Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
Budget Weddings Forum
SarahTiestheKnot
member
Budget Advice
Hi everyone! After spending this past weekend visiting venues at the beach for our dream wedding, my fiance and I realized just how expensive that is. After crying for hours, I have decided to start from the beginning again and plan a wedding on a tight budget because we'd much rather spend that money on something else (new house, new car, etc.). I'm feeling motivated again, but would love to take any advice that anyone has to offer on planning a wedding on a budget.
I am a teacher and we would like to get married during the school year. Because of that, getting married on a Friday or a Sunday are out of the question due to the amount of time it would require me to take off of school. But anywhere else we can cut costs, I'll take advice on.
Thanks in advance!
I am a teacher and we would like to get married during the school year. Because of that, getting married on a Friday or a Sunday are out of the question due to the amount of time it would require me to take off of school. But anywhere else we can cut costs, I'll take advice on.
Thanks in advance!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Budget Advice
Start in this order... Budget... Guest Count (remember SO's, kids, +1 for your single friends in this count because you want it realistic, no "we think around" - plan for the unlikely event of 100% attendance!).. Ceremony (it makes a huge difference if you're having a church vs. JOP vs.???) ... Reception...
The other thing is, you need to think outside the box sometimes in order to have your dream event for your budget. Also, with outdoor weddings, rain happens, so you would still need to rent a backup plan so that's also something to think about. Another idea is to post on your local boards once you have your guest count for venue suggestions near/on the beach. Your local knotties may know hidden gems that you had never thought about!
My biggest piece of advice for any bride (and what anyone here would tell you), is to focus on hosting your guests well- nobody actually cares about colours, decor or centerpieces.
Start with your budget. Next comes guest list- you can make two lists, the first being "MUST invite", the second being "would like to invite". This isn't a B list, nor will you use it as such, but it can help you focus your efforts if you are finding the style of reception you would like does not accommodate both lists. You either focus on the "must" list, or change the style of your reception.
Once you have the above, then you can start envisioning how you see your wedding day. First comes the ceremony. The reception should flow from right after the ceremony, thus you book your ceremony first and plan your reception around that. A church ceremony is more likely to lock you into a specific time (though my non-secular venue only allowed us to start our ceremony at one particular time).
There are lots of options on how to have a lovely budget-friendly wedding.
- the biggest cost is your reception, thus more guests = more money
- late morning ceremony with brunch or lunch reception
- ceremony with cake and punch reception at a non meal time
- evening ceremony (after the dinner hour) with cocktail reception
ETA: DIY isn't always cheaper. Price things out. While there are many non-traditional venues that would save you money (such as community or cultural halls), if you are looking at a place where you need to bring everything in, sometimes going with a venue that regular holds weddings and has everything there might work out better.
If you want to have an outdoor ceremony, this is very doable. My sister had a wedding in a local city park shelter. It was at lunch time, and they served picnic food from the grocery store. She borrowed her dress from a friend. (Nobody knew or cared.) A niece played the flute. No dancing. It was a great wedding!
My own wedding was a small church ceremony with cake and punch in the fellowship hall.
There are many choices, but first you need a firm budget and guest list. THEN you can decide what kind of wedding you can afford.
1. Have a private ceremony, either in the courthouse, or some place romantic. No guests. No reception.
2. Have a traditional afternoon ceremony followed by a cake and punch style reception. The cake can be a sheet cake from Sam's Club. It doesn't have to be one of those expensive designer jobs. You need chairs for your guests and paper invitations. Wedding party is optional. Grocery stores do flowers, too.
3. Have a late morning ceremony followed by a brunch reception. My daughter had this in a country club, and it cost half of their dinner price. She used a prerecorded IPOD for dance music, so no DJ. Guests really liked the food!
4. Evening ceremony with dinner reception. Cross this off your list. It is the most expensive kind of wedding.
But definitely decide, as PPs suggest, what's really important to you and what's not. Don't want dancing? No DJ needed, just hook up an MP3 player and some speakers for ambient music. Couldn't be bothered with flowers? Skip them entirely or purchase some fake flowers for your bouquet.
Guests typically want good food appropriate for the time of day and refreshing beverages and seats for their butts. Take care of those comforts and you'll be fine.
