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The baby question.....

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edited October 2014 in Chit Chat
Ok so I thought this would be a fun topic. My fiance and I know we want children and have decided to probably start to try to have a baby reasonably soon after we are married. I kind of find myself getting "baby fever".lol I am excited about my wedding and all into planning and enjoying the moment but hope I don't have to wait to long after to start thinking about having a baby, "like within the first year of marriage". Well anyways, the popular TV show 19 Kids and Counting Star Jill Duggar and new hubby Derek Dillard announced their pregnancy like weeks after her wedding "I think it was around 9 weeks after". Which has caused a media frenzy! So my question is, do you think their is a stereotype of society expectation of when to get pregnant after your married? How to soon is too soon? Do brides who have those honeymoon babies get a bad reputation when they didn't do the current trend of taking the time to just be married couple? We plan to do whatever we want and don't care what people think but I thought this could be an interesting discussion.:)
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  • wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    I got asked about babies by 6 different people at our wedding. Not sure what to make of it...

    I think it is entirely about what's right for the couple. I hate the comments.

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  • pumpkincreamcake15pumpkincreamcake15 member
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    luckya23 said:

    You're damned if you and you're damned if you don't when you pay attention to what other people think.

    I think some of those same people who are critical of "honeymoon babies" have absolutey no issue with unmarried parents.

    I think your right it's sorta said what would rather married loving parents? or parents with no official commitment or single parent household? Hmm makes you wonder, some people :/
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    wandajune6 said:

    I got asked about babies by 6 different people at our wedding. Not sure what to make of it...

    I think it is entirely about what's right for the couple. I hate the comments.

    I agree it should be the couple.
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  • amelishaamelisha member
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    Totally depends on the social circle in my experience. My parents' friends think my womb is practically shrivelled but mine think it would be way too soon. We don't want any and I refuse conversation about it, though. I generally just say "I'd like to spend a bit more time with my abs, actually," and change the subject. You can't win with people on this one.

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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Totally up to the couple. People have made interesting remarks about my sisters pregnancy (she's not very far along), and they got married 5 months ago. I've been married a year and a half and people have stopped asking me (but I'm also not shy about my fertility issues).




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  • penguin44penguin44 member
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    I took a sick day a few weeks ago. Everyone at my office thought I was pregnant. Sorry guys! Just a cold!

    So yeah. Everyone thinks we will have kids soon. Well people that don't think to ask about our plan. I'm only 23. It won't be happening for a while people!
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    It isn't just up to you.  God has a special baby planned for you, and when the time is right, it will happen.  This applies to adoptive parents, too.
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    I snorted at "magic sky wizard."
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Wow.

    So....people who don't believe in god?  Do they not get a "special baby"? 
    You don't have to believe in God for Him to do miracles.
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  • BlergbotBlergbot member
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    I got surprise pregnant 4 months before our wedding. There goes my reputation...
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    Is this how unplanned pregnancies work too? Good to know. Thanks, magic sky wizard.


    I'll make sure to mention to my friend who's had four miscarriages and who is done trying to have kids that the magic sky wizard just didn't consider those babies special enough.
    And I'm pretty sure we use the evil dark magic of hormonal and barrier birth control to thwart "special plans" for us...

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  • luckya23luckya23 member
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    lurkergirl said:
    We'll be 30 and 36 and together over 7 years when we get married.  We are definitely not waiting for kids.  I started tracking my cycle when we set our date, and if things stay on track, I should be at peak fertility during the HM.  We will be trying!! :)



    Regarding God and babies:  I believe in God.  I believe God answers prayers.  I also believe that sometimes His answer is "no." 


    Just curious - what are you doing in the meantime?  And when is your wedding?

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    Just curious - what are you doing in the meantime?  And when is your wedding?
    For BC you mean?  Our wedding is in May.




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    You don't have to believe in God for Him to do miracles.
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    amelisha said:
    beethery said:
    slothiegal said:
    CMGragain said:
    It isn't just up to you.  God has a special baby planned for you, and when the time is right, it will happen.  This applies to adoptive parents, too.
    Wow.

    So....people who don't believe in god?  Do they not get a "special baby"? 
    Is this how unplanned pregnancies work too? Good to know. Thanks, magic sky wizard.
    I'll make sure to mention to my friend who's had four miscarriages and who is done trying to have kids that the magic sky wizard just didn't consider those babies special enough. And I'm pretty sure we use the evil dark magic of hormonal and barrier birth control to thwart "special plans" for us...
    But it's ok, God has a plan for them. (I'm not sure if your friends are Christian or not). His plan for them is probably related to piety or serving the community as role models for others about suffering miscarriages in His name or something.
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    For BC you mean?  Our wedding is in May.

    Yup.

    Just curious bc FI wants to start trying soon and I want to stop the Nuvaring at some point before but not sure when.  I don't want to actually try until after the wedding, but don't want to stay on it until then either.  As you can see, mine is the end of June.

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  • princessofgenoviaprincessofgenovia member
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    We're so not ready for the baby train yet. We had an unwanted pregnancy over a year ago, which forced the kid talk. Yes, we think we want them. Hell to the no we do not want them now or in the next few years.

    Birth control is my BFF.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

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    Yup.

    Just curious bc FI wants to start trying soon and I want to stop the Nuvaring at some point before but not sure when.  I don't want to actually try until after the wedding, but don't want to stay on it until then either.  As you can see, mine is the end of June.

    I went off BCP in May in preparation for TTC soon after the wedding (next month). I wanted to give my cycle at least six months to get back to normal. We're just using condoms in the meantime.
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  • slothiegalslothiegal member
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    @beethery what would I do without ya, booboo??

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    beethery said:
    @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

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    Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.
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