Etiquette Confessions

Cookie Pusher · January 2015

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

KatieinBkln said:

MagicInk said:

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

Actually Emilypost.com has a whole section on how to dress for black tie optional. I'm not sure why people on the knot get their panties in such a twist about it but whatevs, my wedding is going to be rocking either way, I'm not stressing over it.

We get our panties in a twist because 9 times out of 10 brides that come on here and want to put BTO on their invitations are not in any way shape or form having an event anywhere near an actual black tie event. Like they aren't even meeting 1 or 2 criteria of a black tie event, but they just want everyone to dress up so their guests won't ruin their pictures.

And for the most part, it's a silly and redundant thing to say because anyone who knows what black tie really is- a class of event not a dress code- knows that a tux is always an option to wear to a formal wedding.

You're right and I apologize, I forget that a lot of people are ridiculous on here and just want a day to dress up.

for the record, our event is a black tie event. It has all of the criteria of a black tie event. The reason I want it to read black tie optional is not so people know they have the option of wearing a tux, it's so that they know they do NOT have to wear one.

I kind of want to buy a white tux...I plan to wear that when I crash your wedding.

HOW DARE YOU WEAR WHITE TO SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING ZOMG.

I'd totally be cool with you wearing a white tux when you crash my wedding. I'll meet you at the mac and cheese bar. Please have a glass of booze waiting for me

It better have lobster in it. . .

This is the menu for it:

ARTISANAL MAC & CHEESE BAR
a trio of creamy mac & cheese, made to order & served in individual tasting vessels
SMOKED CHICKEN ORGANIC CHEDDAR MAC & CHEESE
with scallions & caramelized shallots, topped with cornbread crumb crust
TOMATO FRESH RICOTTA MAC & CHEESE
with basil & arugula, topped with focaccia crumb crust
GARDEN GREEN VEGETABLE GOAT MAC & CHEESE
with truffle oil & lemon zest, topped with pumpernickel crumb crust
SERVED WITH HELP YOURSELF TOPPINGS & MIX INS
crispy bacon, cilantro pesto, tomato chutney, shallot jam, soft herb salad, cracked peppercorns

PARMESAN ALMOND GALETTES, SEEDED FLATBREADS & HERBED LAVASH CRISPS

There will be the raw bar with lobster ;-P

I volunteer to be an honorary bridesmaid. Or Basket. Whichever will get me closer to the mac & cheese bar.

plainjane0415 · January 2015

I don't think what we are doing is against etiquette, but we are having a small destination wedding. (12 of us including FI and I) And having a celebration of marriage party when we get back from the wedding, with no wedding elements. Just food, music, and fellowship. Ha! I know that a lot of people side eye this, but FI and I really feel like it's the best thing for us personally.

Since lurking on these boards I have made it my sole purpose to make sure that we are doing everything right etiquette wise for our celebration of marriage party. If I didn't look here, who knows what kind of etiquette faux pas I would have committed!

ETA: We are having a reception immediately following our wedding ceremony at a restaurant at the hotel we are getting married at. Just wanted to clarify further!

PrettyGirlLost · January 2015

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

KatieinBkln said:

MagicInk said:

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

Actually Emilypost.com has a whole section on how to dress for black tie optional. I'm not sure why people on the knot get their panties in such a twist about it but whatevs, my wedding is going to be rocking either way, I'm not stressing over it.

We get our panties in a twist because 9 times out of 10 brides that come on here and want to put BTO on their invitations are not in any way shape or form having an event anywhere near an actual black tie event. Like they aren't even meeting 1 or 2 criteria of a black tie event, but they just want everyone to dress up so their guests won't ruin their pictures.

And for the most part, it's a silly and redundant thing to say because anyone who knows what black tie really is- a class of event not a dress code- knows that a tux is always an option to wear to a formal wedding.

