Anal: We have tried it a few times. Fi loves it. I... don't hate it? It doesn't hurt if we do it right (lube, position, Fi's very gentle) but it also doesn't affirmatively feel good. We haven't done it in a few years, I think.
Shower: Our height difference is pretty average-- I'm 5'4" and he's 5'9". But somehow we can't get in a position that's stable enough for too long. So usually we start with P in the V and then when things get heated up, we can't move any faster or else we'll fall on our asses. We are both clumsy. So usually we finish with oral.
Oral: Yeah, I actually like giving oral too. Unless Fi lasts way too long and I start getting that jaw-falling-off feeling (thanks for the image @Beethery, that was hilarious). I think I like the power of oral.
Fi lasting too long: Yep, all the time. He's well-endowed too, so after like 30-45 minutes I'm just like.... I canNOT do this anymore. Sometimes I make him use his hand while I do oral to finish him off so that my arm doesn't start falling off. There's only so much my arm can take!
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
Anal - Well, we've tried. FI is...uh...really large.
Oral - giving and receiving - hell yes!
FI is very different, in that I've never encountered this before. And I've done the research. He can ejaculate (gross. I hate that word!) and just keep going. And going. And going. It doesn't stop. I usually have to tell him we have to stop because his P is large and my V is small and it gets hurty after a while.
Anal - Well, we've tried. FI is...uh...really large.
Oral - giving and receiving - hell yes!
FI is very different, in that I've never encountered this before. And I've done the research. He can ejaculate (gross. I hate that word!) and just keep going. And going. And going. It doesn't stop. I usually have to tell him we have to stop because his P is large and my V is small and it gets hurty after a while.
Fi can do this too! We used to go for 2 and 3 rounds with actually no break. As he's gotten older he can keep going but the multiple rounds thing is a little more challenging. It works for us because often we get caught up and he'll finish first, so then he can keep going to take care of me. We aren't worried about who finishes first because the pressure's off, we can just go until we're done.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
If I do it to the end, I swallow. However, it takes him a long time that way, and as others have stated, it's hard on the jaw! So, it's usually just a foreplay move for us.
Re: paranoid. I'm not really. I take birth control and I get my period every month, I'm good.
Re: hating condoms. The ones that are supposed to be ribbed and stuff to be more pleasing, oh come on. If anything they just feel funny. FI and I prefer condom-less sex, which we've been having for years.
Re: oral. I have had quite a few guys try for a while, it doesn't get me anywhere but it's hot, if that makes sense,
Re: toys. We tried a cock ring, it didn't do anything for me and he hated feeling like he had a, well, a vibrating ring on his dick. He also tried using a little vibrator that goes on the tip of your finger on me, it was not strong enough for me. TBH, I can't orgasm without my plug-in vibrator. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me or something, but apparently all I need is strong, constant vibration on my clitoris.
Re: shower. FI loves shower sex. I bend over a bit and go up on my tip toes, he bends his knees a bit and, well, yeah.
Re: anal. No way in heck am I receiving. I have to admit, a fantasy of mine is wearing a strap on and giving anal.
Anal - Well, we've tried. FI is...uh...really large.
Oral - giving and receiving - hell yes!
FI is very different, in that I've never encountered this before. And I've done the research. He can ejaculate (gross. I hate that word!) and just keep going. And going. And going. It doesn't stop. I usually have to tell him we have to stop because his P is large and my V is small and it gets hurty after a while.
Fi can do this too! We used to go for 2 and 3 rounds with actually no break. As he's gotten older he can keep going but the multiple rounds thing is a little more challenging. It works for us because often we get caught up and he'll finish first, so then he can keep going to take care of me. We aren't worried about who finishes first because the pressure's off, we can just go until we're done.
I swear, it's hard to keep up with him. And he's 40! I tell him all the time he's like an 18 years old.
I'm also in the camp that enjoys giving oral, and I don't mind swallowing. It's just never been a big deal to me. I enjoy knowing that I have the power to make him feel good. And he sure doesn't mind when I take charge and give a spontaneous BJ.
Regarding the shower sex, definitely will have to try those handles once we get our new place. Our current shower situation is....less than desirable.
