An invitation snark...

lyndausvi · March 2015

I'm one that does side-eye labels on an envelope. It is a victimless crime. It just feels impersonal and business like to me. I certain do not lose sleep over it. I'm not offended either.

As far as the stamp. That would not bother me at all. RSVP cards are NOT required. If you are invited somewhere it's your responsibility to RSVP. Sure RSVP cards are more convenient, especially ones with a stamp. No one is required to send them back, only to RSVP in some way.

sophhabobopha · March 2015

novella1186 said:

Cookie Pusher said:
I really couldn't care less if people use labels on their invitations. However, if there was a whole bunch of other etiquette breaches, I'd probably just throw the label thing into the pile while snarking.
Yeah, I had the impression that the OP just threw in the thing about the labels because of how obnoxious and rude the other stuff was. Normally I could not care less about a label, but with all of the other things in the list, it would probably annoy me too. Just because, damn.

novella1186 said:

novella1186 said:
BOX?

novella1186 said:
this is where I'm at too.

larrygaga · March 2015

mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?

hellohkb · March 2015

I'd rather a label than the invite I received with an entirely different name. I'm Kelly and got an invite for Shelley Lastname. Wtf?

While labels don't bother me, the rest is definitely wtf-worthy. I feel like the couple just felt like they "had" to do StDs because the wedding industry tells them they must. So they just threw then in with the invites. Seems like a waste of time and money to me.

mlg78 · March 2015

larrygaga said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?

I think the talk about labels was ridiculous. It was just one of many things I mentioned... I was not "offended" by the labels but for some reason that was assumed? I wasn't offended by anything...until today when my husband and I were contacted by the groom's mother to ask us personally for frequent flier miles. And my apologies, I meant for the couple, not for the mother, to go on the honeymoon. She knew my mom saved all of my dad's frequent flier miles after he passed away so that my dad could give us a wedding gift and send us on our honeymoon despite him having passed away 15 years earlier. This groom's mother knew I had leftover miles and since nobody responded to her Facebook post, she asked me (along with other family members who have been called) for these. I'm incredibly insulted that she would ask me for the remaining balance because she knows the story about the gift.

I could care less about the labels. I've seen labels done nicely on wedding invitations but the type of label used, spacing and the way it was laid on the envelope jumped out at me. I don't give a damn, really...

ashley8918 · March 2015

holyguacamole79 · March 2015

larrygaga said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?

Mlg is an OMH. I've known her for a bit now. She's good people.

ashley8918 · March 2015

holyguacamole79 said:

larrygaga said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?
Mlg is an OMH. I've known her for a bit now. She's good people.

ShesSoCold · March 2015

mlg78 said:

larrygaga said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?
I think the talk about labels was ridiculous. It was just one of many things I mentioned... I was not "offended" by the labels but for some reason that was assumed? I wasn't offended by anything...until today when my husband and I were contacted by the groom's mother to ask us personally for frequent flier miles. And my apologies, I meant for the couple, not for the mother, to go on the honeymoon. She knew my mom saved all of my dad's frequent flier miles after he passed away so that my dad could give us a wedding gift and send us on our honeymoon despite him having passed away 15 years earlier. This groom's mother knew I had leftover miles and since nobody responded to her Facebook post, she asked me (along with other family members who have been called) for these. I'm incredibly insulted that she would ask me for the remaining balance because she knows the story about the gift.

I could care less about the labels. I've seen labels done nicely on wedding invitations but the type of label used, spacing and the way it was laid on the envelope jumped out at me. I don't give a damn, really...

Holy balls on this broad!!! How did you even respond?!?!

My cousin asked me for some of my mom's ashes this weekend. I just sat there and looked at him with my mouth agape, stunned.

sophhabobopha · March 2015

mlg78 said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?

I think the talk about labels was ridiculous. It was just one of many things I mentioned... I was not "offended" by the labels but for some reason that was assumed? I wasn't offended by anything...until today when my husband and I were contacted by the groom's mother to ask us personally for frequent flier miles. And my apologies, I meant for the couple, not for the mother, to go on the honeymoon. She knew my mom saved all of my dad's frequent flier miles after he passed away so that my dad could give us a wedding gift and send us on our honeymoon despite him having passed away 15 years earlier. This groom's mother knew I had leftover miles and since nobody responded to her Facebook post, she asked me (along with other family members who have been called) for these. I'm incredibly insulted that she would ask me for the remaining balance because she knows the story about the gift.

