My mom went and sent up a meeting with our officiant without me or my fi. After I asked her countless times not too. My dad and FMIL will also be there and they are doing it at a time when I am at work and cannot be there. I might be ok with it, but my mother keeps trying to work religious themes into our ceremony which neither I or my fi want or care for. She wasn't even going to tell me, but it slipped out in conversation yesterday. I really feel she overstepped and am really upset with her, this is not the the first time she has gone ahead and made wedding ideas and plans without me, so I feel like I am going to snap on her if I try to say anything about how much this bothers me.