Can't comment on the anal deal....he's way too big for that nonsense and it just seems really unsexy to me. I have way better fun parts to use!
In regard to giving. They only time I will swallow is if I am doing it in the shower. And then 90% of the time it gets all over my face and I feel like a slutty pron star... which I kinda like lol
Regarding giving oral, I like it for the most part. I have no problem with him ejaculating in my mouth and me swallowing it, though he prefers to ejaculate on my breasts. The best position we have for it (as well as titty-fucking, sorry, IDK what else to call it) is me lying down on my back and him kneeling/sitting over me.
Anal: FI likes it. I don't hate it, but it's not my top choice. It's something that gets the job done quickly though, so after 30+ minutes, if he wants to finish there, cool, it's only 30 seconds more until sleep!
Oral: I like doing it, I feel powerful and in control. Receiving, love it. All the time always. FI is a champ.
Toys: While we were LDR-ing it, we went shopping for a vibrator together, so when we were apart, I was still sort of thinking of him. A bit weird, but nice.
Showers: Not my bag. FI loves it, but frankly, I like my showers to myself! I don't understand the every-morning-shower-sex stuff, how do you get anything done???
Funny story: So we have these sheets that are kinda silky, kinda cottony. One time we had taken a quick water break during sexy times, and FI leapt back into the bed. Headfirst, to immediately go down on me. Well, he slipped. He headbutted me in my bathing suit area. I was walking funny for days.
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
If I do it to the end, I swallow. However, it takes him a long time that way, and as others have stated, it's hard on the jaw! So, it's usually just a foreplay move for us.
I gave H his first ever (everything really) blow job when we first started dating. I swallowed and then had to run to the bathroom to throw up.
H and I have been meaning to try anal. I get tense, and we don't usually have lots of ass play, so when he brings it up I get nervous. Like, we have anal beads, but we haven't used them in over a year, so it's like, "Hey, if you want to tap this, you should start using smaller things first so I can get used to it again"
But. I have pegged him. So you know. H is very equal opportunity.
How did you talk to him about that? I would love to try it. FI certainly enjoys doing it to me...
Also, how is it? I'm curious but scared to try. Afraid of hurting him- with a you, afraid I wouldn't know when I do something wrong until he hurts.
It's all right, H enjoys it but doesn't crave it. I get tired, and it's less about physical pleasure on my end.
It's a lot of work. Thrusting is hard.
Analysis for guys is just like analysis for ladies. Start slow, start small, use lots of lube and communicate.
Holy crap. How did I miss this? I have a lot of reading to do.
I've been on BC pills since I was a teenager. And I still sometimes forget to take them. And every month when my period shows up, I'm elated and say, "Praise JESUS!" (even though I'm not religious, and it seems weird to thank Jesus for my period), and then I do a happy dance.
Shower sex sucks. FI is 6'1" and I'm 5'1". Shower sex always hurts my back. Maybe I'm just an old lady.
My dog is a total creeper and will watch us having sex. At least now she stops jumping on the bed.
Not far from us, FI is 6"0 and I'm 4"11.5. It is a bit of a trick to do the shower stuff but like another pp said, it's easier to bend over completely, have him go in and then I can put one leg up on the side or something. Whatever you do, tell FI not to put his weight on the shower rail. Ours went down once and FI sometimes doesn't realise he'a freaking tree!
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
So funny story...
FI (then BF) was interning about 4 hours away from where we lived. One weekend, though, I was at my parents' house, which was about halfway between the two. So Mom invited FI to come and hang out at our house. So he did.
We hung out for a while, and then everyone went to sleep. Now, this is, like, the first time he's come down in a while, and we'd been doing the secks on the reg for months at this point. I'd been lonely and so had he. So since everyone was asleep, I figured I'd give him oral (which I do enjoy doing, so long as he's washed himself, which FI is obviously more than happy to do). So it's, like 1:30 in the morning, everyone else in the house is asleep, and I decide that I'm gonna attempt to swallow.
So he warns me that it's about to happen, which is usually my cue to escape, and I keep going, which makes the Boom happen even faster.
........
