Wedding didn't go as planned...having a hard time accepting it
I just got married almost 2 weeks ago. We did a mostly DIY wedding with some outside help. We hired a caterer that delivered dinner to our outdoor backyard wedding, a cake, had a photographer for 4 hours and an officiate. Everything else including flowers, hair, makeup, appetizers music, decor, MC’ing, videography, etc., we did ourselves or had family help out.
The day of the wedding, my father and brother were videoing. I think they got most of the ceremony and dinner. My husband had his own video camera which he said he was going to put on a tripod or just on the table while the wedding was going on. Unfortunately, when it was needed most, it failed! I did a “surprise dance performance” for my new husband when the party started and before I came out, I expected my husband’s video camera to be rolling. He knew about the performance but didn’t know the song or the dance. He said he would have it ready when I came out. Well, the camera ran out of memory and the performance that I had been working on for months almost every day wasn’t captured! My dad and brother weren’t prepared for the surprise and didn’t have their cameras with them. My dad keeps asking me why I didn’t tell him about it or he would have taped it and I just say that it was a surprise and that nobody was supposed to know besides the organizers (my husband, maid of honor and the best man) but now I see that I made a mistake.
I did a do over performance a couple of days later to my husband in the same room I did it in originally in the same outfit. He videotaped me but it ‘s not the same…no audience and not the surprised look on my husband’s face when I got him to join me on the dance floor mid-song. I’m having a hard time accepting this out of all the things that didn’t go as planned that day of which there were several! To combat this, I’m thinking of doing a repeat performance, perhaps at my baby shower coming up soon (I’m 7 months pregnant!) or our 1 year anniversary. But I’m not sure if my guests would want to see that again. The dance was just for my husband and was my special dedication to him on my wedding day.
Anybody else have any wedding flops to make me feel better about this flub? What are your wedding blunder/disaster stories? I’m having a hard time accepting what happened…
Re: Wedding didn't go as planned...having a hard time accepting it
I'm sorry to hear about what happened. I know I would be disappointed also that this special moment was not captured on video...but this doesn't make the moment any less special or heartfelt for the two of you. You really need to let this go. What happened, happened. It's fresh disappointment now, but In the grand scheme of things, this was not an integral part of the day. You and your DH were married...the MOST important thing to happen went well
...the special performance went well even if it wasn't videotaped, and it sounds like the reception also went well overall (even though you alluded to some other disappointments).
Weddings are often major, complicated events thrown by people who do not normally throw major, complicated events. There are a lot of pieces involved...some of which we don't have control over...and I'd hazard to guess it is the rare wedding where everythng goes perfectly.
For example, there are few things I'd "always" pictured about wedding, but one of them was my hair. I have beautiful (if I do say so myself, lol), very long, luxurious hair.
I completely understand that you're disappointed that your special dance wasn't recorded, but it sounds like it was a hit with your husband and guests. I know that people feel like every memory has to be recorded, but it is something you will remember as well as your husband.
I'm sure your photographer caught some shots of it, so try not to be so sad about it.
I'm sad it wasn't recorded too, because I'm very curious.
Memories can be just as good as a video.