You're right and I apologize, I forget that a lot of people are ridiculous on here and just want a day to dress up.

for the record, our event is a black tie event. It has all of the criteria of a black tie event. The reason I want it to read black tie optional is not so people know they have the option of wearing a tux, it's so that they know they do NOT have to wear one.

I kind of want to buy a white tux...I plan to wear that when I crash your wedding.

HOW DARE YOU WEAR WHITE TO SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING ZOMG.

I'd totally be cool with you wearing a white tux when you crash my wedding. I'll meet you at the mac and cheese bar. Please have a glass of booze waiting for me

It better have lobster in it. . .

This is the menu for it:

ARTISANAL MAC & CHEESE BAR
a trio of creamy mac & cheese, made to order & served in individual tasting vessels
SMOKED CHICKEN ORGANIC CHEDDAR MAC & CHEESE
with scallions & caramelized shallots, topped with cornbread crumb crust
TOMATO FRESH RICOTTA MAC & CHEESE
with basil & arugula, topped with focaccia crumb crust
GARDEN GREEN VEGETABLE GOAT MAC & CHEESE
with truffle oil & lemon zest, topped with pumpernickel crumb crust
SERVED WITH HELP YOURSELF TOPPINGS & MIX INS
crispy bacon, cilantro pesto, tomato chutney, shallot jam, soft herb salad, cracked peppercorns

PARMESAN ALMOND GALETTES, SEEDED FLATBREADS & HERBED LAVASH CRISPS

There will be the raw bar with lobster ;-P

Not good enough! It needs to be in the mac and cheese!!!! :-P

VulgarGirl · January 2015

@laquredlover I'm not sure I know what a tasting vessel is (like a small bowl/plate?) but I totally want like a million of them now.

ShesSoCold · January 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

KatieinBkln said:

MagicInk said:

lacqueredlover said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lacqueredlover said:

Actually Emilypost.com has a whole section on how to dress for black tie optional. I'm not sure why people on the knot get their panties in such a twist about it but whatevs, my wedding is going to be rocking either way, I'm not stressing over it.

We get our panties in a twist because 9 times out of 10 brides that come on here and want to put BTO on their invitations are not in any way shape or form having an event anywhere near an actual black tie event. Like they aren't even meeting 1 or 2 criteria of a black tie event, but they just want everyone to dress up so their guests won't ruin their pictures.

And for the most part, it's a silly and redundant thing to say because anyone who knows what black tie really is- a class of event not a dress code- knows that a tux is always an option to wear to a formal wedding.

You're right and I apologize, I forget that a lot of people are ridiculous on here and just want a day to dress up.

for the record, our event is a black tie event. It has all of the criteria of a black tie event. The reason I want it to read black tie optional is not so people know they have the option of wearing a tux, it's so that they know they do NOT have to wear one.

I kind of want to buy a white tux...I plan to wear that when I crash your wedding.

HOW DARE YOU WEAR WHITE TO SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING ZOMG.

I'd totally be cool with you wearing a white tux when you crash my wedding. I'll meet you at the mac and cheese bar. Please have a glass of booze waiting for me

It better have lobster in it. . .

This is the menu for it:

ARTISANAL MAC & CHEESE BAR
a trio of creamy mac & cheese, made to order & served in individual tasting vessels
SMOKED CHICKEN ORGANIC CHEDDAR MAC & CHEESE
with scallions & caramelized shallots, topped with cornbread crumb crust
TOMATO FRESH RICOTTA MAC & CHEESE
with basil & arugula, topped with focaccia crumb crust
GARDEN GREEN VEGETABLE GOAT MAC & CHEESE
with truffle oil & lemon zest, topped with pumpernickel crumb crust
SERVED WITH HELP YOURSELF TOPPINGS & MIX INS
crispy bacon, cilantro pesto, tomato chutney, shallot jam, soft herb salad, cracked peppercorns

