I will never leave you ladies

princessofgenovia · November 2014

Damn...apparently 13 is too young to be kissing boys. Tampon...or whatever...insulted this woman's mother for letting her hang out and kiss a boy at 13.

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12021098/mixed-up-feelings#latest

larrygaga · November 2014

princessofgenovia said:
Damn...apparently 13 is too young to be kissing boys. Tampon...or whatever...insulted this woman's mother for letting her hang out and kiss a boy at 13.

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12021098/mixed-up-feelings#latest

I had sex with FI when I was 13 but oh well you know Guess my mom is a terrible mom

princessofgenovia · November 2014

larrygaga said:

Damn...apparently 13 is too young to be kissing boys. Tampon...or whatever...insulted this woman's mother for letting her hang out and kiss a boy at 13.

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12021098/mixed-up-feelings#latest
I had sex with FI when I was 13 but oh well you know

Where was your mother!!!!!!!! She should have stopped it right then!!!!

I was 15 when I first had sex...but I was kissing a lot of boys and girls at 13. A. Lot.

larrygaga · November 2014

Right? Like teach your child safety and stop thinking you control everything in their life!

My mom could have kept a better eye on me but she was dealing with 5 kids. I think I could have turned out worse.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826 · November 2014

princessofgenovia said:

larrygaga said:

Damn...apparently 13 is too young to be kissing boys. Tampon...or whatever...insulted this woman's mother for letting her hang out and kiss a boy at 13.

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12021098/mixed-up-feelings#latest
I had sex with FI when I was 13 but oh well you know

Where was your mother!!!!!!!! She should have stopped it right then!!!!

I was 15 when I first had sex...but I was kissing a lot of boys and girls at 13. A. Lot.

You both should divorce your mothers. There's no other way.

JennyColada · November 2014

I browsed TN a couple of times, but I just found it boring. The straw that broke my back was a topic in Relationship troubles about someone's DH who had cheated and she was sad. Everyone was proclaiming that divorce was the BEST way and I'm like "hey, shouldn't she make her own choice on what is best? Maybe she wants to stay and work it out" and they're like "you're dumb and stupid and crazy!" So I was just kinda over it. They obviously didn't have the best intentions in mind.

larrygaga · November 2014

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12013247/who-the-fark-are-all-these-women-perusing-craigslist-for-men

Women looking for a booty call don't exist and don't have morals. @doeydo is on there with some truth lol

vegasbride2015 · November 2014

I've never been over to The Nest, but from what I am reading from you guys, it reminds me a lot of when iVillage had Parents Place or whatever it was called, along with their non-parent boards... Wayyyy back in the day.

beethery · November 2014

I have no interest in that place except for laughing at wildness on TiP.

Y'all are stuck with me.

cupcait927 · November 2014

All of the drama on TN is why I only stick with browsing Money Matters - the rest was too bizarre for me. TB terrifies me.

princessofgenovia · November 2014

larrygaga said:

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12013247/who-the-fark-are-all-these-women-perusing-craigslist-for-men Women looking for a booty call don't exist and don't have morals. @doeydo is on there with some truth lol

I never looked for a guy on craig's list to sleep with.

I did look at bars, restaurants, clubs, bowling alleys, coffee shops, college classes, house parties...basically anywhere a human of similar age wanting to have the sex was...I looked to have the sex with them. And I enjoyed the sex. But I'm slutty slut who sluts around with no morals having slutty sex. So what do I know. FI should divorce me.

Sugargirl1019 · November 2014

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

beethery · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

I don't understand why you would even care.

KatieinBkln · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

I mean, personally it scares me because I was just not even close to being in a place where sex was on the table for me. Even if I had wanted to, I was a bit too loud and dorky and "intimidating" or whatever the fuck girls who speak their minds and tell boys to come correct when they're being terrible are, but the truth is I didn't want to. I wasn't ready; I felt then (as now) that for me, sex was a thing to do with someone I trusted, and I sure as fuck didn't trust any of the losers I knew!

