The baby question.....

Re: The baby question.....

• slothiegal member

  

  October 2014

  steph861 said:

  beethery said:

  @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

  
  

  
  

  Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.

  Oh my girl Latrice can do some Ursula realness, don't you worry.

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• beethery member

  

  October 2014

  steph861 said:

  beethery said:

  @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

  
  

  
  

  Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.

  I'm excited that you said this, because an artist did renderings of drag queens as Disney characters, and Latrice was portrayed as Ursula. It was so fucking perfect!

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• lurkergirl member

  

  October 2014

  luckya23 said:

  lurkergirl said:

  luckya23 said:

  lurkergirl said:

  We'll be 30 and 36 and together over 7 years when we get married.  We are definitely not waiting for kids.  I started tracking my cycle when we set our date, and if things stay on track, I should be at peak fertility during the HM.  We will be trying!!
  
  
  
  Regarding God and babies:  I believe in God.  I believe God answers prayers.  I also believe that sometimes His answer is "no." 
  
  
  

  Just curious - what are you doing in the meantime?  And when is your wedding?
  

  For BC you mean?  Our wedding is in May.
  

  Yup.

  Just curious bc FI wants to start trying soon and I want to stop the Nuvaring at some point before but not sure when.  I don't want to actually try until after the wedding, but don't want to stay on it until then either.  As you can see, mine is the end of June.
  

  Uhh...honestly?  Withdrawal.  Well, that and my half assed nfp/cycle tracking. 
  

  
  
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• jenna8984 member

  

  October 2014

  I almost don't even want to get into the whole God/ special gift thing because I don't want to be disrespectful to anyone's beliefs but I just can't bite my tongue here. Why would "HE" give such a special baby gift and then rip it away with leukemia 2 years later? 

  
  

  Don't give me that shit about everything happens for a reason. That is just terrible heartbreaking hell for the entire family- nothing about that situation is ever a silver lining or a "reason". 

  
  

  @slothiegal I'm with you. My baby will be egg, sperm, science. No storks over here. 

                                                                   

  
  

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• steph861 member

  

  October 2014

  beethery said:

  
  

  steph861 said:

  
  

  
  

  beethery said:

  
  

  @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.

  
  

  I'm excited that you said this, because an artist did renderings of drag queens as Disney characters, and Latrice was portrayed as Ursula. It was so fucking perfect!
  
  Ursula's appearance was actually based on the drag queen Divine.

  
  
  
  
  

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• pumpkincreamcake15 member

  

  October 2014

  wandajune6 said:

  I got asked about babies by 6 different people at our wedding. Not sure what to make of it...

  I think it is entirely about what's right for the couple. I hate the comments.

  I agree it should be the couple.

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• beethery member

  

  October 2014

  steph861 said:

  steph861 said:

  beethery said:

  @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

  
  

  
  

  Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.

  I'm excited that you said this, because an artist did renderings of drag queens as Disney characters, and Latrice was portrayed as Ursula. It was so fucking perfect!

  Ursula's appearance was actually based on the drag queen Divine.

  Yup! And I found this:

  
  

  
  

  Which inspired this:
  
  one of the coolest fan art creations I've ever seen.

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• slothiegal member

  

  October 2014

  steph861 said:

  Ursula's appearance was actually based on the drag queen Divine.

  Truly a FIERCE queen.

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• pumpkincreamcake15 member

  

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  Wow my original question of this thread has gone all over the place, completely trailed off, I'm lost.LOL:p

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• QueerFemme member

  

  October 2014

  God doesn't love me. I have no special gift. That's all you need right? Just gods gift? Not like sperm or anything?

  

  Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

  http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
  

  http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
  

  http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
  

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• steph861 member

  

  October 2014

  pumpkincreamcake15 said:

  Wow my original question of this thread has gone all over the place, completely trailed off, I'm lost.LOL:p

  To answer your original question (or at least give my opinion), I think the stereotype depends in part on the bride's age. I think expectations increase with the bride's age.
  

  
  
  
  
  

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• beethery member

  

  October 2014

  QueerFemme said:

  God doesn't love me. I have no special gift. That's all you need right? Just gods gift? Not like sperm or anything?

  I love you.

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• chibiyui member

  

  October 2014

  pumpkincreamcake15 said:

  Wow my original question of this thread has gone all over the place, completely trailed off, I'm lost.LOL:p

  To more or less answer your question, a lot of people will giggle/whisper over whether or not you were pregnant at the altar if you have a honeymoon baby. It's stupid and immature, cause who the fuck cares. But it will happen. The fact is. as women of birthing age, every fucking reproductive choice we make causes some asshole to judge us. We're not moving fast enough for some, and we're moving too fast for others. Don't worry about that and worry about when it's right for you.
  
