My point is even if you are both carriers, you can have a kid without CF. It would take a lot of medical intervention, but its possible.
Yup, my doctor said if we were both carriers, we could either take our chances (no thank you) or do IVF with pre-selected non-carrier sperm. You each have 2 chromosomes, and baby gets one from each of you. You need both chromosomes to have the gene for the baby to get CF. If both parents are carriers, you have 1 CF and 1 non-CF chromosome. So baby has a 25% chance of not being a carrier at all, 50% chance of being a carrier, and 25% chance of getting the disease.
And I apologize if I'm using sciency words wrong. I work in advertising.
I'm finishing professional school next month and boards after that in February if everything goes well! Woo! After that I can think seriously about it more. I'm with @beethery on the waffle though. My DH would be a fantastic father and I'd love to share that experience together. But I still flip back and forth.. Ugh.
Do have hypothetical names picked out though! Tara Marie and Link Alexander. DH would have been named Tara if he was born a girl and Marie was my grandmother's name. Link is video game related and Alexander is a family name.
I'm finishing professional school next month and boards after that in February if everything goes well! Woo! After that I can think seriously about it more. I'm with @beethery on the waffle though. My DH would be a fantastic father and I'd love to share that experience together. But I still flip back and forth.. Ugh.
Do have hypothetical names picked out though! Tara Marie and Link Alexander. DH would have been named Tara if he was born a girl and Marie was my grandmother's name. Link is video game related and Alexander is a family name.
I kinda love that you would actually name your hypothetical son Link.
It's not a bad name, but my family would never let me live that down.
We've talked about the name Link too. DH loves it.
I ventured over to the Bump and promptly ran away. It's all so confusing. I checked out the blog, and it clarified nothing. No thanks. DH and I are planning to TTC sometime in May or June, so I may revisit then, but hopefully a nice group develops here. I am down for the good ol' fashioned practicing, minus temps and charts, etc.
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
I am on my second to last package of pills in this shipment, then it's game on. I feel like I have been ready for awhile, DH wanted to wait. We recently went on a family vacation where DH was living in a house with my nieces and nephews for a whole week, including the 1.5 year old. By the time we left to fly home, he suggested we start trying when we are going to. Apparently he had a realization about how you can have good, well behaved kids if you bring them up correctly. We have a number of friends who just let their kids run wild and act like jerks. It makes them less than pleasant to be around!
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
WTF? It's not like you just cut baby off from milk when you start feeding solids, you just add a little mashed avocado, or mix rice cereal into a pumped bottle. Even I know that. You don't just say "no more boob for you kid, here's a cheeseburger. And fruit snacks."
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
Yeah! Those damn people who go to medical school don't know shit! Mommies know best! Mommies basically are doctors because they dole out cough syrup. What can you learn in 4 years of medical school that you can't learn being a Mommy!
@smichek no there is no "set" number you should have in the bank but I'm definitely with @lolo883 about quality of life. There's a big difference between just making it work and being able to provide them with everything they deserve. Not having to say sorry, you're the only one in school who can't afford summer camp or soccer team. My parents weren't rich but they were older and stable and I never had to worry about our car breaking down, or the fridge breaking or things like that. We went on really nice vacations growing up and I will be proud to give that same security and advantages to my kids even though they aren't "necessary".
My parents are fantastic and I love and they gave me a great childhood. But I didn't have these things or this security. Hell there were months we almost couldn't pay the light bill. Though I had it better then my parents did, because we might have had to roll pennies to get the light bill paid, we did get it paid, my parents both lived with electricity at different points in their life because it was a luxury their parents couldn't afford.
Having grown up without this security when/if I have kids, I want them to not have to worry about having the basic things met. We probably won't take them on European vacations or give them brand new cars for their sweet 16 (we both believe in working for those things) but if they want to join a team or need money for lunch, it'll be there. And we might even squeeze in a regular family vacation, something that was rare for me growing up, my parents didn't get much paid time off if any.
You should all take over a dead board and turn it into your own "Bump" board*. Maybe a dead month board or something. Then you could chat all you want without the crazy.
*Not that I'm saying don't talk here, but if things ever got going with hundreds of posts.