I could care less about the labels. I've seen labels done nicely on wedding invitations but the type of label used, spacing and the way it was laid on the envelope jumped out at me. I don't give a damn, really...

mlg78 · March 2015

ShesSoCold said:

mlg78 said:

larrygaga said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?
I think the talk about labels was ridiculous. It was just one of many things I mentioned... I was not "offended" by the labels but for some reason that was assumed? I wasn't offended by anything...until today when my husband and I were contacted by the groom's mother to ask us personally for frequent flier miles. And my apologies, I meant for the couple, not for the mother, to go on the honeymoon. She knew my mom saved all of my dad's frequent flier miles after he passed away so that my dad could give us a wedding gift and send us on our honeymoon despite him having passed away 15 years earlier. This groom's mother knew I had leftover miles and since nobody responded to her Facebook post, she asked me (along with other family members who have been called) for these. I'm incredibly insulted that she would ask me for the remaining balance because she knows the story about the gift.

I could care less about the labels. I've seen labels done nicely on wedding invitations but the type of label used, spacing and the way it was laid on the envelope jumped out at me. I don't give a damn, really...
Holy balls on this broad!!! How did you even respond?!?!

My cousin asked me for some of my mom's ashes this weekend. I just sat there and looked at him with my mouth agape, stunned.

I stopped responding to her...it was via Facebook messenger. I just couldn't even begin to deal with that shit. What a shame those miles are no longer available since we're using the remainder on our vacation this May. Drats!

Your mom's ashes... In your words, "holy balls"... That's awful.

hellohkb · March 2015

What the hell? How does this woman even know you have frequent flier miles left over?

chibiyui · March 2015

mlg78 said:
mlg78 I hope you didn't run away at everyone talking about labels! Because the rest of that is most def snark-worthy.

I really do wanna know if the grooms mother is going on the honeymoon? Is she asking for frequent flier miles for her or for her kids?

I think the talk about labels was ridiculous. It was just one of many things I mentioned... I was not "offended" by the labels but for some reason that was assumed? I wasn't offended by anything...until today when my husband and I were contacted by the groom's mother to ask us personally for frequent flier miles. And my apologies, I meant for the couple, not for the mother, to go on the honeymoon. She knew my mom saved all of my dad's frequent flier miles after he passed away so that my dad could give us a wedding gift and send us on our honeymoon despite him having passed away 15 years earlier. This groom's mother knew I had leftover miles and since nobody responded to her Facebook post, she asked me (along with other family members who have been called) for these. I'm incredibly insulted that she would ask me for the remaining balance because she knows the story about the gift.

I could care less about the labels. I've seen labels done nicely on wedding invitations but the type of label used, spacing and the way it was laid on the envelope jumped out at me. I don't give a damn, really...

themuffinman16 · March 2015

Yep, I got invited to an adult only reception, with a 4 hour gap... in the middle of nowhere, with the registry info included on the invitation. The bride and groom don't even have an officiant for their wedding, yet. During their gap, it is their hope that guests will want to partake in the festivities of colonial grounds in evening attire. Joy

The following week, we will have to travel 6 hours to another wedding... this one will have a seven hour gap. That's more than one hour of gap for every hour we have to travel. H is a groomsmen, so I will spend that entire day alone. Double Joy.

dcbride86 · March 2015

Holy hell, who is this woman?! I am so offended for you that she would ask for your miles - my jaw literally dropped at my desk when I read that. Dear god.

dcbride86 · March 2015

themuffinman16 said:
Yep, I got invited to an adult only reception, with a 4 hour gap... in the middle of nowhere, with the registry info included on the invitation. The bride and groom don't even have an officiant for their wedding, yet. During their gap, it is their hope that guests will want to partake in the festivities of colonial grounds in evening attire. Joy
The following week, we will have to travel 6 hours to another wedding... this one will have a seven hour gap. That's more than one hour of gap for every hour we have to travel. H is a groomsmen, so I will spend that entire day alone. Double Joy.

