So my MOH is currently living in South Korea - she was supposed to be back this month but recently extended her trip by four months, and since I'm getting married in October (2015), that means she's going to miss most of the dress shopping, catering tastings, etc, which I was really looking forward to. She asked me if it was okay that she extend her stay, and of course I said yes, because life isn't all about my wedding! But I also had the consolation of knowing I had my mother to help me plan, as she was right by my side when we were choosing our venue last year. But now, all of a sudden, she has no interest in my wedding whatsoever. We went dress shopping a couple weeks ago, and I didn't find anything I loved, but now every appointment I schedule or anything I ask her to be a part of, she says she's "not sure" she can make it.
My mother is, far and away, my very best friend, and I thought I could count on her to be the one other person as excited as I am to be getting married (especially after a four-year engagement). But I'm having a really hard time getting her to even talk about it with me. I told her that we'd chosen a color palette the other day, which I get it - isn't a huge deal, but all she did was say "oh good." Didn't ask what it was, didn't ask anything. When I showed her the dress I really want to try on because I think it's "the one," all she said was "you can't wear a bra with that." When I made an appt for Dec 20th, she said that's too close to Xmas and she's going to be busy, but when I moved it to the 6th to make it easier for her, she said she wasn't "sure" she could make it, again.
I know this is something I need to discuss with my mother, and maybe something else is bothering her that we just need to get out into the open, but has anyone else experienced this?! It's making the whole experience just a little bit heartbreaking for me - I always pictured myself crying over the perfect wedding dress with my mom and getting all giddy when I finally bought it. Now, I might be dress shopping by myself. Not what I imagined for my wedding planning process at all, and all my bridesmaids live four hours away.