Fuck the bump...let's just take over the Tennessee board on here because it is dead. I don't even know of any other knotties who live in my state.
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
Yeah! Those damn people who go to medical school don't know shit! Mommies know best! Mommies basically are doctors because they dole out cough syrup. What can you learn in 4 years of medical school that you can't learn being a Mommy!
So since I dont mind not having any friends on the bump. I made the comment that perhaps the doctor (who went to medical school) might know a bit more than everyone else does. And I was told I was wrong. The doctor is wrong. And it was suggested that the OP find a doctor that better fits the OP's parenting style. Mom knows best.
There has to be some logic on the bump, I just dont know where its hiding.
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
Yeah! Those damn people who go to medical school don't know shit! Mommies know best! Mommies basically are doctors because they dole out cough syrup. What can you learn in 4 years of medical school that you can't learn being a Mommy!
So annoying!! My friend is a pediatric doctor (totally wish she lived on my side of the country) and she is always complaining about parents who just don't listen and "but I researched this on the internet" parents. She's like then why even bring your kid here if you don't trust my education and aren't going to listen to me?!
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
Yeah! Those damn people who go to medical school don't know shit! Mommies know best! Mommies basically are doctors because they dole out cough syrup. What can you learn in 4 years of medical school that you can't learn being a Mommy!
So annoying!! My friend is a pediatric doctor (totally wish she lived on my side of the country) and she is always complaining about parents who just don't listen and "but I researched this on the internet" parents. She's like then why even bring your kid here if you don't trust my education and aren't going to listen to me?!
My bump month board (and I am sure all mobth boards) are full of those. Recently, the solid food thing is killing me. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests babies start solids at 6 months. Some moms have been told to start earlier because of low weight, allergies, etc. And they wont. Because the AAP said 6 months.
But it didnt! Its a suggestion! That is a big difference!
I wont even get started on the mom who SWEAR they dont have a problem with pumping or formula but then strongly, strongly encourage you to try this or that in order to keep breastfeeding. Or just deal with the pain. Or tell you the nutritional benefits, etc.
This whole thread has not helped my baby fever - thanks alot!
H and I recently talked about this bc I've been more on board with the idea recently. I always thought I'd wait longer, maybe just before 30 but I keep thinking sooner and sooner. H has always wanted kids, before H I never wanted kids.
H starts his internship in January and should finish school and move to full time at the end of summer. That may require a move so we are thinking maybe this time next year we will start TTC and I'm beyond excited! I go through spouts of I won't ever be ready to lets just start now. I was never around younger kids growing up (baby of the family and just recently got neices and friends having kids) so I think it's all so foreign still.
I'm finishing professional school next month and boards after that in February if everything goes well! Woo! After that I can think seriously about it more. I'm with @beethery on the waffle though. My DH would be a fantastic father and I'd love to share that experience together. But I still flip back and forth.. Ugh.
Do have hypothetical names picked out though! Tara Marie and Link Alexander. DH would have been named Tara if he was born a girl and Marie was my grandmother's name. Link is video game related and Alexander is a family name.
I kinda love that you would actually name your hypothetical son Link.
It's not a bad name, but my family would never let me live that down.
Ha ha if we have a boy it WILL happen. Say it's short for Lincoln if anyone cares.
So TTC ladies, how did yall know you were definitely ready to start TTC? Was there a defining moment? Do yall still worry about whether or not you're ready for parenthood? I feel like everyone I know worried about "what if I'm not ready for this??" while TTC and pregnant until the baby came and then they're like "I got this."
We knew we'd be trying pretty soon after the wedding. We didn't really have "a moment," it's been more like a lifelong checklist of stability in finances, careers, housing and relationship. We had each taken care of the first three before we met, so since that fell into place we're good to go.
I don't think you're ever emotionally ready. (General you.) I sort of feel like if you think you are, it's proof that you don't know what you're in for. You should be nervous.
We just bought a 4 bedroom house in the suburbs. I think kids are def next on the list
All jokes aside, we have both always known we wanted kids. H is 35, I am 31, we have been together 4 years. We are incredibly financially stable.