BUT. Huge but. That was just me. I was not a particularly early bloomer, physically or emotionally. But for people who are, it makes sense that they would be having sex sooner. Do I think that the majority of times, 13 is too young and usually the pair will find it awkward at best? Sure. But I think as adults it's really hard to admit that adolescents are autonomous people, and that they can and will do what they want to. (And in cases like Larry's, it can even work out marvelously!). It's frightening to admit that, because it means we have to open our eyes to the fact that adolescence is a gray area in a lot of ways. Do you want your 13-year-old daughter having sex with a 21-year-old man? Most likely not! But what about her 15-year-old boyfriend? It's hard to even think about, because obviously we want to protect The Children from any predatory shit, so it's easier to say "No sex till you're older, please. Don't make me think about the concept of a pre-teen's sexuality!" But of course pre-teens HAVE a sexuality. It may just be developing, or it may be already present, but I think treating it as a dangerous thing to be suppressed is a horrible thing that our culture has done. I'd much rather see frank education (and yes, probably at a younger age than most adults feel is strictly comfortable, because by the time you think they're "old enough" the early bloomers have already been there, yo).

larrygaga · November 2014

princessofgenovia said:

larrygaga said:

http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12013247/who-the-fark-are-all-these-women-perusing-craigslist-for-men

Women looking for a booty call don't exist and don't have morals. @doeydo is on there with some truth lol

I never looked for a guy on craig's list to sleep with.

I did look at bars, restaurants, clubs, bowling alleys, coffee shops, college classes, house parties...basically anywhere a human of similar age wanting to have the sex was...I looked to have the sex with them. And I enjoyed the sex. But I'm slutty slut who sluts around with no morals having slutty sex. So what do I know. FI should divorce me.

He needs to file for divorce right now. He should already have left you.

larrygaga · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:
I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Why

princessofgenovia · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Sex at 15 with my boyfriend was probably the least terrifying thing I did at 15.

Pircing my friend's belly button using a sewing needle was probably top of the "Holy shit why!?" list at 15. She really wanted it done...I thought it was stupid but still did it. To her. Mine was done by a licensed piercer because I was dumb but not as dumb as my friend.

sarawifenow · November 2014

I am still perusing TN and now I am a "member". Oh Lawdy!

I can't imagine having sex at 13. Then again, I was definitely participating in *ahem* other things at that age. I didn't have PIV sex until I was 18, though.

lacqueredlover · November 2014

I think what's right for some people isnt' right for others. I started partaking in mind altering substances at 12 and sex at 16, now that wouldn't work for everyone but I have no regrets and had a kickass teenage experience haha.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

I wouldn't even have a glass of Pepsi without asking my parents' permission first when I was 13. But I'm well aware that I am not most people.

climbingsingle · November 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

KatWAG · November 2014

lolo883 said:

I wouldn't even have a glass of Pepsi without asking my parents' permission first when I was 13. But I'm well aware that I am not most people.

This was my house too. I am pretty sure my parents password protected "risque" TV channels like MTV and VH1.

photokitty · November 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

My guess - BC the idea of having a child who has sex at 13, 14, 15, any age before the age where they are mature enough to be a parent is frightening...I know it is to me.

I think we all can admit to doing things we are hoping our own kids don't do, bc they might not be as lucky as we were....babies, STDs, injuries, permanent records and what not...

LabLove86 · November 2014

I am so glad I'm not the only one who has this opinion of Tarpy (haha - that cracks me up. . . . )

EVERYTHING warrants counseling, leaving the relationship, or both? Really? NO other options at all?? Like - good communication or compromises? Amongst a lot of other options . . . {Not to say that some of those situations DO warrant the things that she says}

Also - I started kissing a lot at 13, sexual activities at 14, and PIV sex at 17. Everyone in my group of friends had a different timeline - just like they should - because we are all different with different experiences.

I don't think I care as much about timeline as I do about how you as a person handle the experiences you go through.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

photokitty said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

My guess - BC the idea of having a child who has sex at 13, 14, 15, any age before the age where they are mature enough to be a parent is frightening...I know it is to me.