This is the ONLY way to partake in colonial festivities

mikenberger · March 2015

dcbride86 said:

themuffinman16 said:
Yep, I got invited to an adult only reception, with a 4 hour gap... in the middle of nowhere, with the registry info included on the invitation. The bride and groom don't even have an officiant for their wedding, yet. During their gap, it is their hope that guests will want to partake in the festivities of colonial grounds in evening attire. Joy
The following week, we will have to travel 6 hours to another wedding... this one will have a seven hour gap. That's more than one hour of gap for every hour we have to travel. H is a groomsmen, so I will spend that entire day alone. Double Joy.
This is the ONLY way to partake in colonial festivities

Churning butter in my cocktail dress? Where do I sign up?

And "churning butter gif" will render you this amazing glimpse into the middle management happy hour you weren't invited to.

dcbride86 · March 2015

mikenberger said:

dcbride86 said:

themuffinman16 said:
Yep, I got invited to an adult only reception, with a 4 hour gap... in the middle of nowhere, with the registry info included on the invitation. The bride and groom don't even have an officiant for their wedding, yet. During their gap, it is their hope that guests will want to partake in the festivities of colonial grounds in evening attire. Joy
The following week, we will have to travel 6 hours to another wedding... this one will have a seven hour gap. That's more than one hour of gap for every hour we have to travel. H is a groomsmen, so I will spend that entire day alone. Double Joy.
This is the ONLY way to partake in colonial festivities
Churning butter in my cocktail dress? Where do I sign up?

And "churning butter gif" will render you this amazing glimpse into the middle management happy hour you weren't invited to.

That gif is amazing. Is "churning butter" some dance move I'm unfamiliar with?

Also, I prefer to churn butter in a floorlength evening gown to a cocktail dress. It's just more fitting and classier.

sophhabobopha · March 2015

mikenberger said:

dcbride86 said:

themuffinman16 said:
Yep, I got invited to an adult only reception, with a 4 hour gap... in the middle of nowhere, with the registry info included on the invitation. The bride and groom don't even have an officiant for their wedding, yet. During their gap, it is their hope that guests will want to partake in the festivities of colonial grounds in evening attire. Joy
The following week, we will have to travel 6 hours to another wedding... this one will have a seven hour gap. That's more than one hour of gap for every hour we have to travel. H is a groomsmen, so I will spend that entire day alone. Double Joy.
This is the ONLY way to partake in colonial festivities
Churning butter in my cocktail dress? Where do I sign up?

And "churning butter gif" will render you this amazing glimpse into the middle management happy hour you weren't invited to.

The gif won't work for me

cmouhssine · March 2015

okay... showing my ignorance here. WTH is a gap???

novella1186 · March 2015

cmouhssine said:
okay... showing my ignorance here. WTH is a gap???

lol it's when there's a bunch of time in-between the ceremony and reception. Like if the ceremony ends at 2pm, and the reception doesn't start till 5pm, then that's a three-hour gap where the guests have nothing to do and just have to wait around.

southernbelle0915 · March 2015

cmouhssine said:
okay... showing my ignorance here. WTH is a gap???

For example:

Ceremony at 1pm, over at 1:30pm

Reception doesn't start until 6pm

That's a 4.5 hour gap.

kiwikiss56 · March 2015

We printed directly on the envelope and several people thought we had a calligrapher! They actually turned out super nice. I hand addressed all of our save the dates (printed). If anyone is looking for a great font free let me know.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2015

lolo883 said:

mlg78 said:

ashley8918 said:

mlg78 said:

larrygaga said:
I really don't understand why everyone hates return address stickers. I mean I throw the damn envelope away the second I open it! My address is really long, if my mom and sister didn't offer to write all my envelopes I would have used stickers. Sure it's not as fancy, but I grew up in a trailer so I know I'm not fooling anyone.

I think they misunderstood the purpose of a STD.

No, not RETURN address stickers...(well, they did have those...) but they used the same labels they used for the return address as they did to write our address.
So? I just dont really get the big deal. Did they spell your name right? Invite you by name? Did you receive the invitation? Great. Success!
It's against etiquette.
You're only the second person I've ever seen care about that though, and the first GBCKed last week.