  Also, the Duggars got the "backlash" they did because they are fucking assholes. Make yourself a sanctimonious asshole and people will gleefully watch for when you fall, because it will be glorious and entertaining.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• jdluvr06 member

  

  October 2014

  All I'm going to say about the god stuff is that if I were to say that as a Pagan, and changed God to Demete or Diana people would call me crazy or "woo woo" however if a Christian says it is typically considered acceptable. Double standard. I'm happy to see so many people point out how high handed that sounded.

  
  

  
  

  My DH and I are currently TTC and while we haven't officially told any relatives they kind of know. They know how much we want a baby. No one has really super bugged us though. Our families are cool.

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• steph861 member

  

  October 2014

  The Duggars also got backlash because they announced the pregnancy before what most people consider to be the "safe point."

  
  
  
  
  

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• Blergbot member

  

  October 2014

  We went in to one of our favorite restaurants yesterday and mentioned that we just got married. My bump was hidden behind the counter. As i was going to sit down (and my back was turned) the owner said, "You know what comes next, right?" I turned around and pointed to my belly and said, "Oh, this? Already on it." Priceless!

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• pumpkincreamcake15 member

  

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  steph861 said:

  The Duggars also got backlash because they announced the pregnancy before what most people consider to be the "safe point."

  yeah thats true.

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• pumpkincreamcake15 member

  

  October 2014

  chibiyui said:

  pumpkincreamcake15 said:

  Wow my original question of this thread has gone all over the place, completely trailed off, I'm lost.LOL:p

  To more or less answer your question, a lot of people will giggle/whisper over whether or not you were pregnant at the altar if you have a honeymoon baby. It's stupid and immature, cause who the fuck cares. But it will happen. The fact is. as women of birthing age, every fucking reproductive choice we make causes some asshole to judge us. We're not moving fast enough for some, and we're moving too fast for others. Don't worry about that and worry about when it's right for you.
  
  Also, the Duggars got the "backlash" they did because they are fucking assholes. Make yourself a sanctimonious asshole and people will gleefully watch for when you fall, because it will be glorious and entertaining.

  Ya your statement is so true. It seems like no matter what a women does when it comes to having children they get judged in some form. In a way it is unfair, we are human it is what happens! As far as the Duggar's they are just strange to me, sort of cult creepy like. 

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• slothiegal member

  

  October 2014

  chibiyui said:

  pumpkincreamcake15 said:

  Wow my original question of this thread has gone all over the place, completely trailed off, I'm lost.LOL:p

  To more or less answer your question, a lot of people will giggle/whisper over whether or not you were pregnant at the altar if you have a honeymoon baby. It's stupid and immature, cause who the fuck cares. But it will happen. The fact is. as women of birthing age, every fucking reproductive choice we make causes some asshole to judge us. We're not moving fast enough for some, and we're moving too fast for others. Don't worry about that and worry about when it's right for you.
  
  Also, the Duggars got the "backlash" they did because they are fucking assholes. Make yourself a sanctimonious asshole and people will gleefully watch for when you fall, because it will be glorious and entertaining.

  QFT.

  

  
  

  
  

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• goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 member

  

  October 2014

  QueerFemme said:

  God doesn't love me. I have no special gift. That's all you need right? Just gods gift? Not like sperm or anything?

  All you need is two Sims, a Woohoo, and a hot tub.

  

  
  

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  October 2014

  goldchocobo said:

  
  

  QueerFemme said:

  
  

  God doesn't love me. I have no special gift. That's all you need right? Just gods gift? Not like sperm or anything?

  
  

  All you need is two Sims, a Woohoo, and a hot tub.
  
  According to the bump, all you need is anal sex.

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• kat1114 member

  

  October 2014

  Slightly off topic, but all this talk of "God's gift" made me think of this...

  
  

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• KatieinBkln member

  

  October 2014

  Guys I'm living under a rock--what is TTC?

  
  

  Also no one has said shit to me about babies, probably because I am too scary and they can sense that inquiring after my uterus is a NOPE.

  
  

  This baby knows exactly how I feel

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  October 2014

  No one has really bugged us yet. A few random people made a comment here or there, but nothing major. Our parents aren't bugging us. I they would love a grand baby, but they are cool.  

  
  

  I really hate when people say, oh now it's time for a baby. And when you say: "oh not yet, we just want to enjoy being married" they say "oh well sometimes you don't have control over those things" (this came from a co worker that recently had a child).

