RSVP cards for everyone?

danaamariee88 · March 2015

Okay this may sound a little weird but.. should RSVP cards be included in invitations going to guests we know are definitely attending the reception? I mean like the bridal party, parents, grandparents, the key players. I know everyone gets an invitation regardless, but for these people should they get the RSVP card out of formality or is it okay to omit?

[Deleted User] · March 2015

Yes, everyone should get a RSVP. Are you offering different meal options? How will you know what people's dinner selections are if you don't have an RSVP?

MyNameIsNot · March 2015

danaamariee88 said:
But now I have another question.. I went to a wedding where you selected your entree with the RSVP, but then they had you order when you sat down anyway. Is it still necessary then? I swear figuring out these invitations is going to be the death of me LOL

Talk to your caterer. It's odd that a wedding had you order on the RSVP card but then again table side, but maybe the couple or the caterer didn't do a great job of tracking the orders, and they were unsure of who ordered what. Or maybe the caterer wasn't really prepared for table ordering and the couple wanted a soft count of entrees. (A little tacky IMHO, but it's possible.)

If your caterer is truly prepared for table-side ordering (meaning they don't need counts for entrees ahead of time), there should be no reason to ask on the RSVP. Think of it like going to a restaurant. If you make reservations to go somewhere on Saturday, you don't tell them what you're going to order when you book the rez. Because of the difference in catering and restaurant service, most caterers are not able to do this for a large number of guests, but some caterers are equipped for it.

LtPowers · March 2015

In that situation, the caterer asked for the number of each entree they needed to prepare, but the hosts did not keep track of who selected which entree. Whether the caterer told them it was unnecessary or if they just failed to do it, the result is the same.

danaamariee88 · March 2015

I had asked the manager at my venue about entree selection and she said I didn't need to include it because guests will order dinner when they're at the table. I know usually entree selection is put on the RSVP but in this case I don't necessarily have too.

manateehugger · March 2015

I hope your venue is accustomed to doing quick table-side service or that you have a very small wedding!

And yes, everyone should get a full invitation suite - the people you listed are honored guests even more so than other guests!

danaamariee88 · March 2015

But now I have another question.. I went to a wedding where you selected your entree with the RSVP, but then they had you order when you sat down anyway. Is it still necessary then? I swear figuring out these invitations is going to be the death of me LOL

danaamariee88 · March 2015

Ahh okay. That makes sense. Don't get me wrong I thought it was very strange having us order twice, I even remember saying that night to my now fiance "didn't we already do this, why are they taking our order now?" But the clears that up.

Yes, my venue did tell me some time ago there was no issue with ordering table side only. And because I want to make sure I get everything right going through this process lol when I replied I asked her to clarify that I didn't need entree selection on RSVP's and she said nope! So, that's what I'm sticking with.

Would it be a good idea to put on the RSVP "entree selection chosen table side"? Or just let everyone figure it out for themselves?

Thanks everyone !

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