The only thing we were waiting for was the honeymoon (we leave Saturday!) because H didn't want to be on a plane with me to New Zealand all pregnant and stuff.
I'm finishing professional school next month and boards after that in February if everything goes well! Woo! After that I can think seriously about it more. I'm with @beethery on the waffle though. My DH would be a fantastic father and I'd love to share that experience together. But I still flip back and forth.. Ugh.
Do have hypothetical names picked out though! Tara Marie and Link Alexander. DH would have been named Tara if he was born a girl and Marie was my grandmother's name. Link is video game related and Alexander is a family name.
I kinda love that you would actually name your hypothetical son Link.
It's not a bad name, but my family would never let me live that down.
Ha ha if we have a boy it WILL happen. Say it's short for Lincoln if anyone cares.
I've only been lurking on this thread because our wedding isn't for another 11 months and we won't be TTC until well after that, but I love the idea of Link. FI is a huge video game nerd and loves Legend of Zelda. We know of a girl name we both love (Alice) but haven't been able to agree on a boy name. Maybe Link could be a good common ground.
Creepy. I think she has issues and I don't think people should be able to do it, personally. I just feel like this can't be healthy for the daughter if she wants to be a tom boy or never get married or other things that aren't stereotypical for a girl.
Creepy. I think she has issues and I don't think people should be able to do it, personally. I just feel like this can't be healthy for the daughter if she wants to be a tom boy or never get married or other things that aren't stereotypical for a girl.
Wow. I can understand thinking, "I have three boys, and I'd like a girl," but the way the mother described it is just...well, I'm not a doctor, but I wonder if there was more going on than just, "Mom is tired of boys."
So I ventured over to The Bump just to look around since we will start trying in a few months. On the "trying to get pregnant" board I noticed a few people do introductions in the past few days and the regs immediately told them to read THIS sticky, and then that's all the regs really said. They didn't ask fun questions about mayo preference or anything- GOD! I just found the link really overwhelming and condescending. Like it's basically saying "don't ask us stupid questions that we've been asked 100 times". It made me feel like I should already know all about ovulation charting and stuff otherwise I am incompetent. (Um, no, I don't know anything about that stuff yet) It also says right when you find out you're pregnant, move to the first trimester board. Like it's a fucking crime to stay on TTGP board.
I dunno, it just doesn't seem like a nice way to welcome people. Sure, we get people here constantly asking about the same things (kicking out maids, cash bar, potlucks, etc) but we don't freak out on these people for not lurking. We just tell them the answer and move on. Sometimes we even like it because it's a fun drama thread. I feel like if you're THAT sick of the same questions, then you should leave the damn board rather than control what new people ask, you know? So yea.....I think I'm scared away from asking anything over there!
SITB!
have you tried TCOYF.COM they are a great community and very open to helping and explaining any and everything about the female body and charting, whether to TTC or TTA
So since a few of you have been trying or recently pregnant.....how far in advance do you suggest stopping birth control pills? I have been on them for 11 years. Ideally with selling our house and work schedules, we want/ hope to conceive around September give or take. So I'm trying to figure out if I should stop the pill 6 months before that? 3 months before that?
ideally 6-12 months before is the most ideal because it can take up to a year for your body to clear out the hormones and regain normalcy, granted you may and can become pregnant during that time
Ok cool, I have my annual in February so I plan to ask the Dr. then because I don't even know about the booster and other stuff you mentioned.
I started reading that book last night and I'll be honest, I was bored out of my mind. I felt like the only relevant information was the waking temp stuff and I didn't even hit that until like page 75. I felt like all the crap leading up to it was kind of pointless. And I'm sorry but tracking the fluid....I've seen it for 15 years and it always looks the fucking same to me. I don't know how I'm supposed to tell milky from eggwhitey. lol
It would all be the same while you're on the pill, silly.
I'm sorry it's boring to you; I'm probably a giant nerd (or just highly uninformed. Probably both) but I found it fascinating.
i might be the biggest nerd but i read that whole book when I was 16 and loved it. I used FAM to TTA ever since. I also discovered my passion, and possibly settled my career goals.
Ok cool, I have my annual in February so I plan to ask the Dr. then because I don't even know about the booster and other stuff you mentioned.
