I'm getting married in July and my MOH has been wonderful. She is planning a great beach getaway for my bachelorette party and she is also throwing a shower. The problem is, one of my bridesmaids is being very difficult about participating in these events, which she knew ahead of time is required, I even sent a checklist soon after she agreed to be a bridesmaid because I know she can be a little flaky. Anyway, the hotel we booked for the bach party has been booked and now my MOH needs deposit money from the rest of the BMs. She is the only one saying she can't afford it! Which brings the cost up for everyone else. It sucks because I really want to have her there, but if she can't contribute like the other girls, then it's not fair for her to come along. I don't know what to do. I would feel awful asking her to step down, but it's really not fair to the other girls when they are pulling their weight. Also, she might not be able to come to the shower due to a work conference. Nothing I can do about that I guess. What should I do?!? Should I ask for her for more help with some DIY things so the responsibilities get spread a little more evenly? Thank you so much for any advise!