Stuff hits the back of my throat, and I cough and gag, and spew it all over him.
I have decided there are better ways for him to finish.
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
If I do it to the end, I swallow. However, it takes him a long time that way, and as others have stated, it's hard on the jaw! So, it's usually just a foreplay move for us.
I gave H his first ever (everything really) blow job when we first started dating. I swallowed and then had to run to the bathroom to throw up.
I do not swallow anymore.
I get really gaggy when I have cum in my mouth. I cam never really swallow it. There's so much of it...the texture too is so...gooey?
Oral: I love giving oral. As long as it doesn't last too long, then my jaw starts hurting. Depends on my mood if I swallow or not. Usually I don't, though. Haven't done that in a while, actually. Receiving oral, meh. I'm too self conscious. I'm so aware that I'm sprawled out and on display like some sort of Thanksgiving turkey.
Paranoid: I'm always paranoid. I hate the pill though, it turns me into a psycho. I've taken Plan B a few times thanks to my paranoia.
Shower Sex: It's okay, kinda hard (no pun intended) to execute sometimes.
Anal: tried it like twice, and I hate it. My cousin made it sound like it was the best thing since grilled cheese. It really isn't IMO. Also, I'm paranoid that I'll have fart or something.
Holy crap. How did I miss this? I have a lot of reading to do.
I've been on BC pills since I was a teenager. And I still sometimes forget to take them. And every month when my period shows up, I'm elated and say, "Praise JESUS!" (even though I'm not religious, and it seems weird to thank Jesus for my period), and then I do a happy dance.
Shower sex sucks. FI is 6'1" and I'm 5'1". Shower sex always hurts my back. Maybe I'm just an old lady.
My dog is a total creeper and will watch us having sex. At least now she stops jumping on the bed.
Not far from us, FI is 6"0 and I'm 4"11.5. It is a bit of a trick to do the shower stuff but like another pp said, it's easier to bend over completely, have him go in and then I can put one leg up on the side or something. Whatever you do, tell FI not to put his weight on the shower rail. Ours went down once and FI sometimes doesn't realise he'a freaking tree!
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Omg! Lol! See, the problem also with shower sex is that FI is pretty large, and certain positions can hurt. So if I like lean all the way over, he can sometimes go in way too deep. He tries to be careful, but you know. It's the shower. Things are slippery!
I love giving oral. And normally I swallow, because who wants to deal with the clean up otherwise. If he does come anywherected else then we're in the shower he just can't aim very well and getting it up the nose is so not cool.
I'm pretty small in the boob area. We have tried it and normally if he asks for it I gave it to him until the logistics don't work out....
One of the things about anal.... if you and him do do it but you're only so so with it trying using toys on yourself in the front end while he back there. Just don't do it with a full on dildo cause then it will feel like you are super super full, trust me on this.
Holy crap. How did I miss this? I have a lot of reading to do.
I've been on BC pills since I was a teenager. And I still sometimes forget to take them. And every month when my period shows up, I'm elated and say, "Praise JESUS!" (even though I'm not religious, and it seems weird to thank Jesus for my period), and then I do a happy dance.
Shower sex sucks. FI is 6'1" and I'm 5'1". Shower sex always hurts my back. Maybe I'm just an old lady.
My dog is a total creeper and will watch us having sex. At least now she stops jumping on the bed.
Not far from us, FI is 6"0 and I'm 4"11.5. It is a bit of a trick to do the shower stuff but like another pp said, it's easier to bend over completely, have him go in and then I can put one leg up on the side or something. Whatever you do, tell FI not to put his weight on the shower rail. Ours went down once and FI sometimes doesn't realise he'a freaking tree!
This thread is making me realize how many "accidents" that happen in the home are probably sex related. haha.
FI and I had a tiff last night because a) I was cranky b) I didn't get mine and c) I STILL had to clean up. Cleaning up after sexy time is not something I enjoy. Sometimes I just want to sleep lol
Anal - Well, we've tried. FI is...uh...really large.
Oral - giving and receiving - hell yes!
