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Bridesmaid lost her dress
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HELP!!!
One of my bridesmaid just told me she lost her dress at the dry cleaning store and she couldnt find whoever took her dress, she didnt tell me immediately when this happened and she ordered another dress, it is on its way but the order says it will take 9-14 days to come. My wedding is next Saturday (22nd) and now I am freaking out what if the dress didnt come before she gets on her flight to here...
She said to me then she will just be a guest and not bridesmaid...I told her I planned to have three bridesmaid and three groomsman and I cannot let this happen....
what should I do......
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Re: Bridesmaid lost her dress
You and she are both doing everything you can. Can the shipment be rushed any? Is the dry cleaner trying to locate the original dress? If the dress doesn't come, you have two options. She can wear a different dress and still stand, or she doesn't stand. I know you're panicking and have "wedding brain" but I promise that your pictures will look fine either way. Dresses do not have to match and there is nothing wrong with uneven sides.
OP - take a breath! First, if the dress doesn't arrive, you run to the bridal store and see if they have something available off the rack. So she doesn't wear the Matchy-matchy dress, if she's important enough for you to ask to stand up in your wedding, she's important enough to not worry about what she's wearing (within reason obviously)... Ask her if she's got a "little black dress" formal that she could bring along instead if this is the case as another alternative. Your guests will laugh and you will too in time if that ends up being how it's all managed if you take the light-hearted approach that you're not going to let this one detail ruin your day. What you won't experience then is her missing out on honoring the friendship because of a non matchy-matchy dress. Something tells me, when your guests find out the story, they'll laugh as well.
You have two choices, you can either fret about it, or forget about it. You and she have already done everything you both can. IMO, it's NOT worth fretting about and wasting both of your energy over something that's out of your control!!!
The dress does not matter. The fact that you told her you "planned to have three bridesmaid and three groomsman and (you) cannot let this happen" is what is the issue.
Your relationship with her should be more important than what she is wearing.
We ordered my husband's and the groomsmen's suits online, and they were all shipped to their individual residences. They were fairly standard black suits, and the only distinguishing feature was the white vest for J, and the blue vests for his men. Well, the best man's shipment didn't arrive before he had to get on the plane to come to our wedding, so he brought along his own black suit and his own (black) vest. So we ended up with J in a white vest, his brother (best man) in a black vest, and the other two groomsmen in blue vests.
If anyone had thrown a hissy fit about BIL's vest not being the right one, they would have looked all kinds of crazy. Which is kind of where you're heading. If, for some reason, the dress doesn't show up in time - go find something off the rack. Don't ruin a friendship over the fact that she doesn't have the right dress.