Also does anyone have a problem where your man lasts a little too long. I mean I love it but he's so good that I can't always keep going after its been 45 minutes and I've already had quite a few Os. sorry if that's was a a TMI.
Sometimes I am just burnt out. Like, my god, I just got mine MULTIPLE TIMES, why aren't you done yet???? So I'll go down on him and I find myself looking at the clock occasionally while my wrists and jaw joints are effectively disintegrating.
I've asked him about it and he's like it's great, no complaints, I'm just not there yet sometimes.
FUCKS SAKE MAN WHAT DO I GOTTA DO??!?!?!?! I can only work it right without a break for 40 minutes before I'm ready to rip my arm out of the socket and smack him with it. Still no solution.
That is what I call "whiskey dick" for us. I'm spent because I almost always two to his one orgasms under normal circumstances. Usually, we just give up for the night or break out the toys that I use on him. I was never a toy girl before FH. Count me in! I happen to think committed relationships can be the best place to explore your sexuality because you feel safe and loved. It's easier to let yourself go.
Also does anyone have a problem where your man lasts a little too long. I mean I love it but he's so good that I can't always keep going after its been 45 minutes and I've already had quite a few Os. sorry if that's was a a TMI.
Sometimes I am just burnt out. Like, my god, I just got mine MULTIPLE TIMES, why aren't you done yet???? So I'll go down on him and I find myself looking at the clock occasionally while my wrists and jaw joints are effectively disintegrating.
I've asked him about it and he's like it's great, no complaints, I'm just not there yet sometimes.
FUCKS SAKE MAN WHAT DO I GOTTA DO??!?!?!?! I can only work it right without a break for 40 minutes before I'm ready to rip my arm out of the socket and smack him with it. Still no solution.
That is what I call "whiskey dick" for us. I'm spent because I almost always two to his one orgasms under normal circumstances. Usually, we just give up for the night or break out the toys that I use on him. I was never a toy girl before FH. Count me in! I happen to think committed relationships can be the best place to explore your sexuality because you feel safe and loved. It's easier to let yourself go. -------------box--------------- Ohhh hmm.. I never knew that was whiskey dick. My roommate in college always complained about her boyfriend drinking whiskey and then being unable to have sex when she was clearly drunk and in the mood. I just assumed and inferred that whiskey dick was "can't stay hard, can't get hard".
Also does anyone have a problem where your man lasts a little too long. I mean I love it but he's so good that I can't always keep going after its been 45 minutes and I've already had quite a few Os. sorry if that's was a a TMI.
Sometimes I am just burnt out. Like, my god, I just got mine MULTIPLE TIMES, why aren't you done yet???? So I'll go down on him and I find myself looking at the clock occasionally while my wrists and jaw joints are effectively disintegrating.
I've asked him about it and he's like it's great, no complaints, I'm just not there yet sometimes.
FUCKS SAKE MAN WHAT DO I GOTTA DO??!?!?!?! I can only work it right without a break for 40 minutes before I'm ready to rip my arm out of the socket and smack him with it. Still no solution.
That is what I call "whiskey dick" for us. I'm spent because I almost always two to his one orgasms under normal circumstances. Usually, we just give up for the night or break out the toys that I use on him. I was never a toy girl before FH. Count me in! I happen to think committed relationships can be the best place to explore your sexuality because you feel safe and loved. It's easier to let yourself go.
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Ohhh hmm.. I never knew that was whiskey dick. My roommate in college always complained about her boyfriend drinking whiskey and then being unable to have sex when she was clearly drunk and in the mood. I just assumed and inferred that whiskey dick was "can't stay hard, can't get hard".
Oh, he can get hard alright - maybe it takes a minute or two longer than usual, but he can't cum! No matter how much sucking, licking, fucking and whatnot. After pounding for a while, a gal can dry up, know what I mean?
We watch porn together but most girl-girl porn is so fucking bad. I'm sorry, no. That isn't how lesbian sex works. It's so obvious that it's just to entertain the straight male fantasy of what two women banging looks like. Plus the nails scare me.
It takes awhile to find something we like, but when we do, we watch it. A lot.
OMG right??
I've never been able to get into watching other people do it. Either I don't find them attractive from the get-go, or there's at minimum one aspect that bugs me. Nails, terrible acting, weird tattoos that have spelling errors etc.
Oh god the tattoos! I judge the tattoos so hard. Or really bad tan lines. Like dude, you take off your clothes for a living, go to a tanning bed and get naked, alright?
