Bringing liquor-- update in the thread

climbingsingle · December 2014

So, for being offending by someone bringing food, this is what my cousin's ex did. I was hosting a dinner party, and I made it very clear that it was not a potluck and that I would be providing everything. My cousin's at the time H decided to show up with a fucking giant crock pot full of chili. Now, I love chili. But it did not go with my dinner, and I had planned everything out for the meal. He made a big production of the chili, forcing me to stop what I was doing so that I could then clear a space for him to plug in the crock pot. He then kept insisting to my guests that they try it. So yeah, I was pissed. I didn't ask you to make a crock pot full of chili. Do you not have confidence in my ability to properly host and cook an entire dinner?

Anyway, I also was taught never to show up empty handed to a party. But that's always presented as a gift to the host, not as something to be put out or consumed right then.

buttercup1958 · December 2014

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

emmaaa said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

emmaaa said:
I'd really like a whiskey and sprite right now.
That's it, now I'm offended! How dare you defile good whiskey.

Pleas don't report me! I'm sorry

I just like sprite and it adds a nice bubbly twist to whiskey, I think. I'm open to suggestions!

My mom likes it too and I think it actually has a name, right? Isn't a Tom Collins whiskey and ginger ale or on this case Sprite?

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

buttercup1958 said:
I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

Yep. If I dislike you that much chances are you already know it and I'm not invited to your party, lol.

plainjane0415 · December 2014

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:
So, for being offending by someone bringing food, this is what my cousin's ex did. I was hosting a dinner party, and I made it very clear that it was not a potluck and that I would be providing everything. My cousin's at the time H decided to show up with a fucking giant crock pot full of chili. Now, I love chili. But it did not go with my dinner, and I had planned everything out for the meal. He made a big production of the chili, forcing me to stop what I was doing so that I could then clear a space for him to plug in the crock pot. He then kept insisting to my guests that they try it. So yeah, I was pissed. I didn't ask you to make a crock pot full of chili. Do you not have confidence in my ability to properly host and cook an entire dinner?

Anyway, I also was taught never to show up empty handed to a party. But that's always presented as a gift to the host, not as something to be put out or consumed right then.

It probably had nothing to do with his confidence in you and your hostess abilities and everything to do with his own ego and desire to showboat.

Rude and annoying, and I'd be pissed too. But not offended. Just pissed!

theartistformerlyknownas · December 2014

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I serve it if they intended it to be served... but I get really pissy when people then eat less of my food, and it then goes to waste. I wouldn't have spent so much time and money making a meal that all went perfectly together if I knew people were going to pass some of it up for taco salad.

esstee33 · December 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

I'd really like a whiskey and sprite right now.
That's it, now I'm offended! How dare you defile good whiskey.

Pleas don't report me! I'm sorry

I just like sprite and it adds a nice bubbly twist to whiskey, I think. I'm open to suggestions!
My mom likes it too and I think it actually has a name, right? Isn't a Tom Collins whiskey and ginger ale or on this case Sprite?

Noooooooo... a Tom Collins is a mixture of gin, sugar, lemon juice, and club soda. No whiskey!

It's SO good in the summer.

beachyone15 · December 2014

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I totally agree. And on the flip side, I would be highly offended if I made something and the host was rude enough to put my dish in the fridge and NOT serve it.

novella1186 · December 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

I'd really like a whiskey and sprite right now.
That's it, now I'm offended! How dare you defile good whiskey.

Pleas don't report me! I'm sorry

I just like sprite and it adds a nice bubbly twist to whiskey, I think. I'm open to suggestions!
My mom likes it too and I think it actually has a name, right? Isn't a Tom Collins whiskey and ginger ale or on this case Sprite?

No, a Tom Collins is made with gin, soda, lemon juice, and 1 other thing I can't remember.

My sister, who was the manager of a bar and a major drinker, always did whiskey with club soda. It makes the whiskey a little lighter and gives it that fizz without ruining the flavor of it.

novella1186 · December 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

So, for being offending by someone bringing food, this is what my cousin's ex did. I was hosting a dinner party, and I made it very clear that it was not a potluck and that I would be providing everything. My cousin's at the time H decided to show up with a fucking giant crock pot full of chili. Now, I love chili. But it did not go with my dinner, and I had planned everything out for the meal. He made a big production of the chili, forcing me to stop what I was doing so that I could then clear a space for him to plug in the crock pot. He then kept insisting to my guests that they try it. So yeah, I was pissed. I didn't ask you to make a crock pot full of chili. Do you not have confidence in my ability to properly host and cook an entire dinner?

