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emandmeg
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Mountain Wedding Success!
We cut costs wherever possible, and we had the most amazing wedding. We are a same sex couple, she wore a suit we had tailored and I bought a dress on ebay that was new in the box, and had it fit to size. We carried bouquets of daisies and had friends make centerpieces with mason jars, babies breath, eucalyptus and wildflowers. Instead of a cake, we had a pie bar, our guests brought 60 amazing home made pies! we decorated the aisle with stumps, topped with white candles, leaves and pine sprigs. A friend who DJ's on the side ran the sound and music, and the whole thing was gorgeous and incredible. Friends did our hair and makeup and my sister did THE WORST nail painting job the morning of the wedding. A sweet gesture and enjoyable time between us. The weather held and the BBQ was great.
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Re: Mountain Wedding Success!
Seriously, though...it would make me feel even more part of the day. That could be an interesting tradition, especially in cases where the couple is "grown" enough to not need another coffee maker! Maybe you've started a new thing here!
T.
P.S. Congrats! I'm so happy to be an ally during this part of history where *ALL* of my friends will probably soon have the right to marry.
We DJ'd many weddings back in the day. There was one incredible spread of cookies that were all made by the bride's father. Gorgeous little cookies, it must have taken him weeks.
It sounds like a lovely day! Congratulations, I wish you both much happiness.
I'll speak my mind whenever and wherever I damn well want to. If you want to do something rude, I am going to tell you it's rude. Don't like it? Tough titties. If you think I'm the only person here who voices the fact that potluck weddings are rude then I double dog dare you to start a thread asking people's opinions on potluck weddings.
Guess what? I'm also a total baking show off! I'm told all the time that I should open a bakery. I bring baked goods to gatherings all the time when I know that they're appreciated. I bake goods for the meetings I call and have people come just for the goodies. I bake treats for the grad lounge just because, and when it's been a while since I brought something in I get people asking when I'm bringing something and talking about their favorite thing I've baked. But none of that is relevant. A wedding is a hosted event. You invite guests to witness your wedding ceremony, and then you host them with appropriate beverages and food items for the time of day as a thank you to your guests. It is absolutely inappropriate and rude to ask/demand that your guests host themselves. This is truly one of the rudest things you can do at a wedding.
You are wrong. A wedding is two people getting married. How they celebrate depends entirely on how they and their families and friends feel about it.
In my circles wedding parties are NOT to thank the guests for watching our ceremonies. A lot of my friends and myself didn´t even have ceremonies since we are not religious. Are you to tell me that non religious people are not allowed to celebrate? Or is it up to you to tell us how exactly to celebrate?
If emandmeg is from circles who celebrate weddings with potlucks , your opinion of their way of celebration is irrelevant. I have never heard of potluck weddings until this forum and yet apparently this is a common practice in some circles.
It may have been rude to you, if you were invited , but luckily for them and you, you were not invited. Whoever was invited actually liked to participate and enjoyed it.
To be rude by definition means to offend somebody. If nobody is offended and that is the common practice , it is not rude. Like when you wrote ``Tough titties.`` , to me it is rude. To you it obviously is not. Maybe thats how you talk to eachother in your family and with your friends.
Emandmeg, congratulations! Your wedding sounds great. I have helped friends with hair, makeup and decorations and loved it. I also loved the compliments for what I did , so I am sure that your guests were not offended and truly enjoyed themselves
I'm the fuck out.
I'm the fuck out.
You know what makes me miserable? People breaking etiquette and treating me like crap. That sucks. And that's exactly what I'm trying to help others avoid doing. If me telling you that you must treat your guests well or not invite any guests at all makes you miserable then clearly you need some misery in your life. You feel sorry for me? Well, I feel sorry for your guests. Clearly you DGAF about their comfort.
Since the reception is an action or a process, it implies a relationship. So while it is true the party is coordinated by the couple, it can also be seen as their community recognizing them as a new family unit.
That has been the long-standing purpose of a marriage act. Not only an expression of love (which can take many forms) but a public declaration of their commitment. The reception is for their community (social, religious, political, cultural) to recognize that union.
It's about the sharing and recognition not about who is hosting over whom. Your community traditions will define the acceptable practices of how that's accomplished.