@MagicInk I am curious--and you don't have to answer if you don't want to--but do you and your FI ever watch straight porn?
We don't watch often at all, but we have watched a little girl-on-girl or 3-way (girl-girl-guy) stuff...just wondering if it goes both ways.
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We have but...we've always found it so fake. The girls boobs don't move...actually nothing on them moves, and no one really seems to be enjoying themselves. I mean aside from the big fake moans as soon as he sticks it in her. Yeah, no, that seems realistic. Every woman I know says they have an orgasm the very minute a penis enters them, yep.
We do like gay male porn. Especially me. Hell I've written some dude/dude fanfic before. Those guys are good looking. Even as a gay woman, damn. Straight dude porn...not as great looking.
Though can we discuss all the genital close ups in porn? Like "look, look inside this girl's vagina", um no thank you. I wanna see you have sex with her, not give her a pap smear.
We watch porn together but most girl-girl porn is so fucking bad. I'm sorry, no. That isn't how lesbian sex works. It's so obvious that it's just to entertain the straight male fantasy of what two women banging looks like. Plus the nails scare me.
It takes awhile to find something we like, but when we do, we watch it. A lot.
OMG right??
I've never been able to get into watching other people do it. Either I don't find them attractive from the get-go, or there's at minimum one aspect that bugs me. Nails, terrible acting, weird tattoos that have spelling errors etc.
Oh god the tattoos! I judge the tattoos so hard. Or really bad tan lines. Like dude, you take off your clothes for a living, go to a tanning bed and get naked, alright?
@MagicInk I am curious--and you don't have to answer if you don't want to--but do you and your FI ever watch straight porn?
We don't watch often at all, but we have watched a little girl-on-girl or 3-way (girl-girl-guy) stuff...just wondering if it goes both ways.
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We have but...we've always found it so fake. The girls boobs don't move...actually nothing on them moves, and no one really seems to be enjoying themselves. I mean aside from the big fake moans as soon as he sticks it in her. Yeah, no, that seems realistic. Every woman I know says they have an orgasm the very minute a penis enters them, yep.
We do like gay male porn. Especially me. Hell I've written some dude/dude fanfic before. Those guys are good looking. Even as a gay woman, damn. Straight dude porn...not as great looking.
Though can we discuss all the genital close ups in porn? Like "look, look inside this girl's vagina", um no thank you. I wanna see you have sex with her, not give her a pap smear.
That's another thing about porn lately that bugs me - when they grab their ass cheeks to spread them and show up their asshole - blech. I don't need to see down that looking glass (or ass).
I just want to thank everyone for totally ruining me for doing work for the rest of the day! And FH thanks you in advance for me jumping his bones when I get home this evening!
One of my friends was seriously grossed out when I said I would kiss FI immediately after he goes down on m. I mean, hell, he'll kiss me after I give him a BJ (and I swallow) - what's the difference?
Oh heck yes I''ll kiss FI after he goes down on me (which isn't that often) and he finds it hot as hell when I lick and suck his fingers after they are inside me, too. However, after giving him cumming in my mouth, he doesn't want to kiss me until I brush my teeth and stuff, but he'll give me a peck.
I just want to thank everyone for totally ruining me for doing work for the rest of the day! And FH thanks you in advance for me jumping his bones when I get home this evening!
Yep. I somehow manage to do all my cleaning in between knotting furiously.
And I just got the text from FI saying, "Be home at 6:30. Love you. Look sexy."
He must be reading my mind
And I hereby proclaim that hundreds of partners all across the land shall be sexually satisfied this weekend. And maybe try something new
Much thanks to @JCbride2015 for forgetting her NuvaRing!
I just want to thank everyone for totally ruining me for doing work for the rest of the day! And FH thanks you in advance for me jumping his bones when I get home this evening!
Yep. I somehow manage to do all my cleaning in between knotting furiously.
And I just got the text from FI saying, "Be home at 6:30. Love you. Look sexy."
He must be reading my mind
And I hereby proclaim that hundreds of partners all across the land shall be sexually satisfied this weekend. And maybe try something new
Much thanks to @JCbride2015 for forgetting her NuvaRing!
Haha, glad all you ladies are benefitting from it!
