FI's nephews are CRAZY. Two boys, I think 3 and 5, and they aren't just badly behaved, they are freakin' scary. They love to bite and hit you as hard as possible with whatever is in their hands. They will throw gum aiming for your hair and kick the dog and do all sorts of shitty things like that. Their home life is a little rough, but not horrible. Their parents don't believe in spanking, which I used to think would fix the problems but now I think some heavy medication is the only thing left for these kids.
A few years ago, everyone was so excited about these boys. I loved to watch them and see them and they were kind of misbehaved but I always chocked it up to being boys and close in age. They kinda feed off each other. Things have escalated to the point where I can't stand these kids. I try really hard to like them but I can't stand even playing with them for more than a few minutes. I won't babysit them, and I haven't for like 3 years. Not even for 15 minutes. Everyone in FI's family feels the same way except the grandparents and ONE aunt who puts up with it. The parents want you to just tell them off and put them in a time out. When you ask them not to do something, they will always stare at you while continuing to do it. They finally started spanking, and that doesn't work. Recently the parents/grandparents read this article about if your kid is biting you bite them back to show them that it hurts. They have been doing that and it doesn't work, but it is a little bit funny to see.
They have both been kicked out of several schools for biting or hitting or kicking. The parents don't understand how anyone could hate their precious little angel babies. Ugh.
These kids have made me question wanting to be a parent, because how can I hate a toddler so much? But anytime I try to give them a fruit, or like play with them there is a 80% chance they will actually try to hurt me. I don't need more bite marks, thanks. I like other kids, just not these specific ones. They suck all the joy out of being with them to the point where I would probably be happy not ever seeing them again. Like if they moved across the country, I wouldn't shed a tear.
FI and I and another of his sisters who is currently pregnant were talking about it, and we all feel bad for just not liking these kids. We don't feel like we are being evil or extreme, we feel bad because it's really not the boys fault. The parents have been told by a few teachers and doctors that the kids are far behind in development and need some extra help and structure.The 5 year old barely knows how to speak. OH NO these kids can't be anything less than perfect, they don't need any help ever! UGHGUGHGUGHGH
I just needed to vent. You know when they talk about someone who shot up a school or became a serial rapist? And they interview a distant aunt or grandmother? The relative always says something like "I knew something was off about them." Yeah, that's how I feel. I feel like these kids are going to grow up and murder 6 people for the pure joy of it. It scares me and I don't know how to help. I try to just keep loving them no matter what, but it's hard to fake love. Love comes so easy for me, and I never have trouble liking people. I rarely dislike anyone, much less hate someone who is still a child. Maybe hate is strong, but I just spent the weekend with them and I have a bruise and 2 bite marks and no discipline in sight. They found out there is a baby growing in the aunt's stomach, so they try really hard to hit her stomach. The only time I have to see these kids are at family functions, so hopefully I get a several month break.
I'm a bad person, oh well. I think I'll still be a good mom someday. Sorry for the grammar/spelling, I'm pretty upset and tired.