Weird question I know, and I know it will get a lot of back lash.
What had happened is: My husband is in the military, we had a small civil ceremony. We're having a VCR (vow renewal ceremony). Doing it up big, now with our friends and families before we go to our next duty station. We are NOT treating it like our civil ceremony didn't happen, it did, I have the pictures to prove it.
But we're mexicans, so a civil ceremony is basically blasphemy and didn't happen in the eyes of the family. So we'll redo it. Bam! Problem solved. But as I am doing my research there are all these etiquettes and I fear I am doing to jack them all up. Because this VRC is going to be a wedding. Dress, attendants, flowers, cake, a hall, the whole shebang.
here's the long winded question: is it John and Jane Doe invite you or can it be Jane and John Doe invite you? or does it depend on the sound of the wording, like of our names strung together?
I know I took his last name, but I'm older than my husband and my name is before his alphabetically.