I think we all can admit to doing things we are hoping our own kids don't do, bc they might not be as lucky as we were....babies, STDs, injuries, permanent records and what not...

Yeah I echo this. At least personally, I've reached the point where I stop thinking of things from my own perspective and start thinking in terms of my future kids doing them, and all the ways they'll be able to get hurt physically and emotionally and that's terrifying.

climbingsingle · November 2014

photokitty said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

My guess - BC the idea of having a child who has sex at 13, 14, 15, any age before the age where they are mature enough to be a parent is frightening...I know it is to me.

I think we all can admit to doing things we are hoping our own kids don't do, bc they might not be as lucky as we were....babies, STDs, injuries, permanent records and what not...

Well, I'm obviously not having kids. BUT if I were, I can honestly say I wouldn't think it was the end of the world if my child was having sex at 14 or 15 or 16. I would just hope they'd be honest with me, and that they were being safe. And I'd do every in my power to make sure they were informed about the choices they were making. Teenagers are going to mostly do whatever the hell they want. Short of installing a chastity belt on your child, there's not much you can do to stop them from having sex.

charlieyankee03 · November 2014

I was still terrified that I might turn out to be a bad kisser at 13. My best friend was busy screwing her boyfriend in the shop classroom after school though, so I guess we all move at different speeds.

She was wearing one of my dresses the first time it happened, so I didn't want it back. I'm still mad about that. It was a really cute dress...

southernbelle0915 · November 2014

photokitty said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

My guess - BC the idea of having a child who has sex at 13, 14, 15, any age before the age where they are mature enough to be a parent is frightening...I know it is to me.

I think we all can admit to doing things we are hoping our own kids don't do, bc they might not be as lucky as we were....babies, STDs, injuries, permanent records and what not...

Yea, this is how I took it, too. I was an...early starter as well. It's a miracle I didn't get pregnant.

My takeaway from it was that if I'm ever a parent, I need to make the kid believe they can tell me if they want birth control and that I won't be mad. And the importance of birth control of course. Also, I will be getting them the HPV vaccine as soon as they're old enough.

photokitty · November 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

photokitty said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

Seriously? What's it to you? I lost my virginity when I was 14, with my boyfriend I was with for many years. Why does that frighten you?

My guess - BC the idea of having a child who has sex at 13, 14, 15, any age before the age where they are mature enough to be a parent is frightening...I know it is to me.

I think we all can admit to doing things we are hoping our own kids don't do, bc they might not be as lucky as we were....babies, STDs, injuries, permanent records and what not...

Well, I'm obviously not having kids. BUT if I were, I can honestly say I wouldn't think it was the end of the world if my child was having sex at 14 or 15 or 16. I would just hope they'd be honest with me, and that they were being safe. And I'd do every in my power to make sure they were informed about the choices they were making. Teenagers are going to mostly do whatever the hell they want. Short of installing a chastity belt on your child, there's not much you can do to stop them from having sex.

Preface: I live in a bubble - I know.

I keep hoping that's not entirely true bc:

My parents told me I couldn't date until I was 16, I didn't date despite many offers.

My parents told me not to kiss boys, I asked my mom before I had my first kiss (I'm worse than Lolo and the Pepsi)

My parents told me I couldn't drink until I was 21 bc it was against the law - I didn't.

My parents and the Catholic church told me I couldn't have intercourse until I was married - I didn't (the first time)

My parents didn't install a chesty belt but they did have a HUGE impact on stopping me from having sex. So I am hoping by some miracle I get little rule follower like I was.

If that doesn't happen then yes, I hope they are honest and safe. But I really don't believe 99% of teens are honest about sex with their parents.

I by no means think this make me or my parents better than anyone else not he planet...but I think sex has the ability to mess up your life and I know some people that are still dealing with choices they wish they could take back (STDs, abortions, being used and discarded).

ashley8918 · November 2014

beethery said:

Sugargirl1019 said:

I'm totally stuck on the idea that you guys had sex so young. Sorry. It frightens me!

I don't understand why you would even care.

Nor do I. I first had sex at 14. Whoopdie do?

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