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TMI thoughts - what's your hell no?

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I've been loving the TMI thread but it's had me thinking about limits. What things are off limit for you?

Historically, I've always taken the approach that if the request wasn't dangerous (physically or emotionally), cruel, or offensive, I would give it a try. I covered a lot of territory.

It sounds like a lot of you have had interesting experiences too.

So what are your hell no's?
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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Other people--3 ways, swinging--hell no to that, for me.

    Used to feel that way about anal.  FI used to be uninterested, but after our accidental slip, he got really interested, so I'm willing to give it a go.  I'm more worried about the, uh, messiness than anything else.

    Anything too rapey--I have no desire to be restrained.  He'll hold my hands up over my head sometimes when he's on top, but will always let go if I pull away.




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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    @lurkergirl, I'm the same about 3 ways and swinging. And Rapey stuff.




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  • beetherybeethery member
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    Group sex, not my deal.
    Pegging, tried it with an ex, wasn't very good at it.
    Anal, coach bus in a coke can. Also poop. No.


    Final one that I can think of: MEANNESS AND DISRESPECT IN ANY FORM. NO FUCKING WAY.
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    Hell nos... Other people, anything that happens in the washroom or anything that causes real injuries.

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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    beethery said:
    Group sex, not my deal.
    Pegging, tried it with an ex, wasn't very good at it.
    Anal, coach bus in a coke can. Also poop. No.


    Final one that I can think of: MEANNESS AND DISRESPECT IN ANY FORM. NO FUCKING WAY.
    Well, I just learned about pegging tonight, so I forgot about that one.  But yeah, hell no to that too.  I have seen what comes out of that man, I do NOT need to go inside!!!




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  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    BDSM. I tried it once and it is a definite no for me.
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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    jdluvr06 said:
    BDSM. I tried it once and it is a definite no for me.
    Hmmm, never tried that at all.  I'd imagine it falls into the rapey category for me.

    ETA: Holy hell, it's after midnight already?!  I gots to go to bed y'all.  Night night!




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  • NdelibleNdelible member
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    Anything with pain.  That's an automatic nope, no way, no thanks...
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  • daria24daria24 member
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    Anything involving a third (or 4th or 5th or...) party. Anything involving poop or urine.

    I don't think I would ever let him ejaculate on my face, I find it really disrespectful.

    That's about it. H is really vanilla, but I'd be open to trying just about anything once.
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  • daria24daria24 member
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    I don't understand the aversion to pegging (not that I've done it). If your partner is interested, why not try it? It's not like you are sticking any of your body parts in there.

    I subscribe to the GGG school of thought, so I would be willing to try something that doesn't hurt me but that he is interested in exploring.
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  • falsarafalsara member
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    I'm normally up to try anything once.... right now my only no's are other people, and poop or pee. Other than that I'm pretty much up to trying it.

                                               

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  • beetherybeethery member
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    daria24 said:
    I don't understand the aversion to pegging (not that I've done it). If your partner is interested, why not try it? It's not like you are sticking any of your body parts in there. I subscribe to the GGG school of thought, so I would be willing to try something AT&T doesn't hurt me but that he is interested in exploring.
    I looooooved that guy, and he wanted to try it. So we tried it. And I was terrible at it and he was always in the middle of the road about whether he was into it or not while it was happening. Just wasn't my preference.
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    lurkergirl said:
    jdluvr06 said:
    BDSM. I tried it once and it is a definite no for me.
    Hmmm, never tried that at all.  I'd imagine it falls into the rapey category for me.

    ETA: Holy hell, it's after midnight already?!  I gots to go to bed y'all.  Night night!

    It didn't feel rapey. I was just really uncomfortable.
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    lurkergirl said:
    beethery said:
    Group sex, not my deal.
    Pegging, tried it with an ex, wasn't very good at it.
    Anal, coach bus in a coke can. Also poop. No.


    Final one that I can think of: MEANNESS AND DISRESPECT IN ANY FORM. NO FUCKING WAY.
    Well, I just learned about pegging tonight, so I forgot about that one.  But yeah, hell no to that too.  I have seen what comes out of that man, I do NOT need to go inside!!!
    I am honestly a tad scared to google this..............
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    Sometimes I think we could try a threesome, and then I get really jealous and clingy and nope.

    TMI DH really likes the taste of my pee.. If I let my blood sugar get high, it's really really sweet. But I don't let it get high very often (obviously because I want to stay healthy!)

    I however do not like him peeing in my mouth. We stopped that real fast.

    Anything with getting pleasure from pain or giving pain = no.

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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Nobody gets hurt (on purpose, everybody falls off the bed trying reverse cowgirl once in a while). No bathroom-related functions. Nothing that will trigger my PTSD.

    Other than that, anything goes.
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    OH. Absolutely no knives. I once had a guy hold a knife over me while on top. It took me a long time to be okay with DH having a pocket knife.

