So my fiance has a group of guy friends that he has been close with since high school and before. He automatically knew who he wanted to have as his best man and three of his groomsmen.
The problem is that he has three other friends that he wants to include in some way or another. Two of the friends we figured out easily what roles would suit them (one will play guitar for our ceremony and the other will be our MC along with the DJ). However the third friend doesn't seem to fit anywhere...
I am okay with him being a groomsman and having uneven sides, but my fiance is not sure if they are *that* close. Plus this friend is unemployed and discussing possibly leaving the province for work in the next year or so, so we are afraid of him flaking out. He is a very quiet guy so having him doing a speech/ reading won't work, and we aren't religious so there will be no prayers or blessings for him to read. Other groomsmen are assuming he's included somehow (which we need to nip in the bud) and talking to him about the wedding, so we want to ask him to do something before he makes any assumptions himself...
I am 100% against asking him to be a guestbook attendant or something ridiculous where he pretty much has to work at our wedding, but we're having a hard time thinking of another role!! One role that I've seen in my searches is ring warmers, does anyone have any experiences with this? Like an adult ring bearer almost!
We don't feel obligated to include him per se, my fiance just wants to at least ask him to do something and then if he is not comfortable based on potentially leaving the province or affordability he can absolutely decline with no hard feelings from us...
Sorry for the super long post... Anyway, any suggestions would be appreciated!!