PARMESAN ALMOND GALETTES, SEEDED FLATBREADS & HERBED LAVASH CRISPS

There will be the raw bar with lobster ;-P

Not good enough! It needs to be in the mac and cheese!!!! :-P

It's good enough for me. Invite me instead.

classicalandedgy · January 2015

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

ShesSoCold · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

As long as there's enough for people to eat what would equate to a full meal, there's nothing wrong with cocktail style. I did that and people still talk about how much they loved it.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

Just to be clear, this thread was about admitting the things we did mistakenly, not bragging about what we put our loved ones through on purpose.

levioosa · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

I don't really care about everything else, but significant others are not "plus ones" and need to be invited.

classicalandedgy · January 2015

lolo883 said:

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

Just to be clear, this thread was about admitting the things we did mistakenly, not bragging about what we put our loved ones through on purpose.

As I am fully capable of reading, nowhere in the OP was there a "mistakenly" many people have posted about intentional etiquette violations. It's ok that you do not agree with them, I'm just putting them out there like many others have...

FutureMrsN3312 · January 2015

Mmmmmmmmm Now I want Mac & Cheese for dinner!!!

lacqueredlover 's wedding

I'll be your bitch for the day just to have some time at the mac and cheese bar.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

lolo883 said:

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

Just to be clear, this thread was about admitting the things we did mistakenly, not bragging about what we put our loved ones through on purpose.

As I am fully capable of reading, nowhere in the OP was there a "mistakenly" many people have posted about intentional etiquette violations. It's ok that you do not agree with them, I'm just putting them out there like many others have...

Well people generally don't feel the need to "confess" things that they're proud of, and this board is generally very concerned with etiquette and not offending their loved ones. But I did definitely get the message that you don't give a fuck about that.

sophhabobopha · January 2015

We're not having a seating chart. That's all I can think of, because I'm an etiquette goddess.

MegEn1 · January 2015

I'm planning on quietly B-listing FI's small work circle. We want to invite them but FMIL has a ton of people on her list taking up space that she 'swears won't come but have to have an invite because it's political.' So we're putting it to the test ... without telling her. Because if she knew we were B-listing she'd want to add another 100 people to the list for when the ones that HAVE to be invited but OBVIOUSLY won't come, don't.

It's only a few people all in the same circle, either all of them get it or none of them do.

loveislouder · January 2015

I have a B-list question: One of FMIL's co-workers asked to be B-listed. FMIL really wants her there, but there's no room at this time, so the co-worker said hey, invite me if there's space later. I don't really know what to say here because it's technically a b-list... but she's asking for it.

emanon321 · January 2015

The groom/groomsmen wore black tuxes to our morning ceremony. And they looked darn good too!

classicalandedgy · January 2015

lolo883 said:

classicalandedgy said:

lolo883 said:

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

Just to be clear, this thread was about admitting the things we did mistakenly, not bragging about what we put our loved ones through on purpose.

As I am fully capable of reading, nowhere in the OP was there a "mistakenly" many people have posted about intentional etiquette violations. It's ok that you do not agree with them, I'm just putting them out there like many others have...

Well people generally don't feel the need to "confess" things that they're proud of, and this board is generally very concerned with etiquette and not offending their loved ones. But I did definitely get the message that you don't give a fuck about that.

Well, aren't you very presumptuous about me offending my loved ones. As I indicated only close family and a small group of our best friends are invited, they are all very understanding and are perfectly ok with the situation. If any of my invited guests have an issue, they know me well enough to discuss it with me directly. The two guests that not having a plus one could potentially be uncomfortable are getting plus ones, I assure you all feelings have been taken into account.

This thread is a fun thread... Lets keep things in the spirit they were intended a fun place to talk about our etiquette "mistakes" choices whatever you want to call it. Much like the Pinterest thread.

What I don't give "fuck" about is what people who do not know me presume.

wrigleyville · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

What I don't give "fuck" about is what people who do not know me presume.