If anybody is actually still wondering about the original issue, I figured I'm probably okay but we are waiting a week for P in V JIC. Thanks to this thread I have lots of other ideas lol! I'll also be away babysitting this whole weekend so that makes it easier.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
@lurkergirl got me in to this thread last night. I had ignored it because I don't use hormonal birth control, and wondered how such a thread had possibly gotten so long, but imagined it would be pretty boring.
You ladies were making me feel all sad for a while. FI decided that my vajayjay was broken (he spend 40 minutes solely trying to get me off last week, and after that I put in ten, then decided it wasn't going to happen). I was all like, "oh no! Everyone has these hilarious sex stories to share and I'm broken!" (That was his choice of word). But he got home tonight, and everything is fixed now. I guess it's probably sometimes hormonal or something.
@lurkergirl got me in to this thread last night. I had ignored it because I don't use hormonal birth control, and wondered how such a thread had possibly gotten so long, but imagined it would be pretty boring.
You ladies were making me feel all sad for a while. FI decided that my vajayjay was broken (he spend 40 minutes solely trying to get me off last week, and after that I put in ten, then decided it wasn't going to happen). I was all like, "oh no! Everyone has these hilarious sex stories to share and I'm broken!" (That was his choice of word). But he got home tonight, and everything is fixed now. I guess it's probably sometimes hormonal or something.
Nope, not broken! Sometimes if I'm really stressed about something, or if I don't feel "right", nothing works. Then once the stressor/not-"right"-thing goes away, I'm good to go. Or if FI can manage to get me unfocused... he's very talented... ;D
@lurkergirl got me in to this thread last night. I had ignored it because I don't use hormonal birth control, and wondered how such a thread had possibly gotten so long, but imagined it would be pretty boring.
You ladies were making me feel all sad for a while. FI decided that my vajayjay was broken (he spend 40 minutes solely trying to get me off last week, and after that I put in ten, then decided it wasn't going to happen). I was all like, "oh no! Everyone has these hilarious sex stories to share and I'm broken!" (That was his choice of word). But he got home tonight, and everything is fixed now. I guess it's probably sometimes hormonal or something.
Nope, not broken! Sometimes if I'm really stressed about something, or if I don't feel "right", nothing works. Then once the stressor/not-"right"-thing goes away, I'm good to go. Or if FI can manage to get me unfocused... he's very talented... ;D
I'm super bad at getting my mind off things that are bothering me, and I suppose this hasn't been a good week.
Also, I sort of feel like sometimes she doesn't want an audience, if that makes sense.
We watch porn together but most girl-girl porn is so fucking bad. I'm sorry, no. That isn't how lesbian sex works. It's so obvious that it's just to entertain the straight male fantasy of what two women banging looks like. Plus the nails scare me.
It takes awhile to find something we like, but when we do, we watch it. A lot.
@lurkergirl got me in to this thread last night. I had ignored it because I don't use hormonal birth control, and wondered how such a thread had possibly gotten so long, but imagined it would be pretty boring.
You ladies were making me feel all sad for a while. FI decided that my vajayjay was broken (he spend 40 minutes solely trying to get me off last week, and after that I put in ten, then decided it wasn't going to happen). I was all like, "oh no! Everyone has these hilarious sex stories to share and I'm broken!" (That was his choice of word). But he got home tonight, and everything is fixed now. I guess it's probably sometimes hormonal or something.
Nope, not broken! Sometimes if I'm really stressed about something, or if I don't feel "right", nothing works. Then once the stressor/not-"right"-thing goes away, I'm good to go. Or if FI can manage to get me unfocused... he's very talented... ;D
I'm super bad at getting my mind off things that are bothering me, and I suppose this hasn't been a good week.
Also, I sort of feel like sometimes she doesn't want an audience, if that makes sense.
I sowwy. Hope your weekend is better than your week! Also, see if you can convince your FI he needs to give you a destress massage. Like, not a Massage that will lead to Fun Times, but a massage that will lead to a less stressed, more happy MissDelilah in general.
Also - yeah, the audience thing I can understand. Secksytimes can be great but sometimes Alone Time is also very nice. Gets old though...
Thank you @CaitTDid23. I really hope we get some good news this weekend and my vajayjay continues to be not broken.
And @Ndelible, you're right. Multitasking is such a mood killer. I can do it with about a million other things, but when it comes to that, anything distracting means no O for me.
@lovesclimbing I love giving oral too. What are everyone's thoughts on swallowing? I do occasionally but not too often. If I'm really turned on it's easier but if I'm just waiting for him to come, then I struggle with it a bit.
