I'm sorry you don't feel your courthouse wedding was romantic. I think getting married to the love of your life is pretty romantic in and of itself. It doesn't matter where it happens.
Also, people cannot have "as many ceremonies as they want". I missed my graduation ceremony because I had the flu. You don't see me having umpteen fake graduations ceremonies. Wearing a cap and gown is not required to graduate, and wearing a wedding dress is not required for a marriage.
Yes everyone knows we are already married. It is Facebook official and everything.
I'm sure other members of the lgbt community must be utterly thrilled that their years of fighting for marriage equality have finally resulted in your Facebook official marriage status.
Yes everyone knows we are already married. It is Facebook official and everything.
I'm sure other members of the lgbt community must be utterly thrilled that their years of fighting for marriage equality have finally resulted in your Facebook official marriage status.
I don't think this is fair. I took it to mean simply that the OP was assuring us that YES, everyone knows and there is no secret or attempt to lie. People often make comments about stuff being Facebook official. They don't get snarked at for it. Is that because they are straight? Why does her sexuality need to come into play regarding the FB comment? Her saying it here has no bearing on the LGBT community, IMO.
What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
Yes everyone knows we are already married. It is Facebook official and everything.
I'm sure other members of the lgbt community must be utterly thrilled that their years of fighting for marriage equality have finally resulted in your Facebook official marriage status.
I don't think this is fair. I took it to mean simply that the OP was assuring us that YES, everyone knows and there is no secret or attempt to lie. People often make comments about stuff being Facebook official. They don't get snarked at for it. Is that because they are straight? Why does her sexuality need to come into play regarding the FB comment? Her saying it here has no bearing on the LGBT community, IMO.
I agree with Addie. I believe OP was just reaffirming that yes everyone knows that she and her wife are married.
My advice is the same as everyone else has said. Just have it be a vow renewal and party your asses off. No need for a rehearsal.
Yes everyone knows we are already married. It is Facebook official and everything.
I'm sure other members of the lgbt community must be utterly thrilled that their years of fighting for marriage equality have finally resulted in your Facebook official marriage status.
I don't think this is fair. I took it to mean simply that the OP was assuring us that YES, everyone knows and there is no secret or attempt to lie. People often make comments about stuff being Facebook official. They don't get snarked at for it. Is that because they are straight? Why does her sexuality need to come into play regarding the FB comment? Her saying it here has no bearing on the LGBT community, IMO.
Well i was kind of being sarcastic, but you're probably right. I am wearing pms pants and wrote that impulsively. I know it's a sensitive subject, and I never want to offend!
Rehearsals happen every day for performances, ceremonies, speeches... why would a vow renewal be the one time that word merits the Dread Side-eye? Do y'all expect her guests, who as she's stated MULTIPLE TIMES are all aware that she and her wife are married (congratulations by the way, lashack... I'm sure the LGBT community IS thrilled for you), are going to hear the word "rehearsal," get confused, and start thinking they're rehearsing a first wedding?
Welcome Lashack! Congratulations for one year with your wife.
Since you are not hosting the dinner after the tour, I think it's best that the invitations you send only mentions the tour which you are paying for. You can allow information about going to dinner afterwards spread via word of mouth. If your family is anything like mine the word will spread through the grapevine rather easily!
Also, I totally understand what you mean by the term,"last hurrah" The phrase is very common in my family and used to reference the last exciting moment before returning to normalcy. (i.e. labor day weaken is the "last hurrah" before returning to school, etc.
I think maybe people are assuming that having a rehearsal means they are also having a bridal party and all of those wedding things that are not appropriate for a vow renewal.
Considering she calls it a wedding and says their first wedding was not romantic enough and people can have as many ceremonies as they want, this was also my assumption. I will stand corrected if I was wrong. And be happy about it.
"I'm not a rude bitch. I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."
Some of my friends were married years ago in CA when same sex marriage became legal. It very quickly stopped being legal within a couple months so I understand the feeling of needing to get married IMMEDIATELY once you could this next time around.
It was a gay marriage. But it is more about what our families want. They are asking for it. We were only allowed to have 8 people present at our ceremony. My wife is filipino and her family is HUGE. BOTH of our families have asked for this.
I got married at the Courthouse, yesterday in fact. It was just me and H, none of our families. There was a limit on number of people we could have too, so we didnt invite anyone. Our families want to celebrate with us, so we'll be having some type of party, though certainly not a re-do wedding.
There is nothing wrong with having a party. "Come celebrate us getting married"! But having a re-do ceremony? And a fake rehearsal? weird, tacky, and rude.
