation - for whatever reason, they're engaged, but almost no one knows. She even hesitated telling us.) The difference is, we agreed to invite him after learning that he existed...
Just NO, there's no words, for this type of inconsiderate crap. Every person on my guest list has an extra spot next to their name just in case my guests end up with an SO between now and when I send out invites. Even for those people who haven't gone on a date in 5 years, and are currently not even agreeing to any dates at all.
I mean come on, you don't do shit like this. Did she do that to the married couples too? Was she like, I'll invite you, but your Husband/ Wife isn't invited?
But, total love because you win. No present! I might send a card. Nah, costs money. Maybe a klassee e card on Facebook.
Definitely a decline. One less wedding to go to - use that time to do something nice for you, since you'll have your own wedding to focus on a few weeks later!
Anyways... it's not that I am attached to FI's hip by any means, actually I'm quite independent. Weddings however... I find these to be an even that I want to be around him. Maybe it's all the love and crap...but I have a hard time being at weddings without him. If I were invited but not him...I wouldn't go. Let's say I did end up going without FI. I would be stewing all night on the inside whole outwardly smiling and nodding and putting on a freakin' happy face for the bride. I would rather be happy, ditch altogether and have a date night with FI.
Yes, the bride and groom has an absolute say in who they invite, but that doesn't make them any less of assholes if they only invite one half of a couple.
A wedding is a time when two people become legally/religiously joined together until death (or divorce) do they part. At no point should a day that celebrates the joining of a couple become a day when that couple snubs someone else's significant other. It's shallow, callous, and hypocritical, at best.
It's not traditionally against etiquette, as you put it. It's against etiquette, period.