My fiance and I have been together for almost 9 years and engaged for 4 we have 2 children. We have been slowly planning our wedding for about a year now. My children go to a christian school and I found out this past year by volunteering in the preschool how much I love that age and the children a spot has opened up for an aid in the preschool and I want it so bad!!!!! Downfall is the headmaster of the school refuses to even consider hiring me until we are married due to moral values and us living together without being married and I do understand that.... but that means getting married now in august but we still want our wedding to be next year in September and for that to be our anniversary date. I am wondering if that's normal or if I should feel, I don't know stupid... Because I want the whole experience of planning, bridal shower, bacholarette party, bridesmaids, my father walking me down the aisle, and all the first dances and everything basically the whole shebang. I would wait for this job till next year but we are already on a tight budget of only 5,000 for the wedding and me having this job could help a bunch, maybe even double our budget.
On top of all this.... my fiances mom is making a huge deal of this...if we did get married now our plan was to just go to the court house and be done with it and not really tell anyone... but close family and everyone I know at the school would know I am married cause they all know I can't work there without being married... But anyways his mom wants us to do something with our parents, grandparents, and siblings I am super nervous about that because I don't want to feel worse about still wanting to have a wedding in year and I need some input. My mom just wants us to do what will make us happy my fiance says why not just make his mom happy our day will be in a year, my dad says it doesn't matter just make her happy and I'm so lost... and if i do do all that and then don't end up with the job I'm going to feel worse cause if we would have just gone to the court house and I didn't get the job nobody at all would have to know... Ugh I need some help with alllllll of this!!!! Please!!! And quick it needs to happen asap!!!!!