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    Sugargirl1019 said:
    OH. Absolutely no knives. I once had a guy hold a knife over me while on top. It took me a long time to be okay with DH having a pocket knife.
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    I have to ask what you guys mean when you say pain?

    I love 'some' pain. (Love bites, spanking and of course hair pulling) ;)
    But I don't know if you mean like... Being hit or cut (???)
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    WTF at knife comment... That is awful.
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  • larrygagalarrygaga member
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    Anything involving hitting or putting sperm on or around my face and hair. That's just straight up disrespect.

    I would do weird things if FI wanted to try, I'm pretty openminded and comfortable. I wouldn't suggest those things myself, tho.

    EDIT: I also want to add that I would say no to more people. Seriously, I am way too grossed out by the thought of sex with random people. If FI and I ever broke up IDK if I would ever have sex again. Maybe.
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    I tried anal, but it was too painful, gross for me. Once you "open that door," good luck closing it. H bothered me all the time why I wouldn't try it anymore. I guess he really liked it.  I offered to do it to him, so he could see what it feels like.  He stopped asking.
      I hate my neck touched... ever. I would never be tied down, but I think I could manage a blindfold. I would never do a threesome, although it interests me greatly in my imagination. I just think that 3 is a weird number... one person would be left with a small amount of attention paid to them.  If it were me, It would seriously question my relationship, and if H was attracted to me.  I would never swing, for the same purposes. And I don't swallow.... white fluid hitting the back of my throat at 20 mph... just what I need to initiate projectile vomiting as an Olympic sport.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    I am not into receiving anal.  I am not into pain (but, like PP said, love bites, spanking, etc. are OK).  No swinging or group sex.  No poop or pee stuff.  No to anything related to my SO's feet, but if they were into my feet that'd be OK I guess.  
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  • jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    I have been really busy at work tihs week (to get everyone thing done before I leave for my wedding next Thursday) so I haven't gotten a chance to read the TMI thread.

    Buyt it's funny that this thread is asked today because lately FI and I have been arguing about anal. He wants to try so bad and I just keep saying no. I get pissed because we'll be doing doggie and then he thinks he can just go for it and I won't notice or something but I turn around like "wtf dude, we've been over this, I said no". He mopes, but he never tries to force it or anything. It's just so annoying. Like I think it's disgusting, it's made for poop not for penis! I have a perfectly good vag, I don't understand why that's not good enough? He claims that if we ty it once and I hate it, then he'll never try again but I KNOW that's not going to happen and it's only going to make him want it again just like @muffinman16 said!

    I'm boring and monogomous so I have never done anything with extra people and never will. I don't even know what pegging is, so basically anything beyond standard sex I don't know and don't want to know hahaha! Also this might sound prudey but I don't own toys, I've never had a vibrator or anything.

    However, I'm fine with face shots, I didn't realize people found that disrespectful.

                                                                     

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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Wow.  So many things in these threads.  Much learn.  So secks.  Um...isn't putting pee in your mouth like...not good?  And holy shit at the knife, what the actual fuck?




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    Inkdancer said:
    Sugargirl1019 said:
    OH. Absolutely no knives. I once had a guy hold a knife over me while on top. It took me a long time to be okay with DH having a pocket knife.
    No words.
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    I'm not making this up. There was a guy a few years ago in like Colorado who liked to hold a gun to his wife's head during sex and he accidentally shot her and killed her. Why it was LOADED is an answer of Darwinism.

                                                                     

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  • wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    The knife crosses a line for me. It would scare the shit out of me. For me, I have to feel like I can end things at any time. This means I can't be tied up, held down, or blindfolded. Even when it's accidental, it ends very badly.

    Ironically, due to past jobs I'm great at talking about it on the phone but lousy at doing it to a partner IRL. I still have one old phone client from years ago and FI thinks it's fun to listen to my side of the convo.

    I've pegged, fisted, etc in past relationships but I'm not a fan. I can't help but feel like I'm doing damage and causing pain, even when it has been requested. I can't get past it. I've tried the pee thing but don't like it- it changes how I look at the guy in a way I have a hard time getting past.

    I also avoid group stuff. I've had no problem being a 3rd but won't introduce someone else into my own relationships. It's a double standard but I recognize that neither of us is emotionally capable of handling it. Fortunately, FI has no interest.

    Face and hair are fine if permission has been granted first. Otherwise, totally unacceptable.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    There's not much I would say no to, honestly. I would try just about anything once. Except for like being peed or pooped on. And I wouldn't want to pee or poop on someone either. 
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    Very few things are hard limits for me. Most are just soft limits that I'd be willing to bend/break if I had a partner who was really interested.

    Blood play: not even due to me having a blood disease (although that really helps cement my feeling!).
    Needles or anything "stabby". I don't mind the idea of knives or using them as a toy, but please nothing that involves breaking my skin directly.
    Children and non-consent. But I'm fine with rape-scenarios.

    Pretty much everything else is game on. Well, I mean, I guess I wouldn't eat poo if my partner asked, but that's a bit extreme.
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