We aren't "presuming" anything. You said yourself that you aren't inviting someone's boyfriend/girlfriend unless they are engaged or living together. That's rude as fuck. You're basically saying their relationship doesn't count.

And yet single guests are getting a +1? That doesn't make any sense. You should give those invitations to the boyfriends/girlfriends of the guests who are invited.

When people say, "I understand," trust me - they don't. They're just being nice to your face because it would be rude to call it like it is. We, however, are not your friends, so we can give you an honest opinion.

We had a small wedding (43 guests) on a small budget, and we invited every single boyfriend/girlfriend, no matter if they were living together or how long they'd been together. We did that because we RESPECT people, and on a day that's all about love and commitment, the last thing you want to do is tell someone their loved one isn't good enough or doesn't count, simply because they aren't engaged or living together.

lurkergirl · January 2015

Oh yeah, cop an attitude with lolo. That will go over swimmingly. (Insert eye roll emoji here)

PrettyGirlLost · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

classicalandedgy said:

lolo883 said:

classicalandedgy said:

Oh boy, this one is a doozy! I have so much potential for being told I'm rude and have poor manners. But since I don't give a rats ass about that, I'll share all of my horrible faux pas'. I am having a cocktail reception at dinner time. (Don't worry my ceremony and reception time in total is 3.5-4 hours) everyone will be fed plenty of food through out the evening, butler service initially and tapas as the evening progresses along with a rather large dessert offering. I am getting married in a museum and want to encourage people to walk around and enjoy the museum, not sit at a dinner table. Not everyone is getting a plus one... If you are a close family member (close family is the only family invited) and understand I have limited space and budget and you are not engaged/living with someone, no plus one. Only guests who potentially will not know very many people there will get a plus one, (that equates two guests). I am not enclosing RSVP cards, instead I am asking guests to RSVP to my website. I think that concludes my horrific etiquette (and intentionally so) faux pas'.

Just to be clear, this thread was about admitting the things we did mistakenly, not bragging about what we put our loved ones through on purpose.

As I am fully capable of reading, nowhere in the OP was there a "mistakenly" many people have posted about intentional etiquette violations. It's ok that you do not agree with them, I'm just putting them out there like many others have...

Well people generally don't feel the need to "confess" things that they're proud of, and this board is generally very concerned with etiquette and not offending their loved ones. But I did definitely get the message that you don't give a fuck about that.
Well, aren't you very presumptuous about me offending my loved ones. As I indicated only close family and a small group of our best friends are invited, they are all very understanding and are perfectly ok with the situation. If any of my invited guests have an issue, they know me well enough to discuss it with me directly. The two guests that not having a plus one could potentially be uncomfortable are getting plus ones, I assure you all feelings have been taken into account. This thread is a fun thread... Lets keep things in the spirit they were intended a fun place to talk about our etiquette "mistakes" choices whatever you want to call it. Much like the Pinterest thread. What I don't give "fuck" about is what people who do not know me presume.

There's a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge difference between not assigning seating, putting BTO on an invitation, and wearing tuxes before 6pm and intentionally not inviting SO's because you can't budget properly or properly trim a guest list- especially when you are also giving truly single guests a Plus One.

That comes across as some real bullshit because the bolded is how you are going to be perceived.

I dated my husband for 11 years before we were engaged and we never lived together during that time. . . would you seriously not invite one of us to your wedding?

I'd be pissed as hell if your answer was no and I showed up to your wedding and your single friend was there with some rando Plus One she just met.

I agree with PPs, if you can't afford to invite people's SO's or you don't have the space, then you don't give the single guests Plus Ones.

ETA: Typos and more thoughts.

levioosa · January 2015

wrigleyville said:

classicalandedgy said:

What I don't give "fuck" about is what people who do not know me presume.

We aren't "presuming" anything. You said yourself that you aren't inviting someone's boyfriend/girlfriend unless they are engaged or living together. That's rude as fuck. You're basically saying their relationship doesn't count.