I started reading that book last night and I'll be honest, I was bored out of my mind. I felt like the only relevant information was the waking temp stuff and I didn't even hit that until like page 75. I felt like all the crap leading up to it was kind of pointless. And I'm sorry but tracking the fluid....I've seen it for 15 years and it always looks the fucking same to me. I don't know how I'm supposed to tell milky from eggwhitey. lol
It would all be the same while you're on the pill, silly.
I'm sorry it's boring to you; I'm probably a giant nerd (or just highly uninformed. Probably both) but I found it fascinating.
i might be the biggest nerd but i read that whole book when I was 16 and loved it. I used FAM to TTA ever since. I also discovered my passion, and possibly settled my career goals.
I wish someone had given me that book when I was 16!
No problem! If you have any doubts about charting feel free to msg me. No pregnancy advice though for the next year (med school) - 5 years (personal experience)
So I just called my OB and asked if I needed an appointment for like TTC and they sounded like I was crazy. I'm like well...I dunno, girls are talking about getting CF tests done and other tests so I wasn't sure if I needed stuff? And she was like no, we do all that once you're pregnant. Sooo ok.
Re: the Bump forums do not seem welcoming
sorry this might be obvious- what is CF?
I'm the fuck out.
It's not a bad name, but my family would never let me live that down.
I ventured over to the Bump and promptly ran away. It's all so confusing. I checked out the blog, and it clarified nothing. No thanks. DH and I are planning to TTC sometime in May or June, so I may revisit then, but hopefully a nice group develops here. I am down for the good ol' fashioned practicing, minus temps and charts, etc.
If you think the pregnancy boards are scary, just wait until you venture into the parenting boards.
I was recently reading a thread where the OP said that her baby's doctor suggested starting her baby on solid food because baby was small and at the bottom of the growth chart. Cue all the sancti- mommies. Baby shouldnt have solids. Breast milk is best. Small babies are fine. The doctor is stupid, etc. Shit went down hill fast. And that was a tame and pretty standard thread.
So since I dont mind not having any friends on the bump. I made the comment that perhaps the doctor (who went to medical school) might know a bit more than everyone else does. And I was told I was wrong. The doctor is wrong. And it was suggested that the OP find a doctor that better fits the OP's parenting style. Mom knows best.
There has to be some logic on the bump, I just dont know where its hiding.
My bump month board (and I am sure all mobth boards) are full of those. Recently, the solid food thing is killing me. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests babies start solids at 6 months. Some moms have been told to start earlier because of low weight, allergies, etc. And they wont. Because the AAP said 6 months.
But it didnt! Its a suggestion! That is a big difference!
I wont even get started on the mom who SWEAR they dont have a problem with pumping or formula but then strongly, strongly encourage you to try this or that in order to keep breastfeeding. Or just deal with the pain. Or tell you the nutritional benefits, etc.
Thanks for letting me vent. That felt great.
This whole thread has not helped my baby fever - thanks alot!
H and I recently talked about this bc I've been more on board with the idea recently. I always thought I'd wait longer, maybe just before 30 but I keep thinking sooner and sooner. H has always wanted kids, before H I never wanted kids.
H starts his internship in January and should finish school and move to full time at the end of summer. That may require a move so we are thinking maybe this time next year we will start TTC and I'm beyond excited! I go through spouts of I won't ever be ready to lets just start now. I was never around younger kids growing up (baby of the family and just recently got neices and friends having kids) so I think it's all so foreign still.
Ha ha if we have a boy it WILL happen. Say it's short for Lincoln if anyone cares.
All jokes aside, we have both always known we wanted kids. H is 35, I am 31, we have been together 4 years. We are incredibly financially stable.
The only thing we were waiting for was the honeymoon (we leave Saturday!) because H didn't want to be on a plane with me to New Zealand all pregnant and stuff.
Have you guys seem this?
https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/couple-spends-50k-to-choose-babys-sex-shining-104416191847.html
Creepy. I think she has issues and I don't think people should be able to do it, personally. I just feel like this can't be healthy for the daughter if she wants to be a tom boy or never get married or other things that aren't stereotypical for a girl.
I wish someone had given me that book when I was 16!