  
  

  WTF. I've been having sex for 16 years and I haven't gotten pregnant yet.  And it's certainly not god that's made me not get pregnant, it's called birth control.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  October 2014

  KatieinBkln said:

  Guys I'm living under a rock--what is TTC?

  
  

  Also no one has said shit to me about babies, probably because I am too scary and they can sense that inquiring after my uterus is a NOPE.

  Trying to conceive.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• beethery member

  

  October 2014

  huskypuppy14 said:

  No one has really bugged us yet. A few random people made a comment here or there, but nothing major. Our parents aren't bugging us. I they would love a grand baby, but they are cool.  

  
  

  I really hate when people say, oh now it's time for a baby. And when you say: "oh not yet, we just want to enjoy being married" they say "oh well sometimes you don't have control over those things" (this came from a co worker that recently had a child).

  
  

  WTF. I've been having sex for 16 years and I haven't gotten pregnant yet.  And it's certainly not god that's made me not get pregnant, it's called birth control.
  

  
  

  
  

  I would have lost my shit and probably gotten fired for what I would have said to that coworker.

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• amelisha member

  

  October 2014

  beethery said:

  steph861 said:

  steph861 said:

  beethery said:

  @slothiegal I COULDN'T LOVE YA MORE.

  
  

  
  

  Dude, that's like Ursula come to life.

  I'm excited that you said this, because an artist did renderings of drag queens as Disney characters, and Latrice was portrayed as Ursula. It was so fucking perfect!

  Ursula's appearance was actually based on the drag queen Divine.

  Yup! And I found this:

  
  

  
  

  Which inspired this:
  
  one of the coolest fan art creations I've ever seen.

  This thread was almost worth feeling such atheist rage for the Latrice gifs. I'm letting them soothe my soul.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• slothiegal member

  

  October 2014

  huskypuppy14 said:

  No one has really bugged us yet. A few random people made a comment here or there, but nothing major. Our parents aren't bugging us. I they would love a grand baby, but they are cool.  

  
  

  I really hate when people say, oh now it's time for a baby. And when you say: "oh not yet, we just want to enjoy being married" they say "oh well sometimes you don't have control over those things" (this came from a co worker that recently had a child).

  
  

  WTF. I've been having sex for 16 years and I haven't gotten pregnant yet.  And it's certainly not god that's made me not get pregnant, it's called birth control.
  

  
  

  
  

  AHHH.  I had an assistant once who constantly told me, "You're so lucky you don't have kids!"

  
  

  No, honey.  I know accidents happen, but c'mon.  Luck is not the difference between me and her (and her four kids).  Being a responsible adult and planning is.  

  

  
  

  
  

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• wrigleyville member

  

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  I always wonder what would happen if one of the Duggar girls/sons/in-laws were infertile. I mean, when you look at the sheer numbers, the odds say it's possible.

  
  

  I've been watching the latest episodes, and every single time they talk about the wedding (which is next week on the show) or buy furniture for Jill and Derick or set up their room, Jim Bob says, "And when you call me... hopefully in a few months... to tell me you're pregnant..." It's insane. Like, that's a lot of pressure. Even people who are super fertile can't always conceive that easily.

  
  

  Obviously, they did, but geez.

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• KatieinBkln member

  

  October 2014

  slothiegal said:

  huskypuppy14 said:

  No one has really bugged us yet. A few random people made a comment here or there, but nothing major. Our parents aren't bugging us. I they would love a grand baby, but they are cool.  

  
  

  I really hate when people say, oh now it's time for a baby. And when you say: "oh not yet, we just want to enjoy being married" they say "oh well sometimes you don't have control over those things" (this came from a co worker that recently had a child).

  
  

  WTF. I've been having sex for 16 years and I haven't gotten pregnant yet.  And it's certainly not god that's made me not get pregnant, it's called birth control.
  

  
  

  
  

  AHHH.  I had an assistant once who constantly told me, "You're so lucky you don't have kids!"

  
  

  No, honey.  I know accidents happen, but c'mon.  Luck is not the difference between me and her (and her four kids).  Being a responsible adult and planning is.  

  That makes me really sad, actually. I mean, I'm a sassy bitch most of the time, but I don't think even I would talk shit about my future kids by implying someone else would be "lucky" not to have them. Also: People are lucky if they, say, tan evenly. Or have blonde armpit hair or something. Pretty sure the sperm doesn't just fall into the fallopian tubes accidentally.

  
  

  This baby knows exactly how I feel

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