FI is very different, in that I've never encountered this before. And I've done the research. He can ejaculate (gross. I hate that word!) and just keep going. And going. And going. It doesn't stop. I usually have to tell him we have to stop because his P is large and my V is small and it gets hurty after a while.
Fi can do this too! We used to go for 2 and 3 rounds with actually no break. As he's gotten older he can keep going but the multiple rounds thing is a little more challenging. It works for us because often we get caught up and he'll finish first, so then he can keep going to take care of me. We aren't worried about who finishes first because the pressure's off, we can just go until we're done.
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FI and I had a tiff last night because a) I was cranky b) I didn't get mine and c) I STILL had to clean up. Cleaning up after sexy time is not something I enjoy. Sometimes I just want to sleep lol
We both always shower afterward. Even if we took a shower right before, we will still get in and rinse off.
There are times when we look at each other at night, and we're like, "wanna do it?" and then we're both like, "ehhh, I don't feel like taking a shower after. Let's just wait until tomorrow."
I just like to think that its because I got him SO good he doesn't need to come again luckily, he lasts a good amount of time so I always come first or with him. We finish at the same time a lot. That's pretty amazing
@Sugargirl1019 FI is the first guy I've been with where we can finish at the same time. It's not often but it is just about mind-blowing when it does happen. Jealous that you guys can make it happen a lot!
Well, a 10 page sex thread. Nice work, ladies! If sharing really does mean caring, then we freakin' love each other, don't we?!
Oral - love it. Giving trumps receiving in my book. And I swallow 99% of the time. It's just so much more efficient.
Anal - like it. It's not an every day kind of thing, but fairly regular. No shame.
Shower - can take it or leave it. If I had my druthers, I prefer to shower alone, but it can be fun every once in awhile.
Period sex - meh. Not a huge fan, but not appealed by it either.
Masturbation - love it. And prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration when working things on my own or when H is helping me.
Toys - like 'em. Much like anal, not part of our everyday, but use them somewhat regularly. And shopping for them is fun.
Boobs - itty bitty titty committee here. Just not a ton of fun on either of our parts.
Condoms - not a fan.
Multi-orgasms - occasionally for me, occasionally for him. Definitely not the norm for either of us.
Porn - I sometimes watch it, he sometimes watches it, we sometimes watch it together.
Pegging - no desire on either part, though he does enjoy a rim job on occasion, as do I.
Paranoia - not really. I've always been pretty regular, and was on the pill for years & years without so much a scare. I went off last year when H & I knew we wanted to get pregnant, and then I just tracked and tried hard to be careful (pull out) around ovulation time. And then it was hitching time and I ended up knocked up right after. Win-win!
At the end of the day, I love good ol' fashioned dick to vagina penetration. All the other stuff is fun, but nothing will trump the D.
Re: It's TMI time (there is so much more than BC going on in here)
Regarding the shower sex, definitely will have to try those handles once we get our new place. Our current shower situation is....less than desirable.
Can't comment on the anal deal....he's way too big for that nonsense and it just seems really unsexy to me. I have way better fun parts to use!
I gave H his first ever (everything really) blow job when we first started dating. I swallowed and then had to run to the bathroom to throw up.
I do not swallow anymore.
It's all right, H enjoys it but doesn't crave it. I get tired, and it's less about physical pleasure on my end.
It's a lot of work. Thrusting is hard.
Analysis for guys is just like analysis for ladies. Start slow, start small, use lots of lube and communicate.
I'm pretty small in the boob area. We have tried it and normally if he asks for it I gave it to him until the logistics don't work out....
One of the things about anal.... if you and him do do it but you're only so so with it trying using toys on yourself in the front end while he back there. Just don't do it with a full on dildo cause then it will feel like you are super super full, trust me on this.
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I'm really really really jealous... I've wondered secretly if there was something wrong medically.. He's absolutely completely done after he finishes. No round two EVER. Hes too sensitive to stay hard or let me try to make him hard again. And he's so young! I'm worried about as he ages
We both always shower afterward. Even if we took a shower right before, we will still get in and rinse off.
There are times when we look at each other at night, and we're like, "wanna do it?" and then we're both like, "ehhh, I don't feel like taking a shower after. Let's just wait until tomorrow."