Can I be Psycho for a Moment (again?)

lc07 · August 2014

I really appreciate all of you. First and foremost.

Please feel free to throw tomatoes, sloths, (full) wine bottles, or whatever when it becomes particularly obnoxious to read my posts. I'm good at catching things and like all of the above

So 2 things I want to get off my chest that I don't feel comfortable telling anyone IRL :

1. Remember when we had a talk about clothing sizes and how stupid they are? I bought a bridesmaid dress recently and it's 3 sizes bigger than what I would have thought I was. And it JUST fit. That mentally screwed with me. It's like, I already don't like how I look but that made me feel uglier. Stupid, I know, but true.

2. I know I'm thinking WAY too ahead because I will be in a different place in 4 months but I'm considering ignoring Christmas this year. Is that even possible? My sister whom I am VERY close with really wants me to come and visit her and her family (my parents will be there, too). But I can't stop thinking about how much of a wreck I will be at Christmas time this year. For those of you who have managed to dodge my other posts I'm going through a recent divorce and am pity partying on the reg. So I was thinking of taking myself alone on a vacation somewhere amazing and going all out. Is that stupid/crazy? Is avoidance a bad thing? Is it even possible to avoid Christmas anywhere? (I can't travel too far since I have huge jobs on Dec 20 and Jan 1 or else I was thinking Paris). I probably shouldn't spend the money.. I am doing okay but my savings could use a boost. But I'm afraid that Christmas is going to destroy me emotionally. I know this is a bridge I can cross in like 3.5 months but it's been on my mind since my sister and I talked yesterday and I started crying when she was talking about all the happy things they have planned for Christmas that she wanted to include me in and I just can't imagine being there and participating in all of the festivities without H. I also don't want to stay home. Or do something with friends. (My family is 3,000 miles away)

Inkdancer · August 2014

Re: 1, clothing sizes are dumb and you are beautiful. Re: 2, Christmas is kind of everywhere, but I think taking yourself on a sweet vacation would be a great way to make it a happy occasion!

beethery · August 2014

When I was a tiny little peanut at my adult thinnest, I went to target for a skirt. I was wearing a 4 in AE jeans at the time.

The skirt that fit me, which wasn't a big voluminous thing but a canvas mini, was a size THIRTEEN. THE FUUUUUUUCK??!?!?!!

I bought it anyway because it looked good. Clothing sizes are dumb as hell.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

I wear an 8 in street sizes, but my wedding dress is a 14. Fuck sizing.

And...you can absolutely avoid Christmas if you want to. I would NOT DO PARIS THOUGH. Oy vey, too many people in love. Maybe go somewhere not heavily Christian?

I tried to avoid Christmas a few years ago. Family all had plans with their OTHER families, and I was the most depressed I'd ever been. As I was sobbing tearing down my tree on Christmas Day and hating the world, my sister called and told me she was pregnant. I called my doc a few days later to get on antidepressants because I wanted to be happy for her and about the baby. Sometimes the universe has a way of giving you exactly what you need, exactly when you need it.

lc07 · August 2014

lolo883 said:

I wear an 8 in street sizes, but my wedding dress is a 14. Fuck sizing. And...you can absolutely avoid Christmas if you want to. I would NOT DO PARIS THOUGH. Oy vey, too many people in love. Maybe go somewhere not heavily Christian? I tried to avoid Christmas a few years ago. Family all had plans with their OTHER families, and I was the most depressed I'd ever been. As I was sobbing tearing down my tree on Christmas Day and hating the world, my sister called and told me she was pregnant. I called my doc a few days later to get on antidepressants because I wanted to be happy for her and about the baby. Sometimes the universe has a way of giving you exactly what you need, exactly when you need it.

