So, I have 5 bridesmaids:
1 is pregnant - due in October
1 was considering moving to NY in Dec (I don't think she is currently)
1 already lives in NY
1 lives in FL
1 (my sister) is underage and in college.
I want to ask the first lady to be my MOH but I don't want to overwhelm her as a new mom.
Thoughts?? Do I have to have a MOH?
Re: Should I ask her to be MOH?
The following are the requirements of the MOH:
Show up to the wedding, on time, in the agree upon attire (of which you asked her budget for, individually, before picking). She might hold your bouquet or fix your train and/or sign your marriage license during the ceremony. It would also be nice if she could smile for pictures.
The following are NOT requirements of the MOH (or anyone in the bridal party):
Hosting or attending showers
Hosting or attending bach-parties
Attending bridesmaid lunches/events
Attending group dress outings
Giving a speech at the wedding
Helping with wedding planning
Helping with DIY projects
Helping setup/tear down at the wedding
Showing up before the wedding (it's nice if she can make the rehearsal but she'll probably be fine if she can't).
Just putting that there in case any of that is influencing your decision. This is why there's no issue with someone who lives far away or who is underage, being the MOH.
Pretty much everything on that list is optional and any bridal party members, friends, family, etc can do it or not do it.
Also, with kids, as PPs have said, you can't invite kids to the ceremony and not the reception. You can totally not invite kids at all and that's fine. But you can also make exceptions. If you just invite children of the wedding party to ceremony & reception that could be fine too. So you can definitely invite your friend's baby and still not need to invite a bunch of other kids.