Anyway, I also was taught never to show up empty handed to a party. But that's always presented as a gift to the host, not as something to be put out or consumed right then.
It probably had nothing to do with his confidence in you and your hostess abilities and everything to do with his own ego and desire to showboat. Rude and annoying, and I'd be pissed too. But not offended. Just pissed!

This is what I was gonna say: jerk just needed to show off.

climbingsingle · December 2014

lolo883 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I serve it if they intended it to be served... but I get really pissy when people then eat less of my food, and it then goes to waste. I wouldn't have spent so much time and money making a meal that all went perfectly together if I knew people were going to pass some of it up for taco salad.

Yes, exactly!

PrettyGirlLost · December 2014

lolo883 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I serve it if they intended it to be served... but I get really pissy when people then eat less of my food, and it then goes to waste. I wouldn't have spent so much time and money making a meal that all went perfectly together if I knew people were going to pass some of it up for taco salad.

Aah good point. But more left overs for you then!

plainjane0415 · December 2014

lolo883 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I serve it if they intended it to be served... but I get really pissy when people then eat less of my food, and it then goes to waste. I wouldn't have spent so much time and money making a meal that all went perfectly together if I knew people were going to pass some of it up for taco salad.

I hear ya. I feel like it's one of those things that just can't be controlled, and yes if my stuff was getting passed up for some random dish, I'd be pissed... and fuss about it to FI after everyone left. But what can you do? Some people will just do as they please and they just don't care.

STARMOON44 · December 2014

beachyone15 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I totally agree. And on the flip side, I would be highly offended if I made something and the host was rude enough to put my dish in the fridge and NOT serve it.

Highly offended if uninvited you decided to go ahead and change my party that I'm hosting and I went ahead and politely shut that down?

beachyone15 · December 2014

I think you could find any excuse in this scenario to get "highly offended" at anything. I'm just saying that if I did bring something as an honest gesture, wanting to help (not showboat) I would feel a little hurt if you dismissed my dish b/c it didn't fit with your "theme".

Personally I would bring something that would fit into the rest of the meal, I'm just looking at it from an outsider's perspective. You would be offended, I would be offended, we'd all be effing offended.

Sugargirl1019 · December 2014

plainjane0415 said:

lolo883 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I serve it if they intended it to be served... but I get really pissy when people then eat less of my food, and it then goes to waste. I wouldn't have spent so much time and money making a meal that all went perfectly together if I knew people were going to pass some of it up for taco salad.

I hear ya. I feel like it's one of those things that just can't be controlled, and yes if my stuff was getting passed up for some random dish, I'd be pissed... and fuss about it to FI after everyone left. But what can you do? Some people will just do as they please and they just don't care.

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I would probably accept the food, (who brings a full dinner portion to a dinner you weren't asked to bring for?), declare, "Oh thank you for the lovely gift! This looks delicious! My husband and I will enjoy this tomorrow after all the preparations we did today. I hope you enjoy the dinner party!". But I'm passive aggressive and on the page of putting it in the fridge and not messing up my hard work culinary jiveness and you totally should have brought wine or a dessert instead, weirdo.

I've been drinking pumpkin spice Kahlua in milk like crazy recently. That's my current go to drink. Or wine. Might have wine later.

theartistformerlyknownas · December 2014

Lesson learned - always bring cheese.

Maggie0829 · December 2014

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

So, for being offending by someone bringing food, this is what my cousin's ex did. I was hosting a dinner party, and I made it very clear that it was not a potluck and that I would be providing everything. My cousin's at the time H decided to show up with a fucking giant crock pot full of chili. Now, I love chili. But it did not go with my dinner, and I had planned everything out for the meal. He made a big production of the chili, forcing me to stop what I was doing so that I could then clear a space for him to plug in the crock pot. He then kept insisting to my guests that they try it. So yeah, I was pissed. I didn't ask you to make a crock pot full of chili. Do you not have confidence in my ability to properly host and cook an entire dinner?

Anyway, I also was taught never to show up empty handed to a party. But that's always presented as a gift to the host, not as something to be put out or consumed right then.
It probably had nothing to do with his confidence in you and your hostess abilities and everything to do with his own ego and desire to showboat. Rude and annoying, and I'd be pissed too. But not offended. Just pissed!

This is what I was gonna say: jerk just needed to show off.