Thanks Lolo. I can't do Paris anyway because I'd have to travel like Dec 21 - 26 and it just doesn't make sense to take that short of a trip since I'm in CA. I'm thinking I will feel like you did that Christmas if I stay home. And I'm worried about it. Or if I spend it with my family or as a third wheel with friends at home. I kind of want to be alone and order room service and take myself out to fancy dinners and hang in a pool with a swim up bar. And live a pretend posh life for 3 or 4 days. I live in So Cal so this should be possible. Mexico is literally 10 miles away. Just don't know if it will even work because "Christmas" starts before Thanksgiving. But it's the actual Christmas and Christmas Eve I'd like to avoid. And I wonder if I had something super exciting to look forward to it would be less depressing. Avoidance is my MO at the moment. I know I can't do it forever but uggghh holidays.

lc07 · August 2014

And clothing sizes can kiss my ass. I'm a sucker. I should have probably even ordered one size bigger but the sizes were freaking me out. It's so stupid.

huskypuppy14 · August 2014

I have pants that all fit me that are sizes 4, 6, 8, and 10. I usually wear a size 6 dress but my wedding dress was a 10.

Women's sizing is ridiculous. Don't even worry about it.

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

Dress sizes are effed up. And I can totally appreciate the desire to want to skip Christmas. I have heard from many people that the holidays are especially hard after a divorce. I say go find a b&b somewhere in SoCal, rent Die Hard (the best Christmas movie ever), and enjoy some quality you time.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

You could always do the opposite - volunteer at a soup kitchen for the holiday, or a nursing home to spend time with those whose families aren't coming. Might give you a good dose of gratitude.

The only thing you're not allowed to do is wallow while you cry into a box of Christmas ornaments. I don't recommend it. Shit gets soggy and it's hard to get drunk off eggnog without feeling barfy.

lc07 · August 2014

lolo883 said:

You could always do the opposite - volunteer at a soup kitchen for the holiday, or a nursing home to spend time with those whose families aren't coming. Might give you a good dose of gratitude. The only thing you're not allowed to do is wallow while you cry into a box of Christmas ornaments. I don't recommend it. Shit gets soggy and it's hard to get drunk off eggnog without feeling barfy.

Please cancel all your holiday plans and come to Mexico with me. You always make me laugh.

beethery · August 2014

Whenever I did a 'FUCK EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY' vacation, I always went to Miami. At most I'd go for 3 days. But I'd get a massage right after I got there, and I'd just spend the whole time drinking at the pool or reading on the balcony.

lc07 · August 2014

beethery said:

Whenever I did a 'FUCK EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY' vacation, I always went to Miami. At most I'd go for 3 days. But I'd get a massage right after I got there, and I'd just spend the whole time drinking at the pool or reading on the balcony.

That sounds faaaabulous. Vegas is also really close to me and super cheap but H and I used to go there several times a year (and for Christmas sometimes) so that's out. Boooooo. My family is in FL so I think I'd get in big trouble for going to Miami instead of Clearwater. But whatever.. they'd have to understand.

lc07 · August 2014

I'm glad you guys don't think it's inappropriate to avoid Christmas and take a solo vacay!

CMGragain · August 2014

1. It's only a number.

2. I went on an amazing cruise, departing December 26. I never met so many lovely Jewish people! (Princess, not Carnival). Yes, there were generic Christmas trees, but that was it.
One of the musical reviews was funny. When they did a medley of "Jesus Christ, Superstar" you could hear polite applause. Then a violinist got up and played the themes from "Fiddler on the Roof", and the place went nuts, with people doing the hora in the aisles!

This might be a good option for you.

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

lc07 said:

lolo883 said:

You could always do the opposite - volunteer at a soup kitchen for the holiday, or a nursing home to spend time with those whose families aren't coming. Might give you a good dose of gratitude.

The only thing you're not allowed to do is wallow while you cry into a box of Christmas ornaments. I don't recommend it. Shit gets soggy and it's hard to get drunk off eggnog without feeling barfy.

Please cancel all your holiday plans and come to Mexico with me. You always make me laugh.

Come to Detroit! I think it's our turn to host and that means Mexican food.

lc07 · August 2014

lolo883 said:

lolo883 said:

You could always do the opposite - volunteer at a soup kitchen for the holiday, or a nursing home to spend time with those whose families aren't coming. Might give you a good dose of gratitude. The only thing you're not allowed to do is wallow while you cry into a box of Christmas ornaments. I don't recommend it. Shit gets soggy and it's hard to get drunk off eggnog without feeling barfy.

Please cancel all your holiday plans and come to Mexico with me. You always make me laugh.
Come to Detroit! I think it's our turn to host and that means Mexican food.

Thanks. I can't do happy families, though.

