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Giving Zero Fucks.
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I'm so there. I think I hit that stage maybe 4-6 weeks ago, where things I thought mattered or would stress me out just didn't anymore. I officially give zero fucks about them. The latest iteration - people adding guests to their RSVP. You were invited as 1, RSVPed for 2, if it means that much to you to add someone then I just don't have the energy to care about it. Sure friend, bring your SIL. Whatever.
On a related note: the budget. We're under budget just barely right now, but probably won't end up that way. Whatever. We have the money. So no Mom, I don't care that you look at me as if a bear just ripped my arm off when I casually mention something about an entree being $34. Be glad you don't know the full cost of any of these things because you'll surely stroke out comparing it to your own wedding in 1981. So when you ask me "just how much are you spending on this thing?!" I'll just shrug and say "just enough."
What did you originally think was a Really Big Deal that you now give zero fucks about?
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ETA: tuxedos. I threw a fit thinking if H had his way, the groomsmen would look better than him to me. The color of the bowtie or euro tie. I told him to choose the day of with his groomsmens opinions. He wore a white tie, a compromise on what we wanted. He looked so handsome, I don't even know why I cared beforehand.
I'm also ALMOST over programs. I've made an example on Publisher of what I like and our officiant just emailed me the script/timeline of the ceremony last night, but at this point I'm like, 'do I even want programs?' Other than the Celtic Blessing Stones we're doing, and the fact that we're not doing any type of unity candle/sand, its a normal wedding so at this point my thinking is: Most people have been to weddings. They know what's going on. They don't care who is in your WP. I may still end up doing them if FI really wants them tho. Who knows.
Our colors are black, white, and burgundy as an accent. It turns out that everyone has a different opinion on what qualifies as burgundy. Try as we might, I can't get them to match. I've decided that's ok- the different shades won't all be next to each other.
I'm also noticing that we're not getting any declines and have decided not to give a fuck about it. Even the people my parents were convinced would not be coming are still coming. In fact, our guest list has increased as we've gotten requests for additional "plus ones." We planned for them for everyone but didn't expressly say it for the recently widowed (3), couples who are recently divorced and newly dating (2 couples/4 people), and the elderly with dementia (my divorced grandparents). We wanted to avoid hurting feelings and creating drama though we planned to informally extend the offer to the older crew if they didn't feel comfortable traveling/attending solo.
BM dresses. Only my sister/MOH has bought one. We're getting married in just over 2 months and I didn't give strict requirements (black, not long). I was freaking out for a while that the majority of them haven't even started shopping but now I've decided that I don't care. It's a black dress. Buy it at Target on the day of for all I care.
I'm trying to stop caring about the flowergirl dresses. My sister/MOH and my FSIL both have daughters who will be flower girls. I thought I couldn't care less about dresses but after seeing FSIL's tastes, I kinda do. I've already made it clear that it's up to the moms so I'm sticking to that!
I made both girls homemade tutus a few weeks ago and my niece has worn into into the ground. Part of me is tempted to just make them new tutus in our colors and have them wear them with white t-shirts and call it a day. But I think FSIL would be horribly disappointed.
ETA: Posted before I finished typing.
I'm the fuck out.
It all worked out and I got a new florist and the flowers were beautiful. But there was a point where I was like " eh if we don't have flowers we'll still be married".
I also gave zero fucks about my BMs shoes and jewelry. I needed to worry about my own jewelry not theirs.
I'm the fuck out.
My daughter reached that point just about the time the RSVPs were half in, with added guests, special menu requests, late responses etc... I've mentioned before, that she and SIL were married during Hurricane Sandy. I have a picture of her standing in front of a full length hotel window, in her wedding dress, watching the clouds approach. She was serene and as you say 'gave zero fucks' about the hurricane, last minute cancellations, unexpected house guests etc...She was going to marry the love of her life that day and that was all that mattered. It was a beautiful day.
I'm also giving zero fucks about people adding "plus ones". In a way I know I should and I do but, we're under capacity so whatever, fuck it.
I'm also giving zero fucks about the candy bar. I haven't invested much money in to it and at this point I might just save it all for a bad day and watch animal movies while I eat to my heart's content.