And yet single guests are getting a +1? That doesn't make any sense. You should give those invitations to the boyfriends/girlfriends of the guests who are invited.

When people say, "I understand," trust me - they don't. They're just being nice to your face because it would be rude to call it like it is. We, however, are not your friends, so we can give you an honest opinion.

We had a small wedding (43 guests) on a small budget, and we invited every single boyfriend/girlfriend, no matter if they were living together or how long they'd been together. We did that because we RESPECT people, and on a day that's all about love and commitment, the last thing you want to do is tell someone their loved one isn't good enough or doesn't count, simply because they aren't engaged or living together.

Yeah, giving plus ones to single guests over people who are in relationships makes ZERO sense to me.

classicalandedgy · January 2015

Ok let me clarify, almost all of my guests are married couples and thier families except for three. The two who will be getting plus one's, in the event they are in a realtionship, are friends and they will not know everyone there. The one family member who is often in and out of relationships, and is in an on again off again long distance relationship, she is not getting a plus one and all of our close family will be there with her. She and I certianly have the relationship where she could tell me it is offensive... We have been brutally honest with eachother all our lives. It has absoulutely nothing to do with not budgeting, as one more person will not make or break us. @prettylostgirl if you were a close friend or family member I would not dismiss an 11 year relationship, it is not the same situation.

wrigleyville · January 2015

classicalandedgy said:

Ok let me clarify, almost all of my guests are married couples and thier families except for three. The two who will be getting plus one's, in the event they are in a realtionship, are friends and they will not know everyone there. The one family member who is often in and out of relationships, and is in an on again off again long distance relationship, she is not getting a plus one and all of our close family will be there with her. She and I certianly have the relationship where she could tell me it is offensive... We have been brutally honest with eachother all our lives. It has absoulutely nothing to do with not budgeting, as one more person will not make or break us. @prettylostgirl if you were a close friend or family member I would not dismiss an 11 year relationship, it is not the same situation.

If one more person won't make or break your budget, then why not invite her boyfriend? It's up to her to decide if she wants to bring him, not you.

Having close family there doesn't matter. I go to a lot of family weddings, and I still enjoy having my husband with me. Just because I'll have people to talk to doesn't mean I don't miss him when he's not there.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

wrigleyville said:

classicalandedgy said:

Ok let me clarify, almost all of my guests are married couples and thier families except for three. The two who will be getting plus one's, in the event they are in a realtionship, are friends and they will not know everyone there. The one family member who is often in and out of relationships, and is in an on again off again long distance relationship, she is not getting a plus one and all of our close family will be there with her. She and I certianly have the relationship where she could tell me it is offensive... We have been brutally honest with eachother all our lives. It has absoulutely nothing to do with not budgeting, as one more person will not make or break us. @prettylostgirl if you were a close friend or family member I would not dismiss an 11 year relationship, it is not the same situation.

If one more person won't make or break your budget, then why not invite her boyfriend? It's up to her to decide if she wants to bring him, not you.

Having close family there doesn't matter. I go to a lot of family weddings, and I still enjoy having my husband with me. Just because I'll have people to talk to doesn't mean I don't miss him when he's not there.

Having close family there makes me want my H there even more. Those people are crazy. ;-)

ShesSoCold · January 2015

lolo883 said:

wrigleyville said:

classicalandedgy said:

Ok let me clarify, almost all of my guests are married couples and thier families except for three. The two who will be getting plus one's, in the event they are in a realtionship, are friends and they will not know everyone there. The one family member who is often in and out of relationships, and is in an on again off again long distance relationship, she is not getting a plus one and all of our close family will be there with her. She and I certianly have the relationship where she could tell me it is offensive... We have been brutally honest with eachother all our lives. It has absoulutely nothing to do with not budgeting, as one more person will not make or break us. @prettylostgirl if you were a close friend or family member I would not dismiss an 11 year relationship, it is not the same situation.