Gonna change my username to lc07GRINCHBITCH

daria24 · August 2014

Clothing sizes suck. My wedding dress was 3 sizes bigger than my normal dresses, the waist barely fit and then the chest was about 20 sizes too big. So I felt like a cow with boobs that were OBVIOUSLY way too puny.

And you absolutely should go on vacation. You can see your family for orthodox Christmas

Can you swing Hawaii? Yeah it has the stereotype of being a HM destination, but Oahu is less "romantic" and has a ton of stuff to do where you won't be surrounded by googly-eyed couples. And they celebrate Christmas but how Christmasy can it feel when it's 85 degrees out? Plus you can watch all of the hot hot hot surfers on the North Shore. Or you can go to the Big Island and be away from everyone and have lots of fun adventures.

lc07 · August 2014

daria24 said:

Clothing sizes suck. My wedding dress was 3 sizes bigger than my normal dresses, the waist barely fit and then the chest was about 20 sizes too big. So I felt like a cow with boobs that were OBVIOUSLY way too puny. And you absolutely should go on vacation. You can see your family for orthodox Christmas Can you swing Hawaii? Yeah it has the stereotype of being a HM destination, but Oahu is less "romantic" and has a ton of stuff to do where you won't be surrounded by googly-eyed couples. And they celebrate Christmas but how Christmasy can it feel when it's 85 degrees out? Plus you can watch all of the hot hot hot surfers on the North Shore. Or you can go to the Big Island and be away from everyone and have lots of fun adventures.

I love this. I have about a $2,000 - $3,000 budget for 5 days/nights. I know Hawaii is expensive and so is the airfare - and the holidays are always expensive to travel so I really have no idea but you're right - it would be completely different than any Christmas I've experienced since it's tropical. Hence my thoughts about Mexico. I've lived in CA for 10 years and never made it to HI!

*correction on number of days

*and that budget has to include EVERYTHING like rental car, hotel, airfare, food, drinks etc.

daria24 · August 2014

You could do that on Oahu or the BI, from CA. It is the high season so that might make your pickings more slim for inexpensive hotel rooms, but you could do it. Oahu would probably be easier because you can use public transportation instead of renting a car, although car rentals are cheap. You can also go the airbnb/vrbo route. Also the local real estate companies have vacation rentals, though those tend to be houses. Sometimes you get lucky.

Kauai is a more romance destination, but we stayed in Waimea at the Plantation Cottages for less than $200/night. You would get your own little cottage and there is nothing around there, but it's easy to get to the nice beaches in the south.

beethery · August 2014

OOH OOH OOH!

I love the Vegas idea. I got a SMOKING deal for last October. $765 round-trip (airfare included from Boston) for 6 nights at the Aria. That was a FANTASTIC vacation.

lc07 · August 2014

beethery said:

OOH OOH OOH!

I love the Vegas idea. I got a SMOKING deal for last October. $765 round-trip (airfare included from Boston) for 6 nights at the Aria. That was a FANTASTIC vacation.

Everything in Vegas reminds me of H #lc07GRINCHBITCH

* Except those times I went before we were dating. WhatHappensInVegasStaysinVegas

But we have been waaaaay too many times as a couple since then.

beethery · August 2014

Hmmm. Well, you could always create a new tradition. BUT, I see what you mean. Hit Miami! Do something faaaaaabulous! Idk if you'd want to travel that far though, idk what state you're in.

lc07 · August 2014

I'm in California. I am not opposed to Miami except that my family might think I'm a total bitch since they are only a few hours away or they might try to come join me. But I can get over that.

Either way, I'm super happy that you guys don't think I'm a nut bag for wanting to pretend Christmas isn't happening and pamper myself on vacation.

daria24 · August 2014

Or what about Sedona? How much Christmas can you have in a hippy town in the desert? You could treat yourself to the spa, do some hiking, lounge by the pool? Check out the canyons and red rocks.

CMGragain · August 2014

lc07 said:

daria24 said:

Clothing sizes suck. My wedding dress was 3 sizes bigger than my normal dresses, the waist barely fit and then the chest was about 20 sizes too big. So I felt like a cow with boobs that were OBVIOUSLY way too puny. And you absolutely should go on vacation. You can see your family for orthodox Christmas Can you swing Hawaii? Yeah it has the stereotype of being a HM destination, but Oahu is less "romantic" and has a ton of stuff to do where you won't be surrounded by googly-eyed couples. And they celebrate Christmas but how Christmasy can it feel when it's 85 degrees out? Plus you can watch all of the hot hot hot surfers on the North Shore. Or you can go to the Big Island and be away from everyone and have lots of fun adventures.