I may or may not have accidentally dropped the crockpot on the floor thus spilling all his chili. It would have been worth the clean up just so that he would shut up about his damn chili!

plainjane0415 · December 2014

STARMOON44 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I totally agree. And on the flip side, I would be highly offended if I made something and the host was rude enough to put my dish in the fridge and NOT serve it.
Highly offended if uninvited you decided to go ahead and change my party that I'm hosting and I went ahead and politely shut that down?

I feel like saying "Thanks!" and shoving it in the fridge isn't very polite, it's slightly passive aggressive.

southernbelle0915 · December 2014

beachyone15 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I totally agree. And on the flip side, I would be highly offended if I made something and the host was rude enough to put my dish in the fridge and NOT serve it.

Most people were taught not to arrive to a party empty handed. In my experience, that means a dish to pass if it's a potluck or a hostess gift if it's not a potluck.

Hostess gifts are not expected to be immediately served. So if it's not a potluck and someone randomly brings me a pie, of course I'm going to assume it's a hostess gift, graciously thank them, and do as I please with it. If someone is highly offended by that, I think they need to check themselves.

Maggie0829 · December 2014

STARMOON44 said:

plainjane0415 said:

buttercup1958 said:

I have never brought something to a party because I hated the host or didn't believe their food/drinks ect were good enough.....In my opinion that's a weird way to seek revenage.

To me, if someone brings a dish to my hosted party I'm not going to fret about it. Will I cringe if it doesn't necessarily go with the theme of food or party I'm throwing? Sure. Will I refuse to serve it? No, because they took time out of their day to prepare it. You just can't fault people for that. Idk, maybe I'm too nice.

I totally agree. And on the flip side, I would be highly offended if I made something and the host was rude enough to put my dish in the fridge and NOT serve it.
Highly offended if uninvited you decided to go ahead and change my party that I'm hosting and I went ahead and politely shut that down?

I honestly don't see how bringing a dish because you are trying to be nice will change your party in any way. God forbid your french theme night happens to have a taco dip. Holy Moses the entire thing would be ruined! Ruined I say!

buttercup1958 · December 2014

See maybe I'm not an expert of social graces and I fully admit that. But I find it very confusing/impressive that we can talk about the ramifications of bringing things for 4 pages. If someone put my things in the fridge then they are in the fridge. Oh well! Then again I've never brought a crockpot to a party before either...

Fran1985 · December 2014

Since we are talking about food I just wanted to share that I am going to a 24 course dinner tonight and it comes with an INTENSE wine pairing list too and I want it to be 530 already!

Also I like all the Elf gifs.

southernbelle0915 · December 2014

Fran1985 said:

Since we are talking about food I just wanted to share that I am going to a 24 course dinner tonight and it comes with an INTENSE wine pairing list too and I want it to be 530 already!

Also I like all the Elf gifs.

Sweet mother Mary..... I'm really jealous right now. Have fun!!

novella1186 · December 2014

buttercup1958 said:

See maybe I'm not an expert of social graces and I fully admit that. But I find it very confusing/impressive that we can talk about the ramifications of bringing things for 4 pages. If someone put my things in the fridge then they are in the fridge. Oh well! Then again I've never brought a crockpot to a party before either...

To be fair, one entire page was a fight about stomach issues and liquor brands.

esstee33 · December 2014

Fran1985 said:

Since we are talking about food I just wanted to share that I am going to a 24 course dinner tonight and it comes with an INTENSE wine pairing list too and I want it to be 530 already!

Also I like all the Elf gifs.

Do you need a date? I can be available.

STARMOON44 · December 2014

esstee33 said:

Fran1985 said:

Since we are talking about food I just wanted to share that I am going to a 24 course dinner tonight and it comes with an INTENSE wine pairing list too and I want it to be 530 already!

Also I like all the Elf gifs.

Do you need a date? I can be available.

I'll bring the queso

buttercup1958 · December 2014

novella1186 said:

buttercup1958 said:

See maybe I'm not an expert of social graces and I fully admit that. But I find it very confusing/impressive that we can talk about the ramifications of bringing things for 4 pages. If someone put my things in the fridge then they are in the fridge. Oh well! Then again I've never brought a crockpot to a party before either...

To be fair, one entire page was a fight about stomach issues and liquor brands.

Oh yeah! Whoops, I did learn a lot about how different products can have a different affect on people so that was pretty cool. This also reminds me to be careful too because sometimes I'm like a bull in a china shop without realizing it.

sophhabobopha · December 2014

I really don't understand being offended by people bringing things to your party. We always bring booze and snacks.

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