It was a gay marriage. But it is more about what our families want. They are asking for it. We were only allowed to have 8 people present at our ceremony. My wife is filipino and her family is HUGE. BOTH of our families have asked for this.
I got married at the Courthouse, yesterday in fact. It was just me and H, none of our families. There was a limit on number of people we could have too, so we didnt invite anyone. Our families want to celebrate with us, so we'll be having some type of party, though certainly not a re-do wedding.
There is nothing wrong with having a party. "Come celebrate us getting married"! But having a re-do ceremony? And a fake rehearsal? weird, tacky, and rude.
Seriously OP, don't do something for someone else (your family)-sure, have a party, but you already had an awesome wedding! You're married! That's pretty effing awesome.
The pleasure of your company is requested as Partner #1's full name and Partner #2's full name affirm their marriage vows Day, date time o'clock Venue Address City, State
See? No "wedding", no "bride". A proper vow renewal does not have a wedding party (bridesmaids), since it is NOT a wedding. An officiant is not necessary, since nothing legal is happening. You can recite your vows to each other. Here is another wording:
Partner #1 and Parner #2 were united in marriage Date City, State
The pleasure of your company is requested to celebrate their marriage Day, date (etc.)
This wording allows for a celebration party without the vow renewal. I, personally, prefer this, since many people might side-eye your re-do vows so close to your wedding. As for a rehearsal dinner, no wedding party should be involved. Vows are spoken (renewed) between the two of you. No rehearsal is necessary, Save your money for the big party! http://www.idotaketwo.com/blog/vow-renewal-etiquette/
We are having attendants as well as performing some traditional filipino ceremonies which involving people having to do things that they normally don't do which merits a rehersal. I have seen many vow-renewals which involved attendants and such. And an officiant proceeding over them. Thank you everyone for the advice on my original question. I am definitely going to go that route. Then no need to worry.
We are having attendants as well as performing some traditional filipino ceremonies which involving people having to do things that they normally don't do which merits a rehersal. I have seen many vow-renewals which involved attendants and such. And an officiant proceeding over them. Thank you everyone for the advice on my original question. I am definitely going to go that route. Then no need to worry.
Just because you have seen other people do something, doesn't mean that it is correct etiquette, or a good idea.
Re: Meal that is not rehearsal. How do we inform guests they need to pay without sounding bad
I'm sure other members of the lgbt community must be utterly thrilled that their years of fighting for marriage equality have finally resulted in your Facebook official marriage status.
I don't think this is fair. I took it to mean simply that the OP was assuring us that YES, everyone knows and there is no secret or attempt to lie. People often make comments about stuff being Facebook official. They don't get snarked at for it. Is that because they are straight? Why does her sexuality need to come into play regarding the FB comment? Her saying it here has no bearing on the LGBT community, IMO.
My advice is the same as everyone else has said. Just have it be a vow renewal and party your asses off. No need for a rehearsal.
I don't think this is fair. I took it to mean simply that the OP was assuring us that YES, everyone knows and there is no secret or attempt to lie. People often make comments about stuff being Facebook official. They don't get snarked at for it. Is that because they are straight? Why does her sexuality need to come into play regarding the FB comment? Her saying it here has no bearing on the LGBT community, IMO.
Well i was kind of being sarcastic, but you're probably right. I am wearing pms pants and wrote that impulsively. I know it's a sensitive subject, and I never want to offend!
Meh. Semantics. I don't care what they are called. Their function is still the same, regardless.
Partner #1's full name
and
Partner #2's full name
affirm their marriage vows
Day, date
time o'clock
Venue
Address
City, State
See? No "wedding", no "bride". A proper vow renewal does not have a wedding party (bridesmaids), since it is NOT a wedding. An officiant is not necessary, since nothing legal is happening. You can recite your vows to each other. Here is another wording:
Partner #1
and
Parner #2
were united in marriage
Date
City, State
The pleasure of your company is requested
to celebrate their marriage
Day, date (etc.)
This wording allows for a celebration party without the vow renewal. I, personally, prefer this, since many people might side-eye your re-do vows so close to your wedding.
As for a rehearsal dinner, no wedding party should be involved. Vows are spoken (renewed) between the two of you. No rehearsal is necessary, Save your money for the big party!
http://www.idotaketwo.com/blog/vow-renewal-etiquette/
We are having attendants as well as performing some traditional filipino ceremonies which involving people having to do things that they normally don't do which merits a rehersal. I have seen many vow-renewals which involved attendants and such. And an officiant proceeding over them. Thank you everyone for the advice on my original question. I am definitely going to go that route. Then no need to worry.