If you give us some more info we can help more.
There are a lot of ways to save money. The big thing is to keep things simple. That doesn't mean they have to be boring.
I'm talking about skip the invites that have multiple pieces of paper and require a class on how to assemble them. Keep it simple & limit to a one page invite & RSVP card/envelope. A simple diy type invite that is 5x7 in size with the details is plenty. It will save you money on postage too. Because the reality of invites is that beside you and the parents, most people are throwing away your invites the day after your wedding. Also keep that in mind for your thank you cards. Yes, the custom ones with a photo of the bride & groom are cute, but usually the price is $1.00 per card. You can go to the dollar store & get thank you cards. People don't care what your thank you card looks like, they care that you sent them in a timely manner. As soon as they read the card, it's going into the trash. So why spend a lot of money that is just going into the trash. The looks of them will mean more to you then anyone else.
Limit the size of your bridal party on both sides, including ring bearer & flower girls. Remember for each bridal party member you have you need to get flowers (bouquet/bout), you need to invite them & their SO to the rehersal dinner if you are having one. Also for each bridal party member you have you need to get them a gift. And if you want to rent a vehicle, the more people you have the larger of a bus you will need which will drive up the cost of renting a limo. By keeping your bridal party small it will also reduce stress when it comes to planning things. Fewer conflicting personalities and input too.
Skip personalized favors, cute but you can get inexpensive edible favors and that's what guests want. You can rarely go wrong with doing something with Hershey kisses, M&M or just anything plain chocolate.
If FI has a nice suit, use that as his attire. If you want to dress it up you can always still rent just the vest & tie from a tux place & save a ton of money.
Other posters gave you ideas on how to save money on food. If you can spend some time on google, you can save money. You can have a fabulous classic wedding that isn't over the top in decorations. Spend the money on your attire, food, photography & DJ. What your guests will remember down the road is how good the food is or isn't and if you have a great DJ, they will remember how much fun the reception was dancing the night away. And spend money on a good photographer because these are once in a life time photos. It's not like a family portrait if they don't turn out well, you can hire another photographer & do it again a few months later.
A few ideas:
Join Wedding Buy/Sell/Trade Local Groups in your area on Facebook. Many brides will resell their wedding decor (candle holders, signs, vases, etc.) for very cheap after their wedding. This saves a ton of money as most brides just want to get rid of wedding items they no longer need.
DIY projects for decorations (Pinterest things you can easily make. Host a craft night with some friends and start creating away)
Make a list of things you REALLY must have. For us, it was to have a videographer. As we started researching this, we realized there was no way we could afford one. We then found a company called WeddingMix. They have very affordable packages that start at about $100. This is saving us a TON of money and is allowing us to not only capture our wedding day on video, but use the money we've saved for other important things we want/need for our wedding. If a videographer is something that is important to you, definitely look into WeddingMix!!
Good luck!
If I am going to "craft night", in addition to eating and drinking, I assume I'm making a craft for myself... Ok, if it was my BFF I would help her, with SOME things, but we better be drinking allll the wine and watching some awesome TV/movies.
My FI wanted a beach wedding originally but also wanted a very small budget so we looked at that option, and unfortunately the only place that allowed it was just too far of a drive for everyone.
1. Consider having the wedding on a Friday or Sunday! Often these days can be much cheaper than a Saturday. Ours is on a Sunday, and we saved a lot!
2. Consider creating DIY decorations! For example, I am forgoing the very expensive tradition of flowers and making paper pinwheels instead! This has saved us hundreds of dollars so far!
3. Consider WeddingMix to provide videography services! Everyone wants to have a video to relive the memories of the big day for years to come, but who you choose can have a big impact on cost. Thankfully, we found WeddingMix! They provide videography service through an app that your wedding guests can download on their phones and upload videos and pictures throughout the event! Not only can this be done for the day itself, but WeddingMix also allows you to post videos from things before and after the big day, like the bachelor/bachelorette party, the rehearsal dinner, the honeymoon, etc. With a traditional videography service, this kind of coverage would cost an obscene amount of money, but with WeddingMix, packages start at just $99! This is saving us lots of money that we can spend on more important things like our honeymoon! I highly recommend it.