Ive only been able to get H to orgasm orally once. That time was in my mouth but I spit. I wasn't a fan of the taste. I wouldn't mind trying swallowing sometime but I can never get him all the way.
Anal - Well, we've tried. FI is...uh...really large.
Oral - giving and receiving - hell yes!
FI is very different, in that I've never encountered this before. And I've done the research. He can ejaculate (gross. I hate that word!) and just keep going. And going. And going. It doesn't stop. I usually have to tell him we have to stop because his P is large and my V is small and it gets hurty after a while.
Fi can do this too! We used to go for 2 and 3 rounds with actually no break. As he's gotten older he can keep going but the multiple rounds thing is a little more challenging. It works for us because often we get caught up and he'll finish first, so then he can keep going to take care of me. We aren't worried about who finishes first because the pressure's off, we can just go until we're done.
--------------BOXES DON'T EXIST ------------- I'm really really really jealous... I've wondered secretly if there was something wrong medically.. He's absolutely completely done after he finishes. No round two EVER. Hes too sensitive to stay hard or let me try to make him hard again. And he's so young! I'm worried about as he ages
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H never can do it twice. Too sensitive and he can't get hard for awhile afterward: 20-30 minutes. Sometimes he does me a second time and that's pretty nice.
I'm just reading this thread but I'm really confused by all the implications that unless you get the D you can't O. . . is that what you are saying?
Nope. Best for me is oral plus fingers.
Also, last night, after reading this thread, we went at it in the shower. We were both tired and standing sex is hard! So he threw a towel on the floor and we finished on the bathroom floor.
@lurkergirl got me in to this thread last night. I had ignored it because I don't use hormonal birth control, and wondered how such a thread had possibly gotten so long, but imagined it would be pretty boring.
You ladies were making me feel all sad for a while. FI decided that my vajayjay was broken (he spend 40 minutes solely trying to get me off last week, and after that I put in ten, then decided it wasn't going to happen). I was all like, "oh no! Everyone has these hilarious sex stories to share and I'm broken!" (That was his choice of word). But he got home tonight, and everything is fixed now. I guess it's probably sometimes hormonal or something.
Nope, not broken! Sometimes if I'm really stressed about something, or if I don't feel "right", nothing works. Then once the stressor/not-"right"-thing goes away, I'm good to go. Or if FI can manage to get me unfocused... he's very talented... ;D
I'm super bad at getting my mind off things that are bothering me, and I suppose this hasn't been a good week.
Also, I sort of feel like sometimes she doesn't want an audience, if that makes sense.
I am usually the same with stress, but FI uses the right approach (super loving with lots of kissing) I find that I can quite literally grind it out!
Not sure if this was covered in the past 333 posts....but what about masturbation? Has your partner encouraged you to masturbate, and/or wants to watch? DH asked to watch once, and he apparently learned a few things about satisfying me (wooohoo! I'm NOT complaining!)
While we covered toys, does your partner suggest you use them alone, or indicates some enjoyment in watching you use the toys?
Not sure if this was covered in the past 333 posts....but what about masturbation? Has your partner encouraged you to masturbate, and/or wants to watch? DH asked to watch once, and he apparently learned a few things about satisfying me (wooohoo! I'm NOT complaining!)
While we covered toys, does your partner suggest you use them alone, or indicates some enjoyment in watching you use the toys?
Oh, it's definitely been discussed! There are all sorts of toy ideas!
FI loves to watch with the rabbit. He likes to help too
I rarely use it alone, but every once in a while I enjoy it.
Other people mentioned a number of other toys and gadgets. Plus various shower heads or jacuzzi jets. We also have a bullet, that's good for use during the act.
Not sure if this was covered in the past 333 posts....but what about masturbation? Has your partner encouraged you to masturbate, and/or wants to watch? DH asked to watch once, and he apparently learned a few things about satisfying me (wooohoo! I'm NOT complaining!) We've watched each other before, but this was before I had gotten my plug-in vibrator so I hadn't orgasmed yet. But yeah, I think we both enjoyed watching each other.
While we covered toys, does your partner suggest you use them alone, or indicates some enjoyment in watching you use the toys? He prefers me not to use it alone as he is afraid of it replacing him or something, but my therapist has said that it is my body to do with what I wish and he cannot control what I do with it so she suggests I tell him this and masturbate whenever I feel like it. He is the only one to initiate now, since whenever I tried to before he would always say no so we kind of made a deal that if he was in the mood then he would be the one making the moves instead of me being turned down all the time.