I love this. I have about a $2,000 - $3,000 budget for 5 days/nights. I know Hawaii is expensive and so is the airfare - and the holidays are always expensive to travel so I really have no idea but you're right - it would be completely different than any Christmas I've experienced since it's tropical. Hence my thoughts about Mexico. I've lived in CA for 10 years and never made it to HI!

*correction on number of days
*and that budget has to include EVERYTHING like rental car, hotel, airfare, food, drinks etc.

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27364

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=38443

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=23152

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27910

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=28015

lc07 · August 2014

I mean, maybe I can even take this bridesmaid dress with it's stupid size and burn it.

lc07 · August 2014

CMGragain said:

lc07 said:

daria24 said:

Clothing sizes suck. My wedding dress was 3 sizes bigger than my normal dresses, the waist barely fit and then the chest was about 20 sizes too big. So I felt like a cow with boobs that were OBVIOUSLY way too puny. And you absolutely should go on vacation. You can see your family for orthodox Christmas Can you swing Hawaii? Yeah it has the stereotype of being a HM destination, but Oahu is less "romantic" and has a ton of stuff to do where you won't be surrounded by googly-eyed couples. And they celebrate Christmas but how Christmasy can it feel when it's 85 degrees out? Plus you can watch all of the hot hot hot surfers on the North Shore. Or you can go to the Big Island and be away from everyone and have lots of fun adventures.

I love this. I have about a $2,000 - $3,000 budget for 5 days/nights. I know Hawaii is expensive and so is the airfare - and the holidays are always expensive to travel so I really have no idea but you're right - it would be completely different than any Christmas I've experienced since it's tropical. Hence my thoughts about Mexico. I've lived in CA for 10 years and never made it to HI!

*correction on number of days
*and that budget has to include EVERYTHING like rental car, hotel, airfare, food, drinks etc.

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27364

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=38443

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=23152

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27910

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=28015

Thank you @CMGragain !

How is your eye, by the way?

lc07 · August 2014

double post

lc07 · August 2014

Oh my gosh, I am annoying myself even the way I am sounding in this thread. I appreciate and love you guys. Thanks for putting up with me.

beethery · August 2014

I'm sure you can find a woowoo spa destination or something in California or Mexico. I'm not familiar with the Cali at all beyond LAX and Disneyland.

I will never ever hate on a "fuck y'all I'm out" vacation. Sometimes you need to be by yourself and do your own thing. Luxuriating while doing so is a great option to have for that kind of trip.

CMGragain · August 2014

lc07 said:

CMGragain said:

lc07 said:

daria24 said:

Clothing sizes suck. My wedding dress was 3 sizes bigger than my normal dresses, the waist barely fit and then the chest was about 20 sizes too big. So I felt like a cow with boobs that were OBVIOUSLY way too puny. And you absolutely should go on vacation. You can see your family for orthodox Christmas Can you swing Hawaii? Yeah it has the stereotype of being a HM destination, but Oahu is less "romantic" and has a ton of stuff to do where you won't be surrounded by googly-eyed couples. And they celebrate Christmas but how Christmasy can it feel when it's 85 degrees out? Plus you can watch all of the hot hot hot surfers on the North Shore. Or you can go to the Big Island and be away from everyone and have lots of fun adventures.

I love this. I have about a $2,000 - $3,000 budget for 5 days/nights. I know Hawaii is expensive and so is the airfare - and the holidays are always expensive to travel so I really have no idea but you're right - it would be completely different than any Christmas I've experienced since it's tropical. Hence my thoughts about Mexico. I've lived in CA for 10 years and never made it to HI!

*correction on number of days
*and that budget has to include EVERYTHING like rental car, hotel, airfare, food, drinks etc.

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27364

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=38443

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=23152

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=27910

http://www.vacationstogo.com/fastdeal.cfm?deal=28015

Thank you @CMGragain !

How is your eye, by the way?

It sucks! Owwwwww!

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