If one more person won't make or break your budget, then why not invite her boyfriend? It's up to her to decide if she wants to bring him, not you.

Having close family there doesn't matter. I go to a lot of family weddings, and I still enjoy having my husband with me. Just because I'll have people to talk to doesn't mean I don't miss him when he's not there.

Having close family there makes me want my H there even more. Those people are crazy. ;-)

I think shark week is really taking its toll on me. I read this as "Having close family there makes me want my H even more". I'm thinking, "wooooooah Lolo!!! Calm it down!"

classicalandedgy · January 2015

Ok now I'm lmao at your last response @lolo883... I can certainly see that point of view.

hellohkb · January 2015

ShesSoCold said:

lolo883 said:

hellohkb said:

lolo883 said:

hellohkb said:

I haven't had my wedding yet but I am considering possibly wearing black. Apparently that will cause people to assume we're actually at a funeral. At a hotel on a Saturday evening with a DJ and a cake.

One thing I did that's a bit rude was not respond to a friend's bridal shower invite- But I didn't respond because I was salty/thoroughly amused that they put the wrong name on my invite. Not even improper spelling- A completely different name. I should not have been salty about it at all, but whatever.

That's what I want my funeral to be like.
That would be awesome! I've definitely given some thought about my own funeral but I guess I'll be dead so I won't care too much. I hope my loved ones do something fun with the money they could spend on a classic funeral. Oh god, my response took a very odd turn. SORRY LOLO, CARRY ON.

It's cool; I'll make sure you're invited to my funeral.

You guys could start your own fun funeral planning company!

We totally could! Think of the Pinterest funeral possiblities! Young girls will start making Pinterest boards of their funerals dreaming of burlap lined coffins and chevron guest books with cutesy death poems.

....I have taken this entirely too far now for sure. I sincerely apologize *shifty eyes*

jellybeann · January 2015

We had two etiquette faux pas at our wedding, so I think we did pretty well. There was a tip jar at the bar. I didn't see it until there was only like an hour left in the reception and I was a bit peeved but by then it was too late. Then, one of H's friends was invited without her SO. I'd never met her so I didn't know her situation, but I had asked H to make sure everyone's SOs were invited. He didn't get an update from her and she came alone. I felt bad when I found out, like two days before the wedding and it was too late by then =(

slothiegal · January 2015

Sigh, OK here goes guys....don't de-mod me of the E board!

--We had my now SILs as flower girl escorts (I know, I know...). They walked down with FG and held calla lillies, which they passed out (as a surprise) to the moms and grandmas when they reached the end of the aisle.

--My ILs threw us an engagement party....and only invited people who weren't invited to the wedding (and yes, some of those people brought us gifts).

--But the absolute WORST was slothieguy. HE ALSO WORE A TUX BEFORE 5:00. (It was actually really cute...I just assumed he would want to wear some more casual since the guy lives in jeans and t-shirts, usually with holes in them. He was a little hurt and said, "I never dress up. I just know you're going to be SO beautiful. I want to be wearing a tux next to you, dammnit!")

ashley8918 · January 2015

slothiegal said:

Sigh, OK here goes guys....don't de-mod me of the E board!

--We had my now SILs as flower girl escorts (I know, I know...). They walked down with FG and held calla lillies, which they passed out (as a surprise) to the moms and grandmas when they reached the end of the aisle.

--My ILs threw us an engagement party....and only invited people who weren't invited to the wedding (and yes, some of those people brought us gifts).

--But the absolute WORST was slothieguy. HE ALSO WORE A TUX BEFORE 5:00. (It was actually really cute...I just assumed he would want to wear some more casual since the guy lives in jeans and t-shirts, usually with holes in them. He was a little hurt and said, "I never dress up. I just know you're going to be SO beautiful. I want to be wearing a tux next to you, dammnit!")

We could never! I mean, you are the proper channel.

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