It's a victimless crime.

Lol, who was this?

I'm with Lolo and the rest of the PPs on this. Using labels are not against etiquette- if we define etiquette as social guidelines to ensure the comfort of your guests. Using labels has zero impact on the comfort of your guests. Zero. Pretty much everyone throws out the fucking envelope within a second or so of opening the invitation. . . I just got a wedding invitation in the mail and I can't even tell you if they paid too much money for calligraphy, used a label, or printed directly on the envelope and I don't care enough about it to fish the fucker out of the garbage to look.

I used clear labels with a calligraphy font on my gold envelopes, and if anyone was clutching their pearls over it, well I was too busy getting married and hosting a baller party in a fucking mansion to notice or care. I'm sure they appreciated my open bar over the cost of hiring a calligrapher anyways.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2015

Dreamergirl8812 said:

julieanne912 said:
My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it. I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written. Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail. But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.
This. I wouldn't be offended or upset by an invite addressed with a label, but it does look lazy. And it didn't even occur to me to use labels on my wedding invites. I just didn't think about it. It wasn't a mass mailing, it was a wedding invite.

There are a lot of people with atrocious handwriting that can't hand write invitations because 1.) They'd look like shit and you would all think their lack of penmanship was lazy and 2.) They'd be illegible and thus could not be delivered by the post office.

I think assuming people who choose not to hand write invitations or pay out the wazoo for calligraphy are lazy is overly judgmental and silly, if not shallow.

huskypuppy14 · March 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

Dreamergirl8812 said:

julieanne912 said:
My MOH is trying to convince me to print the names on my envelopes instead of hand addressing. But, I just can't bring myself to do it. I feel like an invitation to a personal event should be hand written. Computer printing the address (especially on a label) makes it feel like it's business or junk mail. But, like someone else mentioned, I can't remember how any of the invitations I've received were addressed, so in the end it's probably not a big deal.
This. I wouldn't be offended or upset by an invite addressed with a label, but it does look lazy. And it didn't even occur to me to use labels on my wedding invites. I just didn't think about it. It wasn't a mass mailing, it was a wedding invite.
There are a lot of people with atrocious handwriting that can't hand write invitations because 1.) They'd look like shit and you would all think their lack of penmanship was lazy and 2.) They'd be illegible and thus could not be delivered by the post office.

I think assuming people who choose not to hand write invitations or pay out the wazoo for calligraphy are lazy is overly judgmental and silly, if not shallow.

Exactly. I printed directly on the envelopes. My handwriting is terrible, always has been. My husband's is worse. I tried, and it looked bad, so I said "Fuck it, I'm printing on the envelopes."

Many years ago, my old roommate received a wedding invitation that had a handwritten envelope. It was pretty bad handwriting, and she snarked hard about it. You can't win, so I'll go with looking nice and being deliverable, over handwritten. Sue me.

bizzy592 · March 2015

OK, so we've heard how you all feel about address labels. BUT. What about having stickers with the couples faces on them as envelope seals?

I haven't seen this yet, but keep hoping.

ShesSoCold · March 2015

lizabobiza said:
OK, so we've heard how you all feel about address labels. BUT. What about having stickers with the couples faces on them as envelope seals?

I haven't seen this yet, but keep hoping.

I've seen little stamps from etsy with the couple's faces. Not only is it way too cutesy for me, but WHO THE FUCK CARES?

julieanne912 · March 2015

lizabobiza said:
OK, so we've heard how you all feel about address labels. BUT. What about having stickers with the couples faces on them as envelope seals?

I haven't seen this yet, but keep hoping.

My MOH, who is a former wedding planner and usually very tasteful, tried to get me to get custom stamps made with our picture on them. Um, no.

theartistformerlyknownas · March 2015

lizabobiza said:
OK, so we've heard how you all feel about address labels. BUT. What about having stickers with the couples faces on them as envelope seals?

I haven't seen this yet, but keep hoping.

As long as it's not detracting from what's hosted for me, I don't give a fuck what people choose to spend their money on. So I'd never snark on something like that when I got the invitation, but if I got to the reception and saw a cash bar, you bet I'd be livid that they spend however much money on stickers but couldn't buy me a damn 7&7.

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