Not sure if this was covered in the past 333 posts....but what about masturbation? Has your partner encouraged you to masturbate, and/or wants to watch? DH asked to watch once, and he apparently learned a few things about satisfying me (wooohoo! I'm NOT complaining!) We've watched each other before, but this was before I had gotten my plug-in vibrator so I hadn't orgasmed yet. But yeah, I think we both enjoyed watching each other.
While we covered toys, does your partner suggest you use them alone, or indicates some enjoyment in watching you use the toys?He prefers me not to use it alone as he is afraid of it replacing him or something, but my therapist has said that it is my body to do with what I wish and he cannot control what I do with it so she suggests I tell him this and masturbate whenever I feel like it. He is the only one to initiate now, since whenever I tried to before he would always say no so we kind of made a deal that if he was in the mood then he would be the one making the moves instead of me being turned down all the time.
Not sure if this was covered in the past 333 posts....but what about masturbation? Has your partner encouraged you to masturbate, and/or wants to watch? DH asked to watch once, and he apparently learned a few things about satisfying me (wooohoo! I'm NOT complaining!) We've watched each other before, but this was before I had gotten my plug-in vibrator so I hadn't orgasmed yet. But yeah, I think we both enjoyed watching each other.
While we covered toys, does your partner suggest you use them alone, or indicates some enjoyment in watching you use the toys? He prefers me not to use it alone as he is afraid of it replacing him or something, but my therapist has said that it is my body to do with what I wish and he cannot control what I do with it so she suggests I tell him this and masturbate whenever I feel like it. He is the only one to initiate now, since whenever I tried to before he would always say no so we kind of made a deal that if he was in the mood then he would be the one making the moves instead of me being turned down all the time.
Re: It's TMI time (there is so much more than BC going on in here)
That is what I call "whiskey dick" for us. I'm spent because I almost always two to his one orgasms under normal circumstances. Usually, we just give up for the night or break out the toys that I use on him. I was never a toy girl before FH. Count me in! I happen to think committed relationships can be the best place to explore your sexuality because you feel safe and loved. It's easier to let yourself go.
That is what I call "whiskey dick" for us. I'm spent because I almost always two to his one orgasms under normal circumstances. Usually, we just give up for the night or break out the toys that I use on him. I was never a toy girl before FH. Count me in! I happen to think committed relationships can be the best place to explore your sexuality because you feel safe and loved. It's easier to let yourself go.
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Ohhh hmm.. I never knew that was whiskey dick. My roommate in college always complained about her boyfriend drinking whiskey and then being unable to have sex when she was clearly drunk and in the mood. I just assumed and inferred that whiskey dick was "can't stay hard, can't get hard".
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Mmm. James Deen.
Oh, he can get hard alright - maybe it takes a minute or two longer than usual, but he can't cum! No matter how much sucking, licking, fucking and whatnot. After pounding for a while, a gal can dry up, know what I mean?
And I just got the text from FI saying, "Be home at 6:30. Love you. Look sexy."
He must be reading my mind
And I hereby proclaim that hundreds of partners all across the land shall be sexually satisfied this weekend. And maybe try something new
Much thanks to @JCbride2015 for forgetting her NuvaRing!
If anybody is actually still wondering about the original issue, I figured I'm probably okay but we are waiting a week for P in V JIC. Thanks to this thread I have lots of other ideas lol! I'll also be away babysitting this whole weekend so that makes it easier.
Wow, that was a fun afternoon catching up on this thread.
You're welcome.
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I'm really really really jealous... I've wondered secretly if there was something wrong medically.. He's absolutely completely done after he finishes. No round two EVER. Hes too sensitive to stay hard or let me try to make him hard again. And he's so young! I'm worried about as he ages
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H never can do it twice. Too sensitive and he can't get hard for awhile afterward: 20-30 minutes. Sometimes he does me a second time and that's pretty nice.
Also, last night, after reading this thread, we went at it in the shower. We were both tired and standing sex is hard! So he threw a towel on the floor and we finished on the bathroom floor.
Not exactly. Fi can make me O with his hands, mouth, toys, etc. I just can't do it when I am by myself.
FI loves to watch with the rabbit. He likes to help too
I rarely use it alone, but every once in a while I enjoy it.
Other people mentioned a number of other toys and gadgets. Plus various shower heads or jacuzzi jets. We also have a bullet, that's good for use during the act.
I'm the fuck out.